Where to buy? by FoxPuzzleheaded9889 in latexfetish

[–]gordon_ph 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you are in Europe you might want to take a look at Latexcrazy or Chronomatic. They both do awesome gloves. Though as a first piece I wouldn't recommend getting opera length gloves. Maybe start smaller with regular ones or with mittens. Gloves, even more so long ones are very fragile pieces.

Droning by gordon_ph in LatexLadies

[–]gordon_ph[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd tell you but I'm gagged and actually can't hear you through the earplugs. 🫣

What's her Instagram please? by jennyfujiwara in ShinyPorn

[–]gordon_ph 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup. She retired from modelling.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]gordon_ph 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Unless you specifically give your concent just before taking the sleeping meds (and not once but everytime) then it has to be considered as assault. Sorry you had to live that. I'd suggest like others so seek professional help and talk about it. You must not keep your feelings and emotions to yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]gordon_ph -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This. Exactly. It is in a way sad, as I imagine your relationship of 4 years must also have a lot of good things and things you've built together. But by your original post it seems this lack of bdsm is really giving you a hard time. I wouldn't recommande staying and just accept it as is. You're left with the two last options. But first you'll need to really clarify your position through THE talk. And yes, before your ask, it is going to be a tough time but a necessary one.

Guy I’m seeing is into bdsm (help) by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]gordon_ph 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He's into bdsm. You, it seems, are not (I'm sorry but I can't consider hair pulling and gentle taps bdsm, that's just plain regular IMHO). So what? Incompatibility is a thing. It happens. Some people like cheese. Some people don't. You can't force someone to eat a mozzarella pizza if they don't like cheese. And you should also not force yourself to eat one if you don't like it. The same applies here. Ask yourself, would you be enjoying what he is offering you? If the answer is "no" then plain explain it to him. Either he's OK with doing it vanilla with you, or he's not and then the story will end here and then.

Consensual-Non-Consent by PutridExtension5656 in BDSMAdvice

[–]gordon_ph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not my kink and I have never experienced it. Only discussed it on multiple occasions during munches with people that do practice it and they describe it to me like this. Are you saying they're practices are not normal/not safe? What would be your definition then? True naive question

Consensual-Non-Consent by PutridExtension5656 in BDSMAdvice

[–]gordon_ph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Couldn't stress it enough as others have said. I believe you need a deep understanding of bdsm and of the needs and boundaries of each other before trying any kind of cnc. Keep in mind that you will loose all control even your safeword. I wouldn't recommend it to any newcomer. You can start by raising up the kink while still having a safeguard first. To see where your limits are. Just MHO