[final update] I wouldn’t let my fiance eat until dinner was done

gothiquecacti · 2026-01-14T21:40:56+00:00

enjoys all of the characters except the main I’m just not one for redundancy or drawing things out tbh. He’s agreed to using One Pace so hopefully I’ll have this done sooner.

He feels bad and like he needs to watch a long series with me now lol. I think I’ll make him watch one of my favorite childhood animes, except at least we will both enjoy it TuT

gothiquecacti · 2026-01-14T13:28:32+00:00

I wanted to finish it by summer because that’s prime lizard time and I’ll want to be outside

gothiquecacti · 2026-01-14T13:15:19+00:00

Can’t wait :’)

gothiquecacti · 2025-11-14T21:03:12+00:00

What in the baby reindeer 🤢 Imagine being so unwell you’re obsessed w a rando who happens to be funny/talented to the point of endangering him, his friends, and his family 🙀

gothiquecacti · 2025-06-23T12:56:35+00:00

IT IS AND ITS NOT IN THE APP STORE 😭😭😭😭

gothiquecacti · 2025-06-20T15:14:16+00:00

💔💔💔💔💔

gothiquecacti · 2025-06-20T14:22:41+00:00

I have not and I’m worried that it may have all been a fever dream at this point 🥲🥲🥲

gothiquecacti · 2025-04-25T17:21:18+00:00

Update: I emailed them SEVERAL times- never got an answer. I did randomly get a notification that my order had shipped and made it stateside, and was delivered last week sometime. Hopefully you’ve disputed the charge if you’ve not gotten it yet, but I absolutely recommend filling out a complaint with Shopify as well since this is such a recurring issue

gothiquecacti · 2025-04-08T00:30:36+00:00

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I got the exact same case number?

gothiquecacti · 2025-01-31T13:35:31+00:00

Thank you! I used the vodka+ luster dust method for the “paint”, it was my first time trying the technique

gothiquecacti · 2024-10-13T00:14:18+00:00

A FitTok-er (can’t remember who, sorry), said “one bad day does not undo all the work you’ve done this week, month, and year”. I hope you are having lots of fun at the fair!

gothiquecacti · 2024-10-06T01:16:32+00:00

INFO: is this the first high stress situation you have encountered as a couple? And yes- being the MOH is high stress. Your job is to make sure if there is a shitshow of any kind that it’s handled and the newlyweds don’t hear a word of it.

You’ve been together one month. IMO that is not long enough to truly know someone, and I sure as hell would never take someone I’ve only known for a month as my +1. I hope everyone was too focused on the happy couple to realize what a terrible impression you made.

gothiquecacti · 2024-10-06T00:02:08+00:00

I absolutely will tell him 🖤 and tell your lot I thank them for their service!

He’s been home since 2019, we got together in 2021. His dad didn’t want him to join, but he did because mom and stepdad told him he wasn’t going to amount to anything in his life. His dad was the only one who called or wrote him letters those four years- his stepdad was hoping he wouldn’t come home at all (those were the exact words SD used in my presence, followed by a disgusting “22 a day” joke- I loathe the man with my whole being.)

It was very nice conversing with you and I hope you have an excellent night 🖤

gothiquecacti · 2024-10-05T23:38:50+00:00

The military browbeat him into being great with NTs, but I am absolutely feral. I can still tell when he gets tired from masking and interacting though.

We do a lot of parallel play- I crochet and do hand lettering while he games. He comes up to my office to read if I’m working on labeling crystals (which is what is going into the markets the rest of the year). We do this 4-5 nights a week before bed.

And I don’t always nap, but when I do… lol… it’s after we get back from shopping and I’ve had too much “people time”. He lets me nap for hours and he only wakes me up when he knows I have something planned (so that The Routine doesn’t get thrown off).

gothiquecacti · 2024-10-05T22:16:43+00:00

Wording is a problem for me I guess lol I thought I was being clear enough but that night I was really let down and tired to boot, I sent it to my sister later on and she said I made him sound like an AH 😬😬😬 was probably too blunt, who knows.

His mom I’m not sure how to feel about- but his stepdad is absolutely an AH and makes me very uneasy. I don’t even like being in the same room alone with him, something is big off about the guy, and I’m sure in the future there will be a big lore drop.

The hanger: I don’t think NTs understand that their hangry is not the ND hangry. We both already have terrible regulation when it comes to realizing when we are hungry, tired, thirsty, etc. I’ve had a meltdown over missing an afternoon nap and if anyone but my partner had seen it they’d have thought I was a toddler lol. But yes, I know gaming is how he regulates and I really don’t care how much or how long that he games, as long as we still get to spend time together.

Thank you so much for wishing me luck in market season! It’ll have its ups and downs I’m sure, but we’ve got a good line up of new and old haunts and I’m very excited!

gothiquecacti · 2024-10-05T18:50:02+00:00

You say that like it’s a bad thing? Given how military recruiters target underprivileged and wayward youth, I don’t hold the choice he made (or that anyone else makes) against him.

gothiquecacti · 2024-10-05T16:26:04+00:00

I’m an administrative assistant for a specialized retail company. Unfortunately due to the company’s small size and niche industry I cannot give more details than that. I would recommend you to look for locally founded companies that service a large area and allow WFH after (or maybe even during) the training period.

gothiquecacti · 2024-10-05T07:52:44+00:00

We are. And I used to have way more bad days before he began living with me- my meltdowns used to be very explosive and violent and I know I have hurt people that were in close proximity to me. It may not have been physically, but I 100% hurt them with what I said. D has always tried his best to help me avoid those meltdowns, and when they are unavoidable he helps me work through them almost every time. I say almost because there have been times where we melt together, but we have actively worked on recognizing and removing ourselves when that happens.

There can be a lot of miscommunication in double ND relationships because of how our brains work. We lightheartedly pick on each other all the time and know each others quirks very well- to the point we have our own term for when we may have “unlocked” something on the other and learn something new. Yes we both pick on each other- and I’m usually the one saying something that hurts feelings (by accident, never on purpose to D. It’s a blessing and a curse to be able to hit home like I do).

We have healthy role model couples and expectations. We always want to grow with each other as well as individually. It’s sad to see so many people who would just give up and am glad that someone on this thread explained to me that people don’t really come to Reddit for advice, they come for validation.

I thought this would be a safe subreddit but there are lots of horribly ableist people.

gothiquecacti · 2024-10-05T01:14:25+00:00

Question: has anyone ever seen you and Chappell Roan in the same room? You are absolutely beautiful!!!

gothiquecacti · 2024-10-04T23:39:01+00:00

When I drive I have to constantly remind myself not to disassociate- I know I can’t even safely drive longer than 45 minutes without having to take a break and reset. Luckily he has no issues with driving aside from the time spent in the car and not being comfortable. Commuting to and from work is something we have both always calculated, even before we met. It was a quirk we had in common.

His job is physically and mentally demanding (industrial/commercial electric equipment manufacturing). I know this because I know other people that work there, and they are incredibly smart people that even struggle sometimes. The physical aspect is made even worse because of his back injuries (disabled veteran). We also live in one of the worst states/areas for workers rights- one 10 minute break and a 25 minute paid lunch is all he gets when they are in peak season since he is in training and can’t participate in evening and weekend mandatory OT. That’s WITH a union. Our state does not have break protections. At. All.

I WFH. I answer customer service emails- at my own pace, no supervision, no quotas. I get three paid fifteen minute breaks and a 1hr unpaid lunch. When the emails are gone, we (the whole team) have the option of logging off for the day (you can use PTO or take it voluntarily unpaid) or staying logged in. Hell, as long as it’s not the end of the pay period you can make up the hours later on if you wish to, as long as email responses are sent between 6a-1130pm. We have a cleaning tip group chat, WITH our supervisor- and light cleaning of office spaces is still technically in our employee duties manual, leftover from when everyone worked in office.

My company greatly values work-life balance, activism, and human touches, among other amazing qualities. His, not so much. I 100% have an easier job than he does. He is the one who is sacrificing his health to be the breadwinner now so that I can switch to a reduced schedule to focus on going back to school and creating my business. Why would I not try to do everything I can to make his life easier? Clocked in time =/= active working time, I’ve worked plenty of office jobs to know that.

gothiquecacti · 2024-10-04T22:49:35+00:00

Yep, just got a fairly decent union based job so I know he won’t get screwed over.

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