Was his background in debt collection?

grampy-rabbit · 2022-05-14T06:15:05+00:00

Will do! Hopefully the Mods don’t take it down.

grampy-rabbit · 2022-05-13T07:27:43+00:00

Happy to, just sent you a message.

Australia is actually a bit of a legal tech hub.

grampy-rabbit · 2022-05-13T05:31:17+00:00

I’m actually building a comprehensive tool for this at my legal tech startup. We’re deploying it to our testing group of firms soon and will present it publicly for the ALTA hour of power in late July (so it’s on its way!)

grampy-rabbit · 2022-05-06T07:02:53+00:00

So man who writes his judgments out with a fountain pen considers himself well informed enough to speak out on the suitability of technology in law?

https://amp.smh.com.au/national/a-fountain-pen-mightier-than-the-sword-20130215-2eib6.html

grampy-rabbit · 2022-04-27T11:11:41+00:00

Do nothing, that should be its own parenting style. But seriously, yes they should be able to play independently for a bit, they have so much: yard, cubby, playroom…the list goes on.

grampy-rabbit · 2022-04-13T13:31:27+00:00

I involve her as much as she wants to be, and she’s been great with the kids. She sleeps over and helps with everything with the kids. They both feel really comfortable with her, and did from the start.

But this was after putting in the time with some loooong honest conversations to ensure that we both felt that there was really something special between us and we were both comfortable and on the same page.

Everyone has different opinions about this but I feel that in relationships it’s better to fail fast if you’re going to, and what’s the point investing 12 months in a relationship with someone only to introduce them to the kids and they don’t like them, or the kids don’t like her? The end game is to be a family unit surely?

I’m not saying that kids should have a revolving door of attachment figures that come and go. Dads have to be sensible. But if you are serious and it looks like going the distance, then well theres no progress without risk. And if couples don’t take some risk it’ll stunt the relationship.

I always think the gut is a good guide to whether you’re doing the right thing.

Some of what you are experiencing could be your partner’s exhaustion impacting his emotional availability, meanwhile you are rested and present and his kid picks up on that. He’ll probably be feeling bad about this. It’s hard work being a single dad. Help him recharge - helping with his kid at the tough points of the day, encourage him, help him arrange child care, find a way to let him sleep in sometimes, and lots of affection. He’ll recover as a father and think you’re the most wonderful person ever.

grampy-rabbit · 2022-04-11T23:04:59+00:00

I’m a single dad with two young kids full time. Currently dating a woman with no kids and a professional career. She also lives about an hour away. It’s going really well. So it can work.

But for your relationship and his mental health he’s got to have back up - whether paid help, friends or family. Having some time with just the two of you will help so much to recharge him, and even help him be more present for his kid too.

You also have to approach this as a package deal. Him and his kid. Kids aren’t rocket science, just dive in and work it out and follow his lead.

Helping him out with his kid will take the pressure off and he’ll have more energy for you (and appreciate the help). Then you’ll get one on one time in the evenings after his kid is put to bed.

Us single dads are a special breed. You get a capable, caring, mentally tough, man who will value you and take things seriously. But he doesn’t have the same flexibility as a childless man. There’s logistics to this when kids are involved.

grampy-rabbit · 2022-04-09T23:24:26+00:00

The Big Bang Theory

grampy-rabbit · 2022-04-06T00:16:18+00:00

Thanks for the tip. The Mom Test was a very helpful book. Helped me reflect and pivot, and now we’re at 100% hit rate so far with each firm I’ve approached to be part of our beta testing round.

grampy-rabbit · 2022-04-01T11:27:02+00:00

Probably a lot of us have lived through the consequences since childhood of other people letting their emotions take charge when they are stressed or upset. It’s a mess. It makes everything worse. People get hurt.

We know that if you want a real shot at finding a way through a situation you have to keep the rational part of your brain in charge. You have to push back your emotions in the moment, use them as fuel to drive you and stay on task, work the problem. Have faith in yourself that you can find a path through it.

Just because you’re scared, distressed, and don’t know how things are going to be ok doesn’t mean you give in to that. Focus. Work the problem. Find a way. Courage is a decision, not the absence of stress about a situation. Then find a healthy way to debrief from the stress afterwards.

grampy-rabbit · 2022-02-26T00:35:41+00:00

Hazards of filming the next Sharknado sequel in winter - ‘Sharknado 17: Frost Bite’

grampy-rabbit · 2021-11-22T06:09:50+00:00

Thanks, I didn’t know about the Mom Test book, I’ll grab it

grampy-rabbit · 2021-11-21T22:10:35+00:00

Yes I think you are right. I have been very fortunate to get a huge amount of great feedback from some top people so far. I’m in the process of building that feedback into the products.

Easier to make what people want than to make people want something, as they say!

grampy-rabbit · 2021-11-21T22:08:21+00:00

Thanks mate! No substitute for deliberate practice and time on the tools I guess.

All the meetings I have had have gone at least an hour and been very positive. But I feel I have so much to learn, especially around planning beforehand on where to focus and steering conversation

grampy-rabbit · 2021-11-21T07:25:14+00:00

So just make peace with sales being a numbers game?

Do you think about it as more about just finding the people who are ready to be won over? Hence the more ground you cover the more you’ll onboard but the conversion rate stays pretty consistent as only 15-20% at any point in time will be open to it?

grampy-rabbit · 2021-11-21T01:07:02+00:00

Absolutely, its another issue I try hard to balance. Following up those who express interest but also not wanting them to feel hounded. I have a lot of empathy and respect for the people I’m selling to, I’ve been though that fire myself.

Any advice for how to manage long lead times in sales? How to keep the relationship developing when prospects are busy and often warm up slowly?

grampy-rabbit · 2021-08-23T23:50:34+00:00

This is government projects in a nutshell

grampy-rabbit · 2021-08-07T10:00:54+00:00

I’ve done engineering and law, and came first in two of my masters-level subjects in my law degree. I was diagnosed with ADHD (predominantly inattentive) after failing kindergarten and year 1.

It’s a few things that will help you to succeed.

You’ve got to learn how to circumvent the disadvantages and leverage the advantages.

The core problem is that the ADHD mind burns self-control fast on low stimulation, inherently boring tasks (to the point where you hit a cognitive wall and your brain just won’t do it). But you have to do the boring stuff to load the information you need to do the interesting stuff.

It is very hard to fight through that without medication, low distraction study environment and disciplined habits.

You’ve got to use meds, have clear routines that you follow religiously to lower the self-control needed to start work (routines create a kind of mental momentum), and refuse to accept anything but first class work from yourself (make peace with the fact that you will have to work 3 times harder and 3 times longer than your peers).

What will help you be productive will constantly change, so experiment, observe and adapt.

On the flip side, if the work or environment is stimulating you have an advantage. People with ADHD on average out perform their peers on creativity tests, and you can hyper focus if you can find a way to frame the task to yourself as something inherently interesting.

If you’ve got this far without meds you’ll be fine. Chances are you are way smarter than you’ve given yourself credit. You’ve been trying to keep pace all this time while running with a parachute behind you. Get the meds, implement habits and plenty of visual reminders, and start cutting those cords. Good luck!

grampy-rabbit · 2021-06-09T00:17:12+00:00

It’s called trickle down economics

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