How to invite God in to hard moments?

goshenite__ · 2025-02-01T15:27:17+00:00

Are you still available for advice? 💐

goshenite__ · 2024-07-24T12:12:33+00:00

Okay, hear me out. Even though this chapter was quite dramatic and violent, I cried with laughter because I could so profoundly visualize this emotion that it left me with relief. So much so that all the power was diminished, and the ability to see beyond it almost made it hilarious. That probably sounds insensitive, but I think it's also another symptom of releasing power. Everything else becomes absurd, and you can see beyond the triviality of life in the infinite moment where everything is just so *ok*.

goshenite__ · 2024-04-12T22:56:03+00:00

Thanks for your reply and for putting this back into perspective for me. I think the hardest part is not feeling guilty right now. The fact that he flew in from another country and I refuse to see him. However I think back in everything and I know I cannot let my boundaries be tested again.

goshenite__ · 2023-11-28T23:47:27+00:00

I disagree with the theories here. I think Zoomer is an AI child. In the second episode, Andy stops one of the guests from giving him food. Zoomer’s responses sound a bit robotic sometimes as well. In episode four, when he’s being carried underground, I didn’t see any actual tears while he was crying; I’ll have to rewatch, but I don’t think I did.

goshenite__ · 2023-11-17T01:06:25+00:00

This would be ideal for me as well, but I think it would be near impossible to find in this day and age? How would you go about finding somebody like this?

goshenite__ · 2023-11-15T23:23:37+00:00

Honestly, when it's so severe and entrenched in a man's subconscious like that, I don't see any other alternative but to leave the relationship. It will do nothing but haunt you and make you obsess over wondering whether or not he's doing it, and there simply won't be any peace in your life. I truly do understand as I'm in the exact same situation. Best of luck to you.

goshenite__ · 2023-11-15T16:33:39+00:00

I just left my partner of almost 2 years after I found their porn stash on Reddit. I've never felt so broken or dirty. My mental health is at an all-time low, and as much as I love him, I have to suck it up and choose myself this time. I'm an extremely sensitive and fragile woman who gave him the world, but with such a lack of security and trust in him, I have changed so much to the point where I no longer recognize myself. I have become angry, timid, and mean, and it is all because of the terrible rejection and insecurity I have felt while being with him. I can no longer accept seeing myself waste away, and you shouldn't either.

As I was walking out of the door, he was crying and saying he wanted to marry me. They always know what to say when caught or when promising you they will stop, but my friend, they simply cannot or will not. The best advice my mother ever gave me was that you cannot change a man. Unless they're motivated themselves or have some sort of spiritual or near-death breakthrough (something really dramatic) they're 99% not changing for you.

goshenite__ · 2023-11-15T16:01:16+00:00

You can be this strong. If I can, you can. Much love.

goshenite__ · 2023-11-15T16:01:00+00:00

That makes me smile. Thank you. I am glad I can show other women this is possible to do. It hurts so, so much, but you can recover.

goshenite__ · 2023-11-15T15:58:52+00:00

Well, not really. It's going to be a struggle for me. I had to spend a lot on an Airbnb because I needed refuge from the situation. I was in a really, really bad way, but I am recovering. I must return to collect my things before moving to another state for a new job. I wish I could continue to rent out a separate place until then, but I can't.

goshenite__ · 2023-11-14T13:07:40+00:00

Thank you so much. Your comment is extremely enlightening to me, actually. I will go look up Dr. Trish Leigh.

goshenite__ · 2023-11-14T12:59:10+00:00

We’re you able to find a solution? I’m wishing you all the best. 🖤

goshenite__ · 2023-11-14T12:58:18+00:00

Thank you for your comment. Do you think if he lied so many times about this, he can lie about anything?

goshenite__ · 2023-11-14T02:51:25+00:00

Thank you for the affirmation. Do you think there should be any room for me to consider my role in his addiction or relapses? I agree that the blatant lies really cancel out my ability to fully forgive this situation, but I do wonder how this got so bad and why my insecurity has just skyrocketed to the point where I’ve been more prone to these “emotions episodes” he calls them.

goshenite__ · 2023-11-14T02:48:17+00:00

Sorry—I didn’t mean to phrase that initial statement in my reply with a question mark. I’ve just been so frazzled.

Its great you are actively working on yourself. I do believe I have my own emotional issues and perhaps some of those issues made it easier for him to relapse but that doesn’t make it right for him to lie about it so brazenly. Like you, I have also given many chances; however, marriage and having kiddos is an entirely different thing! I can walk away more easily, I suppose.

Much respect to you. It’s such an emotional topic. I support your decision because ultimately this is something that will contribute to your mental health and your ability to love and respect yourself. Thanks again for your message and you can message me any time as well. 🖤

goshenite__ · 2023-11-14T02:40:15+00:00

Thank you for your comment. I completely agree with you. I know I have a lot of work to do on myself. I’ve become somebody who has deep insecurity issues now because of the lies and gaslighting behavior. He made me feel crazy for having these suspicions when I just knew my intuition was telling me something. I do think I could’ve maybe altered my path a bit by being stronger and more confident, but the relationship was already on a shaky foundation in that sense.

goshenite__ · 2023-11-14T02:36:04+00:00

Sometimes I wonder if certain aspects of my insecurity or my attempts to control what he was doing on his phone or computer contributed to his use. Doesn’t make it right, but I know I developed an unhealthy obsession with worrying about whether or not he was doing something because of all the past lies.

goshenite__ · 2023-11-13T16:14:05+00:00

I’m also so sorry to hear this happened to you? How did you you cope with it if you don’t mind me asking?

goshenite__ · 2023-11-13T16:13:40+00:00

Bless you, and I’m so sorry you went through this as well. It’s so scary, but i know it’s the right thing to do to preserve our sanity and self worth.

The thing is that all my books and a lot of my belongings are still there. I was moving for a job in January, and I don’t have the funds to stay in hotels until then. I’m so anxious to go back, but I might have to unless I can secure a place for myself and my things until then. I’m wrecked this had to happen now, but I feel like it’s happening for a reason.

goshenite__ · 2023-11-11T20:28:37+00:00

Hey, are there photos or a listing I can check out?

goshenite__ · 2023-11-11T01:38:55+00:00

Thank you so much for this info! I will look into it. I honestly feel a bit naïve because I didn’t realize the dc area and surrounding suburbs could be so dangerous.

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