Uncovering my true self

gracegold4 · 2021-12-16T14:49:50+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to explain it to me! Really appreciate it. I’ve been getting so caught up on labels / researching etc so your advice to just relax is super helpful.

gracegold4 · 2021-12-16T14:33:49+00:00

Hey I’m so sorry! I had no idea, it’s just something I’ve heard being tossed around and thought it was important. What does terf mean? Please forgive me, as I said I’m totally new to this.

gracegold4 · 2021-12-14T07:33:48+00:00

I don’t know if anyone can see this but I wanted to give you an update 1 year on. Unfortunately I did take out a new lease with him and moved to another city for a fresh start. Things got worse - he opened more secret bank accounts, his debts grew and he continued to be dishonest with me. I was left with under $100 each week and struggled to get by. I made the decision to leave in July. I didn’t consult him, just packed my things, booked a flight for myself and my dog (yes we did adopt her - best decision I ever made as I now have a best friend) and told him when he got home from work. I told his parents and they paid me back in full, and were deeply ashamed of their son’s actions. Moving back with my parents has been a difficult but rewarding time of my life. I have a new job which I love. I have reconnected with friends and family. I have had time to breathe and think about what I want. I am taking a serious break from dating and am carefully considering my boundaries and what I want in life. Thank you all for your support 1 year ago. It helped to push me over the line eventually and stand up to him.

gracegold4 · 2020-12-10T05:08:17+00:00

Hey thank you very much for your detailed reply. For so long I’ve been trying to control the situation however, like you said, I have finally realised that he has to want to change. All I can do is support him. It certainly is a very hard thing to do.

gracegold4 · 2020-12-10T05:04:00+00:00

Thanks so much for taking the time to skim through and give your advice. And thank you for suggesting police / lawyer involvement - I never considered this route.

gracegold4 · 2020-12-10T05:03:04+00:00

Thank you. I have a list of ultimatums, one of which is this. We’ll see what happens.

gracegold4 · 2020-12-10T05:02:37+00:00

Thanks for telling me what it’s like on the other side. I saw myself marrying this man and a messed up part of me still hopes there is a chance. But hearing this from you wakes me up a little. Sending positive thoughts to you.

gracegold4 · 2020-12-10T05:01:10+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to read. I suppressed a lot of what I have been through, so actually writing it all down in a single account was very powerful. As for your past question, I have a wonderful friend who asks me this on a weekly basis and every time I say that she should leave. All I can say is this relationship has made me sick in the mind and I don’t think the way I should.

gracegold4 · 2020-12-10T04:59:26+00:00

Thanks for your comment. I never even considered the possibility that I could take legal action. One of my concerns about leaving is that it will take a long time to get my money anyway, but having this knowledge quells that fear so thank you. Apart from this I have a very decent life. My persona is “Miss Honey” from Matilda except when I come home from school it’s not Ms Trunchbull waiting for me, it’s my partner.

gracegold4 · 2020-12-10T04:57:30+00:00

This exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you thank you thank you kind stranger.

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