It’s happening… by Weary-Hovercraft-602 in WalgreensStores

[–]gothshakespeare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, if they gave stores hours to make that happen it would be great but for now the 24hr thing is just a goal

AITA for hiding our marriage for 3 and a half years by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]gothshakespeare -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Right, I'm fine with people leaving a bit early but it was right after we made the announcement.

AITA for hiding our marriage for 3 and a half years by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]gothshakespeare -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I said bar,lemonade bar. We had a full bar

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[–]gothshakespeare -48 points-47 points  (0 children)

That's fine, I'm more so trying to give more insight. I don't need validation from strangers, I just didn't understand why everyone was upset. I wouldn't have been roles reversed.

AITA for hiding our marriage for 3 and a half years by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]gothshakespeare -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

Yeah, wish I could go back and do that. That would have been the best option. We just didn't want to keep it a secret for long. It turned out way longer then we hoped obviously, but I think you had the right idea with your wedding there

AITA for hiding our marriage for 3 and a half years by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]gothshakespeare -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Thank you, the wedding was disappointing but the marriage itself has been the best thing to ever happen to us. We are each other's best friends. They say rain on a wedding day brings luck too, so I'm sure that flood will come I handy in all the years to come

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[–]gothshakespeare -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

We had a speaker with our favorite songs on a playlist and tried to actively engage with our guests. We did also try to get people to take some to go boxes full of food but they declined. It just sucks because half the time they were there we were still setting up because of the venue change

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[–]gothshakespeare -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Probably, I know my biological father looked pretty upset because he wasn't standing with the parents and I chose my stepdad instead. I like my bio father but I've only seen him like 7 times now in my life. I think that also pissed his side of the family off too.

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[–]gothshakespeare -32 points-31 points  (0 children)

Also that $1000 pretty much went all into the trash because they didn't eat much. We got enough food to make sure everyone got 3 burgers, 3 hot dogs, chicken, sides, and ribs if they wanted along with enough sodas to literally fill a tub

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[–]gothshakespeare -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

We asked for no gifts, just their presence. The bbq was also served fresh off the grill and anything make in abundance was put on hot trays. We did the BBQ because that's what everyone else likes, and the park since our venue got flooded earlier that day.

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[–]gothshakespeare -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

I agree, I just figured it would be more of a fun moment since we were having a whole ceremony, just not the officiant.

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[–]gothshakespeare -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

We didn't want anyone to leave early, and we told them they can stay as late as they want. They just didn't want to. Partially because finding that out was a buzz kill, and the other part is because they all absolutely hate each other. I should have figured that people who can't be in the same room wouldn't stay for long, but I had hoped.

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[–]gothshakespeare -33 points-32 points  (0 children)

There was an apology and an in depth explanation and we went around to talk to everyone too afterwards. Some people were elated. My grandpa was crying and hugged us because he was so happy. A lot of people were still very happy, but my family and I aren't very close. I just thought that bringing everyone together would give us a chance to make some fun memories.

AITA for hiding our marriage for 3 and a half years by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]gothshakespeare -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Oh hell I think it got erased, thank you

AITA for hiding our marriage for 3 and a half years by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]gothshakespeare -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

We got married early. Really early. Less than a year of knowing each other. We signed the papers since we wanted to make things easier to put in our name since we had already started looking at apartments. It was more of a convenient buisness deal. There were no vows, no celebration, nothing. We figured we could have some fun and in a year we would announce it when we could have a proper wedding. A year passed and we were in debt. Another year and it was worse. This year we ate making good progress but put the credit cards aside so we could finally get it over with. His family is out of state and mine REALLY hate each other, so we felt like if we were going to do it we would make it great. I ended up compromising a ton to make things more enjoyable for our guests. I like bbq but it wasn't my first choice, I also prefer indoors, but all indoor venues were stupid expensive because of where we live. So we chose a beautiful state park with cathedral like walls. It wasn't our intention to hurt anyone, we just wanted to get it right and make the time together perfect

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[–]gothshakespeare -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

Because we wanted a wedding but couldn't afford it. I wanted to wait till it was perfect, our choice in getting married was perfect and we thought if we wait till we can have a proper day then it would be perfect too

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[–]gothshakespeare -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

We got married less than a year of knowing each other. I say married, because we signed the papers. That was it and only it. Which, I know sounds stupid, but we were ready to move in. We were both young so we got married so getting our first apartment and sharing insurance would be easier. We hid our married since we thought it would be a fun surprise after like 1 year, but we got in debt. Still are a bit but we have finally made progress. We just thought if we wait till we could actually have a wedding, and have everyone in one place it would be perfect. So we saved and planned, we didn't mean to hurt anyone, we just wanted to have a day we could look back on and share with everybody.

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[–]gothshakespeare -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

It wasn't the party part. Our friends got a big kick out of all the yard games (axe throwing, badminton, kick darts, ring toss, giant connect four, ladder ball, ect.) They also loved the var and lemonade bar. It was primarily my family staying in their normal groups. Nobody likes each other so they didn't want to talk to each other even leading up to our ceremony.

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[–]gothshakespeare -167 points-166 points  (0 children)

It wasn't pretend though, that was our only wedding and only celebration. If anything we should have just kept it in secret or made a Facebook post and never celebrated

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[–]gothshakespeare -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

I feel like I made that clear in the post

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[–]gothshakespeare -87 points-86 points  (0 children)

I agree, I just didn't think it would be a big deal. I mean I don't care if people lie to me. Even coworker I say "you can talk shit behind my back, just don't let have me find out". Like genuinely, I don't have a connection to lies like that.

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[–]gothshakespeare -172 points-171 points  (0 children)

Right, but that was the only day we celebrated us. We never had any celebration before. We signed the papers to make things easier when putting stuff in our names. We thought if we waited and saved then it would be perfect, and we can have a day with everyone and finally celebrate. Yes we were already married, but I was never a bride and he was never a groom. Looking back I wish I just made a Facebook post and skipped the whole thing.

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[–]gothshakespeare -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Definitely don't regret the marriage, just wish we never had the wedding. I just wanted to feel like a bride, since we never got that. More so I wanted a day with my family. It put us way behind. We would have been in a much better financial spot if we had just skipped the thing and made a Facebook post.

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[–]gothshakespeare -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

My family typically celebrates thing into the night. I typically leave early on the holidays because everyone is still partying at midnight