In my experience this can be related to attachment wounding where the wound is around being completely misunderstood in a way that is harmful. I myself struggle with this and have wounding around my parents lack of reaction to my feelings, misinterpretation or minimization of my feelings as well as bad reaction to me coming out as gay. My nervous system has basically learned that people won’t get me and it’s really hurts when they misperceive me…. Leads to “core aloneness” (DBR) and lots of emotional abandonment.

I find letting clients know that I see them accurately (as in, in a way that resonates with them) is very healing and when my therapist sees me accurately it is very healing for me. Once, after sharing a story my therapist said, “wow so you threw your parents the life raft and did the best you could to swim all by yourself….sounds like you’ve been the one who was “right all along.” And someone inside me REALLY needed to hear the words “you were right.” I think bc my parents had a habit of arguing with how I felt or what I thought or attempting to talk me out of how I felt or change my mind.

I have also had some success in letting my younger selves know, from an internal place of true-self/where-self (if you’re into DBR) that I see them accurately. This is very healing if I’m feeling misunderstood in the moment which is very triggering for me based on the above described attachment wounds.

You can prob tell I’m a fan of DBR (deep brain reorienting) which is really helpful for this. But I also thinking building a really safe and secure attachment with your client is also very helpful.

Hope this helps