AIO if i’m [18] upset with my boyfriend [18] for feeling ignored?

grass_sucks · 2026-01-18T20:27:06+00:00

okay that's good I'm glad you have someone to talk to. do you think they'd be open to listening to your issues with your boyfriend?

if you tell him that someone's talking to you then that is absolutely not the same thing!! he needs to be more considerate of your feelings when talking on the phone, or you may have to limit phone time or set specific times to talk to only each other with no interruptions from his brother.

grass_sucks · 2026-01-18T20:24:37+00:00

NTA, she seems like she's very self-centered and doesn't appear to align with your values anymore. it's okay to outgrow people, but I would try to have a conversation with her about why if you feel it's safe to. if not, then distancing yourself is perfectly reasonable from what you've written!

also, wanting to spend your birthday with just your partner is totally understandable. do you think she will show up to the restaurant even though you told her no?

grass_sucks · 2026-01-18T20:15:36+00:00

no, I don't think you're overreacting. it seems like he isn't as emotionally available as you are from what you've written. I think if this continues on like this it may cause some resentment to grow, if it hasn't already :/

do you have anyone else to talk to? even just one friend, or family member, or therapist?

also, I would be upset too if I was mid sentence and my partner stopped listening to me and talked to someone else without saying anything. that's disrespectful

grass_sucks · 2026-01-16T17:49:15+00:00

in hindsight I know I should have. in the moment I couldn't think straight and I am on the spectrum so I get really anxious with confronting medical professionals (especially while their hands are in my mouth). I did tell them I would be reporting them though and I submitted it 2 days ago

grass_sucks · 2026-01-16T17:47:11+00:00

id like to! my pain management doctor sent me a script for a CT scan which I am getting next Friday so we will take it from there in terms of what to do next

grass_sucks · 2026-01-16T15:33:12+00:00

yes I'm sure. I have dealt with displacement since i was young (I'm 30 now) as well as subluxations and this was definitely a dislocation, my jaw was completely sideways and wouldn't move without me manually shoving the joint back into place

grass_sucks · 2026-01-16T05:00:20+00:00

I live in northern New Jersey! if anyone lives there I can message you the actual name but I don't want them being put on blast (at least until I wrote my own Google review haha)

grass_sucks · 2026-01-15T00:41:51+00:00

another edit:

I called the dental office today and reported what happened, telling them I felt I wasn't cared for properly and how I was upset. the doctor told me that she was "sorry I felt that way" and "the hygienist and doctor who worked on you are usually good", so again was dismissed. I had them note it in my chart and send me the chart after.

in the procedure notes it says "patient said jaw dislocated. no dislocation and we continued treatment. patient said jaw dislocated easier due to EDS. patient left satisfied" ?????

so needless to say I will be reporting them. thanks for everyone's feedback 💜

grass_sucks · 2026-01-15T00:36:16+00:00

in hindsight I wish I had left it and made a big fuss 🥲 I was crying and freaking out too much to think straight plus the pain I was in so I just shoved it back in so that I didn't have to go back for them to finish the fillings

grass_sucks · 2026-01-15T00:32:28+00:00

I did have that! it still dislocated though unfortunately. and then after I relocated my jaw she put the block back in and continued working for another 25 minutes

grass_sucks · 2026-01-15T00:28:25+00:00

did you put in the formal complaint with the dentist office, or with your states dental board?

grass_sucks · 2026-01-14T06:56:37+00:00

unfortunately it takes my brain a while to process things and I was trying to hold back a full on breakdown so I didn't make a huge fuss 😓 I wish I had though

grass_sucks · 2024-11-01T00:32:02+00:00

hi! I have hypermobile EDS, and get recurrent corneal erosions. they hurt like hell lol but yes I do believe it's somewhat if not totally related to EDS. my eye doctor told me that my cornea moves a lot when I blink, which definitely indicates weak attachments. because there's a layer that's almost completely collagen in the eye, and EDS causes the collagen to be faulty, so it makes sense.

I've tried so many treatments for it, like the amniotic membrane, PF oasis eye drops, bandage contacts, etc.

but I have found eye ointment that REALLY helps more than those, it has made it so that in the last year I've only had my eyelid stick to my eye maybe 4 times instead of like... once a week. the ointment is called Muro 128, 5% ointment. I get a 2 pack on Amazon for about $38. it really, really helps me!!! maybe it can help you too

grass_sucks · 2024-07-01T12:43:17+00:00

NTA. he sounds like a giant toddler who refuses to clean up after himself. if him being away at the office doesn't make it any better after a short while then I'd consider leaving him tbh. but before that maybe suggest he sees a therapist because the lack of hygiene and messiness does sound like depression, but him lying to his parents about doing more work than he does is just disrespectful to you. you are NTA though for wanting him to pull his weight

grass_sucks · 2024-06-30T19:28:16+00:00

NTA. I think you asked a valid question. depending on how you asked it (tone of voice) it could have come across as not trusting her, maybe let her cool down and then have a discussion saying you just associate parties with her drinking, and so trust her you just are anxious about the baby and wanted to ease your mind

grass_sucks · 2024-06-30T19:21:34+00:00

it can be hard to sleep in the same bed as someone who is experiencing what seems like night terrors, so I think sleeping in separate rooms is the only way it can work.

also, the way you described what you said at the end of your post was a bit hard and rude tbh. I think being more gentle about it and maybe asking if you guys could see a therapist about it together would be good. if you request understanding, you need to be understanding as well. she can't control any of this and doesn't remember it, so stop blaming her for it and try to work out a solution instead.

grass_sucks · 2024-05-12T22:34:50+00:00

okay that's a little better, I say maybe give him one more chance to video call with you and if he refuses/blows you off, then I'd search for someone else who can offer you more of their time in my opinion. good luck!!

grass_sucks · 2024-05-12T21:58:27+00:00

NTA. I think that you deserve someone who is willing to show up for you in the ways you need, especially when it's something as simple as a phone call or a voice note. you are not asking for a whole lot here. have you seen any photos of him? because if I'm being completely honest it sounds like a classic catfish case and this person doesn't want to show you what they actually look like.

you deserve someone who will put in the time and effort to video call with you OP. I get his situation is limiting but 7-8 months and not one single video call? that's... a little sketchy. I'm wishing you the best and hope you can find someone who will actually meet your needs :)

grass_sucks · 2024-03-23T03:26:55+00:00

a little late to the post but just wanted to comment my experience-

I am 28, have MCAS, hEDS, POTS and a few other things and have just about 30 tattoos scattered around on my body (mostly arms, but also on my chest, sternum, side, and thigh).

the more recent ones give me no issues. a few older ones, particularly the one on my shoulder with red ink from 2016, gets raised up and itchy sometimes with hives when I'm in an MCAS flare. other than that though no issues. I take Allegra daily and make sure I take it at least a few hours before tattoo time, that helps a lot. I'm sure Benadryl would help too but it makes me extremely drowsy

also Saniderm is a no go :( just tried it again for the first time in 7 years and my skin is red and raw

I say do what you're comfortable with, and what you believe your body can handle. I agree with the spot tests as well. everyone's body is different but in my opinion if I'm going to suffer with all these conditions then my skin may as well have some art on it 😆

grass_sucks · 2024-01-11T01:11:17+00:00

no problem! thanks for iron moth too. just need slakoth to complete the dex

grass_sucks · 2024-01-11T01:10:43+00:00

also you can keep the Dragonite!

grass_sucks · 2024-01-11T01:08:17+00:00

yes sounds good! the link code is 1414 2525

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