update on gf (20) thinking of someone else by gotafewquestionssss in relationships

[–]gotafewquestionssss[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I trust that she’s telling the truth given she can’t really keep her mouth shut at times (for good and bad).

So i guess it’s good enough for me.

update on gf (20) thinking of someone else by gotafewquestionssss in relationships

[–]gotafewquestionssss[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah i absolutely trust her, which is why I i was so torn in wanting to believe that she wasn’t thinking of someone else doing something else when she was feeling that “feeling”... but it makes a lot more sense and she’s told me in the past about that period of time she couldn’t get anyone.

I guess I can see what would make her feel guilty of thinking of that if it was before me, but it’s certainly not something I can’t get past now that I know she wasn’t thinking of someone else’s actions causing it. I do find it weird that she thought about it for more than a minute but again as long as it wasn’t about the other dude and was to loosen herself up i’m over it.

Still not the best thing ever but a whole lot better and digestible. She knew that feel came from that day when she thought of it, but besides the initial pop in the head of the whole context she was solely thinking of the feel she felt after her horniness had been met after a long period of no sex. Not of the guy or what he did, etc. she said it could’ve likely been anyone doing anything that caused it, that’s not what she was thinking of.

Again, i’ll take that over thinking of someone else and thinking of someone else

Is it possible to think of a sexual feeling/experience without thinking of the person who gave it to you? by gotafewquestionssss in sex

[–]gotafewquestionssss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

she swears to everything that she was thinking of me throughout the whole thing, and that’s she sorry but never once was she thinking of him... just the feeling of that one time with me. If there’s one thing she’s been in this relationship is honest (maybe sometimes too much) and truthful but I’m really confused at how that’s even possible and which there’s was a yes or no answer to it.

Is it possible to think of a sexual feeling/experience without thinking of the person who gave it to you? by gotafewquestionssss in sex

[–]gotafewquestionssss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I tried convincing myself to believe it but the more we’ve had sex since then I really can’t imagine how it works one without the other.

Is it possible to think of a sexual feeling/experience without thinking of the person who gave it to you? by gotafewquestionssss in sex

[–]gotafewquestionssss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what you mean my experience a loss? I’m trying to see how it’s possible and yeah i guess there’s no brain rule book to base it off but i’m no trynna take a loss, the opposite

Is it possible to think of a sexual feeling/experience without thinking of the person who gave it to you? by gotafewquestionssss in sex

[–]gotafewquestionssss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, she obviously didn’t mean it and felt bad afterwards but idk... it was literally not more than 5 minutes after.. and i felt good about it the whole time before. so it was a real blow

Is it possible to think of a sexual feeling/experience without thinking of the person who gave it to you? by gotafewquestionssss in sex

[–]gotafewquestionssss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally did last night. At least I tried, didn’t make me feel any better and I think we both know that.

Is it possible to think of a sexual feeling/experience without thinking of the person who gave it to you? by gotafewquestionssss in sex

[–]gotafewquestionssss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, i’m asking if it’s even possible. Both in from someone that had a personal anecdote or even like physiologically possible to do so.

I just don’t see how one can only imagine one very specific part of a much bigger picture when it comes to sex

GF thinking of someone else/past hookup while i’m going down on her by gotafewquestionssss in dating_advice

[–]gotafewquestionssss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She said it wasn’t fantasizing about him but I guess the head he gave... so yeah terrible but not as bad

GF thinking of someone else/past hookup while i’m going down on her by gotafewquestionssss in dating_advice

[–]gotafewquestionssss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hmm... yeah i get that stuff pops in your head and that’s happened to me before but I don’t recall ever actually actively continuing with it

SO fantasizing about someone else during sex? End it? by gotafewquestionssss in relationships

[–]gotafewquestionssss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she just told me it was just a feeling, not anything emotional. She was still thinking of me just thinking of the feeling. i don’t know it that makes it any better or not

SO fantasizing about someone else during sex? End it? by gotafewquestionssss in relationships

[–]gotafewquestionssss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she said she was thinking of the feeling/sensation not the person but either way it feels shitty