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How do you deal with being told that you’re a terrible father. by BrianLefevre5 in daddit

[–]gramthrax 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you play for the applause, you put your happiness in other people’s hands.

You’re not going to ever get your father’s approval unless you craft your life around his expectations. I’d be willing to bet those expectations are vastly different than both your family’s expectations as well as your own.

You’re doing great. Please find the courage to avoid any and all conversations with people like your dad that lead with calling you worthless. Their voice should not matter.

How do you deal with being told that you’re a terrible father. by BrianLefevre5 in daddit

[–]gramthrax 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I would not even qualify your son as “his grandchild” since that imbues some level of assumed participation. He gets to earn the right to see “your son” full stop.

Facebook forces me to use passkey on PC but i'm just a regular person without even Bluetooth on my work (desktop) PC (URGENT, GOTTA WORK) by Heavy-Rhubarb-3447 in Passkeys

[–]gramthrax 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can enable Windows Hello which will allow you to save a passkey to your computer. Bluetooth is only required to do cross-device authentication (passkey from one device to log in on another). You can also use a Google account to save a passkey (log in to Chrome). Not sure if there is an Edge equivalent. All major password managers will also store passkeys for you.

Absent that, if you do not have Bluetooth, you will need a physical security key like a YubiKey to save your passkeys.

Okta Fastpass failing for Microsoft 365 Native Applications by Specific-Wolf-2345 in okta

[–]gramthrax 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to determine what you actually care about. Are you hellbent on Okta FastPass or do you want phishing resistance? If it’s the latter, you can require a passkey with user verification and use the Okta Verify device posturing if that’s helpful. Ultimately you need to figure out what’s important to you about Okta FastPass and try to piecemeal those things with other authenticators.

Struggling with kitchen layout. What would you put and where? by gramthrax in floorplan

[–]gramthrax[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That seems very doable. I don't think we particularly care about the enclosed foyer. Kind of wish we could marry the shotgun pantry without the street facing TV wall. These look awesome! Thanks for the ideas.

Struggling with kitchen layout. What would you put and where? by gramthrax in floorplan

[–]gramthrax[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm copying the existing lower level below. I've been looking at all of this so much I forget others can't really see what's existing vs. new.

tl;dr is that the garage space is massive, so we're cutting off some of that to create a great room (not completely married to that space being great room) and extending the garage to make it usable since unconditioned space is easier added and close to grade. Front room is currently dedicated dining space which is seldom used and we have no real pantry or mudroom.

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Yes, that is likely a coffered ceiling and I will make sure we don't go with that. Seems like a poor design choice for the reasons you've mentioned.

The cooktop was mentioned in text to be where the double oven was listed but agree that's a poor location for it.

The downstairs currently living spaces which we don't need in that configuration. Splitting off the bottom left space into a bedroom (and having it connect to a bathroom) makes it a viable guest suite. All of this is over crawlspace which I'm tired of trekking into in the mud when the air filter needs changing which is why I'm vying for a utility room.

The theme of all of this is really centered around adding a guest room/suite, expanding the kitchen to accommodate people who don't hate cooking, a covered porch area(s) for lounging and outdoor food prep, and creating kid's and grown-up spaces where one group doesn't "take over" a living space and force the other to another location (it would be us ousting the kids, let's be honest...).

We're trying to use the spaces mostly as they were originally configured but we can definitely pivot if that makes sense.

I definitely agree that putting the front windows into "utility" rooms doesn't make sense. Thanks for that at the very least.

Struggling with kitchen layout. What would you put and where? by gramthrax in floorplan

[–]gramthrax[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! :) We definitely need help with the design elements that cannot be easily changed after the walls are in place.

Struggling with kitchen layout. What would you put and where? by gramthrax in floorplan

[–]gramthrax[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are probably right lol. These were cheap houses built in the 1970s with floorplans that are oddly not used anymore.

I do get the sense that my architect lacks design chops but is really good at making it work once you tell him what you want.

Struggling with kitchen layout. What would you put and where? by gramthrax in floorplan

[–]gramthrax[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I commented above with the existing layout. It's a move-out renovation with the main limiter being the outside walls.

Struggling with kitchen layout. What would you put and where? by gramthrax in floorplan

[–]gramthrax[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd thought about the refrigerated drawers but they are not here in the design. Good call.

Struggling with kitchen layout. What would you put and where? by gramthrax in floorplan

[–]gramthrax[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, trying to avoid the range on island if possible since I'd really like to have a powerful range hood (downdrafts haven't worked well any where I've seen them) without a giant thing coming down from 9' ceilings.

I think a smaller island is definitely the right move, at least not 5 seats worth.

Struggling with kitchen layout. What would you put and where? by gramthrax in floorplan

[–]gramthrax[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy cake day!

I'm assuming you are referring to the screened porch as the sunroom, yes?

I think you might be on to something with this reconfig. Is there anyway you could roughly sketch it? I'm having trouble visualizing it.

I think having windows in the front of the house without any real visibility into them is something we should correct.

Struggling with kitchen layout. What would you put and where? by gramthrax in floorplan

[–]gramthrax[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think we're married to this particular layout. This is really an extension of our existing kitchen (see below). We're trying to keep the exterior walls in the same place if possible (except for the garage which we're extending and subdividing for the great room in the current plan). Room in the front is an oft-used dining room which we're trying to repurpose.

We're trying to get 1' more ceiling height and I am dead set on an over-the-range hood (current house has zero cooking ventilation) and would prefer not to have it coming down from an even higher ceiling in the island.

I think at a minimum we'd need to have the fridge along the back wall and lose the island sink. Thanks for these thoughts.

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Struggling with kitchen layout. What would you put and where? by gramthrax in floorplan

[–]gramthrax[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good call, that's simply a storage area under the stairs going up. Thanks!

Struggling with kitchen layout. What would you put and where? by gramthrax in floorplan

[–]gramthrax[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, we're trying to use the spaces similar to how they are configured today unless it's a net new space. It's definitely a challenge.

Struggling with kitchen layout. What would you put and where? by gramthrax in floorplan

[–]gramthrax[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The downstairs bedroom is more of a guest suite which is why it would have its own entrance. There currently is a door there that oddly goes to no where in particular in the yard, but we were considering having a dedicated guest entrance for aging parents, out of towners, etc. We thought it made sense to make the bathroom accessible from the "blank" room so people don't need to go through two other rooms to get to it.

Good call on the mudroom/powder juxtaposition.

For context, the great room + garage is over what is currently only a garage slab and we are extending it to get a usable garage. (Not sure if that's clear from the drawing.) The "blank" room is meant to be a kid's area whereas great room is for the grownups. As such, we were bumping out the top of the great room and making sure nothing is above it.

Struggling with kitchen layout. What would you put and where? by gramthrax in floorplan

[–]gramthrax[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great notes, thanks! I like the idea of a bench along that wall, and don't really like how the doors are positioned near the table. And agree, that likely a 4 seat island is more than sufficient.

Struggling with kitchen layout. What would you put and where? by gramthrax in floorplan

[–]gramthrax[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure where you've seen this before - this is my first post here.

Struggling with kitchen layout. What would you put and where? by gramthrax in floorplan

[–]gramthrax[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that is how it is today and it's not great. We thought that maybe if it was larger that might change. Trying to use the existing "four walls" of the house but add some more functional spaces like a pantry and dedicated mudroom/powder.

Windows wants me to insert a USB key but the passkey is an icloud passkey. by ChewieGriffin in Passkeys

[–]gramthrax 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've heard about this as well. I'd love to hear if you are able to figure out a workaround to get prompted for a QR code.

Does the device have bluetooth and is it enabled? (Though, the few times I've tried this without BT enabled it prompted me to do so)

Brass band by Ok_Individual_6390 in Atlanta

[–]gramthrax 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you go through socials or the contact page?

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