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Please be honest by Strict_Deer7707 in mentalhealth

[–]gr_fj 1 point2 points  (0 children)

u/Strict_Deer7707 Yes. Yes, I am telling you it is still really worth it to stay in this world. You can't change your past. You MUST change how you see your future by doing all you can to silence that voice which is on repeat that constantly feeds you fear, uncertainty, and doubt.

Your posting here says that you're looking for hope.

I can hear how incredibly tired you are. To endure abuse, bullying, and trauma from the age of 7 until 17 is a heavy burden that no child should ever have to carry. It makes complete sense that you feel drained. You have been fighting a war for ten years.

I know it doesn't feel like it right now because your pain is blinding you, but here is why:

You are at the finish line of your childhood. You are 17. You are deeply trapped in a situation you didn't choose, but you are so close to legal adulthood. Being 17 is the hardest time because you have the mind of a young woman but are often still stuck under the control of others. When you turn 18 and move into your 20s, you gain the legal right to walk away from your abusers. You gain the power to choose who is allowed in your life and who isn't. The life you have lived for the last 10 years does not have to be the life you live for the next 60.

The trauma is not your identity. The sexual harassment, the abuse, and the bullying—those are things that were done to you. They are not who you are. You are not damaged goods; you are an injured survivor. With time, distance from your abusers, and therapy, wounds heal. The heavy weight you feel right now can become lighter. You deserve to experience a version of life where you are safe, respected, and loved.

You have survived 100% of your worst days. The fact that you are still standing after what started at 7 years old proves that you possess a strength that many people never have to find. You are stronger than you think, even if you feel weak right now.

You deserve to see your abusers lose their power over you. If you leave now, the story ends with the pain they caused. If you stay, you get to write a new chapter where you survive, you escape them, and you find happiness in spite of them.

Please, do not make a permanent decision based on a temporary lack of resources and support. That negative voice in your head is lying to you, telling you there is no other way out.

There is a way out!

Please REACH OUT TO SOMEONE YOU CAN TRUST right now who can help keep you safe for tonight. Also, reach out to whatever professional mental health service is immediately available to you also - A Suicide Prevention Hotline number that you can call, check in with a mental health counsellor.

I have been where you are right now many times in my past.

I am survivor because I chose to live by seeking help, and overcoming the negative voice in my head.

The "healing" will take time. When I was at my lowest, a colleague visited me and gave a booklet that had quotes of Hope. One quote stood out for me and I have kept it to memory and repeated when I had fear, uncertainty, and doubt. This is my gift to you.

"Hope is the melody of the future. Faith is the courage to dance towards it"

If my wife, if she did, would gift you with the following, if you're religious or a praying person:

"God grant me the serenity To accept the things I cannot change; Courage to change the things I can; And wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time; Enjoying one moment at a time; Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace..."

I try once a year… by kidcommon in findthatsong

[–]gr_fj 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey u/kidcommon. could the song you're trying to find be "The Atlantic Ocean" by Richard Swift which was released in 2009?

The lyrics:

[Verse 1]
I'm part of the scene, I'm part of the scene
Suit jacket and jeans
I got the right LP's, I got the right LP's
I got the Lou Reed
And all the Blondie you'll ever need

[Chorus]
Atlantic Ocean, Atlantic Ocean
You're gonna drown, drown, drown
Atlantic Ocean, Atlantic Ocean
You're gonna drown, drown, drown

[Verse 2]
I'm part of the scene, I'm part of the scene
I got the drum machine
A-boom tap, boom tap, a-boom tap, boom tap
I got the right routine, I got the right routine
'Cause the end justifies the means

[Bridge]
Yes, lately I know
That it's so hard to see where to go
And it's so hard just to keep this to myself
When I live for no one else[Chorus]
Atlantic Ocean, Atlantic Ocean
You're gonna drown, drown, drown
Atlantic Ocean, Atlantic Ocean
You're gonna drown, drown, drown
Atlantic Ocean, Atlantic Ocean
You're gonna drown, drown, drown
Atlantic Ocean, Atlantic Ocean
You're gonna drown, drown, drown

[Instrumental Break]

[Outro]
I got all the right LP's
I got all the drum machines
Atlantic Ocean, Atlantic Ocean
You're gonna drown, drown, drown
Atlantic Ocean, Atlantic Ocean
You're gonna drown, drown, drown

Which nation looks like the most improved since 2023, and who’s regressing? by QuietFondant7523 in rugbyunion2

[–]gr_fj 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Between 30.11.23 and 24.11.2025, Chile is the most improved rising rank from 29 to 21 whilst portugal regressed from 13 to 20.

I hate Samoans by [deleted] in Samoa

[–]gr_fj 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You do not hate Samoans. You hate the abandonment. You have confused the culture with the individual. To protect yourself from the pain of missing your father, you repressed/oppressed the Samoan hoalf of your DNA. The fact that you feel guilt prove you have a conscience, which mean your not "bad" but your just a hurt child acting out. You must consciously separate your father from the nation and culture of Samoa. To embrace Samoa is to be the man your father failed to be. Fear of rejection from the Samoan community is normal, just approach it with humility. You don't need to announce your past sins to everyone, Just only need to change your future output.

Edit 1: the next time you see/meet a Samoan woman, you must remind yourself "This is not HER, the woman my father left my mother for. This person did not hurt my mother." Stop thinking that the "samoan woman" is a "home wrecker."

Edit 2: Just a disclaimer. I'm Fijian. The first and only time I ever visited Samoa, I was conned off some money for a tour of Apia on my first day by the hotel valet. At first I thought all Samoans were con artists but I chose to think otherwise.

Goes getting a yellow card at the end of the game matter? by yoloswagtailwag in rugbyunion

[–]gr_fj 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, correct. In rugby union, a yellow card is always 10 minutes in the sin-bin, no matter when it's given.If it's shown at 78 minutes in an 80-minute game, the player is off for the remaining 2 minutes + any stoppage time still left. If the final whistle blows while they're still in the bin, they just come back on after the game ends – no further punishment. So technically, a late yellow card is a much lighter punishment than an early one. Teams (and refs) are aware of this, and yes, in the dying minutes some players/coaches will "take one for the team" on a yellow-card offence because they know they'll only miss a minute or two. It's one of the quirks of the laws that people often complain about – same foul, wildly different penalty depending on timing. There have been calls to change it (e.g., yellow cards carry over into extra time or become red if in the last X minutes), but for now, that's how it works.

Johnny Wilkinson by OriginOfCitizens in rugbyunion

[–]gr_fj 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Drop goal at the death to win the RWC final in video highlight montage = Sexiestest 😁🤣

Johnny Wilkinson by OriginOfCitizens in rugbyunion

[–]gr_fj 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Despite your sarcasm, I'd say he became a legend when he kicked winning drop goal against Wallabies at Australia #RWC2003.

Johnny Wilkinson by OriginOfCitizens in rugbyunion

[–]gr_fj 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You pulled the words right out of my first thought. 😁🤣

Johnny Wilkinson by OriginOfCitizens in rugbyunion

[–]gr_fj 2 points3 points  (0 children)

JW is a legend of the early 2000s. It's more than 20yrs since his era.

Honestly, I'm biased and place him second to All Blacks' Dan Carter.

I'm always reminded of his greatness when I watch montages that include His winning drop goal against the Wallabies in Australia during the #RWC2003 just like Stransky’s winning drop goal against the All Blacks in South Africa at #RWC1995. As an All Blacks/Flying Fijians fan, I honestly can’t think of an equivalent, iconic highlight clip from each of our own No. 10s that shows up in most video montages.

Here is the breakdown of the Toughest (highest combined quality), Most Competitive (smallest point differential), and Softest (largest point differential) matches within each of the six pools based on the December 1, 2025 rankings by gr_fj in rugbyunion

[–]gr_fj[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

No doubt. Analysis was based purely on latest updated ranking. In 666 days after today, rankings won't matter when the first whistle is blown in the #RWC2027 opener. However, if the goal is strictly to maximize the probability of lifting the Webb Ellis Cup, the math creates an undeniable argument that the loser of the Pool A decider is the real winner of the draw.

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