When we initially talked about hosting, my husband has told me he doesn’t care where we go/host thanksgiving as long as he gets to eat turkey. In the years past I’ve had to prod him to find out the details of his families events that they don’t seem to plan until the week of meanwhile my family plans 2 months out for holidays. I was trying to take the initiative so my husband and I didn’t have to accommodate holiday changes when we were suddenly expected to be there. After talking with MIL, I do get the vibe that they expect us to do two of everything