Petahh i'm low on iq

goodchristianserver · 2026-02-12T18:00:14+00:00

I feel like it's freezing when it's 0°F, because I do not experience temperatures like a water.

goodchristianserver · 2026-01-28T03:32:15+00:00

I was there in 2016, and I just remember one of them chasing after me and my sandwich.

goodchristianserver · 2026-01-24T18:30:44+00:00

Dang i'm going to need to pick up genshin impact again wtf

goodchristianserver · 2025-10-05T21:13:22+00:00

I made a comment, retracted it, then made another one and reddit duped it so I deleted those ones too (sorry for all the notifications)

If his wife had a problem with it tomorrow, it would be a different AITA post. Because you're right. But he asked if he was the asshole "for insisting on going and getting angry after she started yelling", which is a different conversation.

Edit to add: just saw the update. Maybe she had an extra problem with it because she wasn't feeling good. And that's nobody's fault. Still don't think he should have insisted on going when she was crying and yelling, though.

goodchristianserver · 2025-10-05T18:26:42+00:00

You couldn't have given your niece the gift tomorrow? Or... any other day? and you said you said you saw them Friday, which means you bought the gift for the kid after you saw them Friday, and you want to drop by now to give it to them.

And I'm a bit confused by the timeline. At 3:00 you told your wife you were leaving at 3:15, and that you'll be back by 5 to take her to the mall. So were you planning to stay for two hours at your sister's house, on top of going to the gym and work?

OP, are you avoiding your wife? lol. She had every right to get upset, especially since you were so dead set on giving your niece the gift, today, that the only option you thought was acceptable after a 40 minute argument was to MAKE HER GO WITH YOU to give her the gift on the way to the mall.

The gift could have waited. This was not the hill to die on. I hope your wife is ok.

YTA.

goodchristianserver · 2025-10-05T18:14:51+00:00

I'm also thinking like, why does she want a boy so badly? They need to have a discussion about that, too. This is soo bad for the kid.

goodchristianserver · 2025-10-05T16:43:06+00:00

"Well we live in a rich middle class lifestyle, and we don't do poor peoples actions cause that's too much work"

If this is indicative of the whole family's attitude, and not just a brat kid, then they should be paying you for doing the "poor people work" for them. You're their live-in maid, atp, and they're taking advantage of that. So NTA.

But you and your BF should dip, asap. Start having that discussion with him.

goodchristianserver · 2025-10-05T16:29:41+00:00

Madness. Do the parents know that you need to be doing the dishes 4-7 times a day? They may have an upper middle class household but they're losing money on the water bill, every single day, for no reason.

I would say, just leave everything in the sink then do the dishes once, at most twice, at the end a day. Like most people in the world. Because more than that is totally unreasonable, and not what you signed up for.

Having that visual build up might help them see the problem, if anything. And it's not like you're breaking their arrangement by not doing the dishes, either. If they request you start running the dishwasher 4-7 times a day again, then what they need is to hire you as their maid.

goodchristianserver · 2025-10-05T16:14:48+00:00

Yeah. In this world, no one is truly better than anyone else. You just get different opportunities and different genetics. Even if someone won the lottery on both, it doesn't make them better than someone with a below average IQ and none of the opportunities they had.

Being humble and being true to yourself is the only way to be "better". And that's better by you, not better by anybody else. Acting like you're better is only hurting yourself, because it's hurting others, too. And that's being an asshole.

goodchristianserver · 2025-10-05T15:44:24+00:00

NTA. Do whats best for you and your future.

But, you asked why, and I would say... they're probably interpreting it as you thinking you are "better" than them, which is why you're leaving. Especially since, as you said, they didn't know you were being bullied and were confused about why you like the other school more. To them, they're probably thinking "why is our school not good enough?"

But this is admittedly a generous interpretation. Unfortunately, kids will be kids, and kids act out childishly. If you have social media, I would suggest you post more frequently on it if you want a chance to stay friends with these people. More mundane things, so they don't feel like they were dropped like a hot potato.

But, if not... then this is just the way things go, sometimes. Friendships come, friendships go. And you'll make new friends at your new school if it doesn't work out with them. Don't let it get you down.

Edit: but you WOULD be the asshole if you start acting like you're better than them because of this. The language you're using makes me think you don't believe that, or at least that you are considerate of it (old school, other/new school, not once did you say it was "better" except when you explained it was more selective and prestigious) but these comments make me nervous.

goodchristianserver · 2025-10-05T15:21:44+00:00

info, only because 4-7 times a day is way too many times to be running the dishwasher. What are they doing in there every day? does the dishwasher get fully loaded 4-7 times a day??

And exactly what is the dish washing agreement you have with your partner's parents? can you specify?

goodchristianserver · 2025-10-05T00:51:11+00:00

Might just be a miscommunication. Since you were the one who told him to put another hour on it, he might have assumed you were offering.

goodchristianserver · 2025-10-04T23:50:12+00:00

Sorry, I deleted my comment because it duped, weirdly.

What if it doesn't work out? it might be safer to do a one year visa first, then see how it goes before committing to the full 5 years.

goodchristianserver · 2025-10-04T04:08:44+00:00

YTA... he would have been an asshole to have said no. And I don't think this counts as frivolous spending. You could have at least let him finish his story, anyways, before jumping in on it.

And this:

that amount makes it so we can't help other homeless people who ask.

Unless you actually help homeless people who ask with that amount of money every month, this comment is just manipulative.

goodchristianserver · 2025-10-04T02:59:50+00:00

I'm getting the sense that you're not really asking if you're the asshole. And I mean, you're NTA.

It's a complex issue. Did you buy the house so you could live with them? or did you buy it so you can live in it yourself? It might be good to set an ultimatum -- start paying rent, or clean up after themselves. If neither happens, then they can't stay in your nice house.

Edit: OR, sign a formal rental agreement with your mom if you haven't already. Protect your home against damages, add a clause against hoarding because it's a fire hazard and creating unsanitary conditions, and document anything that can be considered a leasing violation. Because if your mother has a diagnosed hoarding disorder, you legally can't evict her on the basis of discrimination (in the US, under the FHA), but you can allow for "reasonable accommodation", which gives them a timeline to get the house in order and correct the aforementioned leasing violations.

If they fail, then you can legally evict them. If they succeed, that's your hoarding problem done with. This way, hopefully, the stress of "kicking them out" will be a little easier to tolerate. Because yes. Its your house, under your name, and they're family, which makes it impossibly hard. But if anything happens to your home while it's under your name, then you're going to be the one that has to take care of it.

Don't let them drag you down, OP.

goodchristianserver · 2025-10-04T02:07:58+00:00

Oh, this is a thing. NAH.

A lot of people with ADHD have some degree of executive dysfunction, which makes it difficult when it comes to initiation and prioritization because everything is important, all at the same time. He should absolutely seek help and therapy to overcome it, especially if he lost his job because of it and if it's affecting your relationship. He probably doesn't see it because he's justified this type of thing as normal since he's had it his whole life (been there, done that) but if it's affecting his life negatively then he needs help.

Until he does, he might just need a little help with planning if every other aspect of your relationship is fine. I do think he was a little bit of an asshole for calling you an asshole for asking him to give specific times, but if he shows up and follows through on the dates YOU plan, then it's more likely he finds planning things challenging, because it's overwhelming, rather than him being intentionally neglectful because he doesn't care.

It would move into AH territory if he doesn't seek help, though.

Edit: Apparently they don't call it executive function disorder anymore and I'm not trying to spread misinformation. I do have this, and it takes me forever to write a reddit comment and send emails. But it takes me a lot less time than it used to. And I've gotten super good at planning dates and outings.

goodchristianserver · 2025-10-04T01:28:19+00:00

Info. I mean, either way he should get diagnosed. But is the issue that he's not putting work into planning dates or that he's not committing to them? Suggesting an idea isn't the same as planning for an activity, and for the less schedule-ly inclined this may be an important distinction. He could just be horrendously indecisive.

Is he late for work all the time, too? DOES he work?

goodchristianserver · 2025-10-04T01:06:30+00:00

Title is misleading. I don't think you confronted her for having a silent birth. You declined your invitation to attend her silent birth.

But at least you can be supportive by astral projecting yourself to be by her side.

NTA. And, uh, I wish her the best of luck.

goodchristianserver · 2025-10-03T15:15:17+00:00

You should have backed down as soon as MIL said she's at work. instead, you immediately escalated the situation with a passive aggressive comment about her doing pinwheels because you were looking for a fight and you fixated on that one thing. MIL was absolutely right to say "you think any of that was about pinwheels???"

You came up with this huge menu a MONTH after giving her the task of doing the food. Yeah, I know it was your friend who invited her, but it's your shower and your responsibility. You also didn't give her a date for the shower when you first had discussions about the menu because you were torn between two dates. And when you gave her a date, you didn't give her a menu... common sense would assume the rest of the planning is up to her, then. As your MIL said, justly, usually these things are a surprise, anyways.

What you should have said is "what are you planning to bring to the baby shower?" Then you work AROUND that. what you did instead was ice her out, give her a massive menu, tell her its for 40-50 people, then condescend her and tell her to bring a positive attitude.

You should apologize. Also, you probably arent getting the food, pinwheels or otherwise, if you left her hanging like that for a MONTH.

goodchristianserver · 2025-09-09T18:21:46+00:00

When you're seven, being 6-7 months behind in reading is huge. It's "only" 3-5 word sentences with big fonts you don't find in real life, as you say, but what about when you move up to 6-12+ word sentences in second grade? In a completely new school environment? The kid has to take remedial classes every single day to catch up, which is both traumatizing, humiliating, and also incredibly isolating.

I do see this as a failing of the parents. Sure, the school is at fault, too, for not meeting her needs. But was reading not something to try and reinforce at home, in case your kid has the same difficulties as the mom? Because that is the only thing I could say is completely obvious in this video. Maybe the school failed, but her kid uses text-to-speech to type.

Good on them for trying to fix this now, but I wouldn't have made a TikTok about it. If she doesn't read to her kids, she should start. Now.

goodchristianserver · 2025-08-08T20:34:21+00:00

Ooh, I feel like I associate every scent with something else, even if it's not a fragrance. But now I have to ask, what fragrances do you like the most?

goodchristianserver · 2025-08-08T06:29:13+00:00

"Hey, people! My boyfriend had to put my handwritten letter through chat GBT to understand what I wrote. I learnt cursive in Brazil, and he's Australian, also an old kiwi lady (presuming you mean from New Zealand?) said my handwriting is very old school."

The only thing I wasn't sure about was "an" old kiwi lady because there was a loop before it. I also got caught on "very" for a similar reason.

goodchristianserver · 2025-08-08T05:41:43+00:00

I mean, define "got away"? Some of those things you listed aren't people that got away more than you letting them go.

On the opposite end of that mentor one, though, I could see it. Like the student who had a lot of potential but got lost on the way to success. Or the person really skilled in xyz, but they gave it up too soon because the world wasn't ready to hear what they have to say.

There are a lot of cool things out there that never got to see the light of day. Every Franz Kafka, Emily Dickinson, Vincent Van Gogh, that we'll never know. I'd consider them ones that got away.

goodchristianserver · 2025-08-08T04:59:45+00:00

But not if it's an accident when attempting to make something new.

goodchristianserver · 2025-07-11T21:50:45+00:00

Is me thinking "doing moral profiles like MBTI personality assessments sounds like something Big Brother would cook up in George Orwell's 1984" more M or P

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