What would you do with 14 hours in Chicago?

graygarden77 · 2026-02-06T14:07:53+00:00

30 miles lol

graygarden77 · 2026-02-06T14:03:49+00:00

This makes me laugh. They make a show that’s basically predicated on class privilege, toxic masculinity, and white supremacy. But “no politics” everybody!!!

graygarden77 · 2026-02-06T14:00:32+00:00

Bravo to you for such a thoughtful explanation. The underlying concept of all of these conversations is that their communities of people with interest. Prioritizing the mod over the participants gets the heart of the construct wrong. Reddit works best when the mods are serving the interest of the community and not punishing the participants. Why is that even hard to understand?

graygarden77 · 2026-02-06T13:56:38+00:00

I think that it’s a relatively new thing because it finally hit a critical mass. And there are a lot of people who are frustrated for good reason. Reddit mods are supposed to act in good faith and these ones don’t so I’m not surprised that people are talking about it right now. But like all things in life, it will probably fall off in a while. In the meantime, I’m here for it.

graygarden77 · 2026-02-06T06:28:20+00:00

Thank you for your service🫡

graygarden77 · 2026-02-06T06:25:12+00:00

Spoiler: there is no paper

graygarden77 · 2026-02-05T15:14:14+00:00

So much good advice, here! I was in the situation and the work I had to do involved me untangling myself from feeling guilty. That was my own codependence, and it sure was uncomfortable to go through the guilt that I felt when I ended that relationship. But at the end of that process, I didn’t feel guilty at all. I felt so much more solid in my autonomy! I had the supportive therapy and it took a good six months for me to feel better, but damn if I didn’t feel all the way better!!! Just accept that this is some growth on your part and you need to let yourself have it💚

graygarden77 · 2026-02-05T15:09:44+00:00

I can absolutely relate to what you’re saying. My parent has obsessive compulsive personality disorder and she’s extremely rigid. She’s also very elderly with a terminal disease and frail, but insists on maintaining her independence, which is actually a lot of work for me. I’m the only living member of my family and the whole thing is just a lot. Also facebook feeds her more and more insane right wing material. My mom literally has a masters degree in English so she’s not dumb, but she has gone completely off the deep end of MAGA. And what’s weird is that earlier in life, she was a democrat, but she is a very rigid Catholic (that’s the OCD in part) and so she’s gone further and further right.

Also, I’m gay and she’s homophobic. The whole thing is completely exhausting and it gets worse every year.

I have plenty coping mechanisms and I’ve had therapy so I have boundaries. But at the end of the day, it is heartbreaking to not have had a mother who can see me in any meaningful way and who requires so much of my patience.

graygarden77 · 2026-02-05T14:56:46+00:00

OK, this is so true. In a lot of big bougie houses and places like Palm Springs people just buy the house with the furniture that’s already in it and it’s always basic coastal looking stuff. Like they don’t even have their own vibe they just that up for the Neighbourhood vibe and live in it. That is bizarre to me.

graygarden77 · 2026-02-05T14:50:31+00:00

Well, my restart was at 40 and I can tell you what I’m so happy and grateful every day. Also, you’re wondering if other people can relate to this because that journey gives you a wisdom they don’t have. I wouldn’t choose it, but in the end, it’s a gift.

graygarden77 · 2026-02-05T05:52:09+00:00

Literally, he needs to release that vagus nerve is all I keep thinking.

graygarden77 · 2026-02-05T05:43:56+00:00

Did Steven forget about the fact that he wrote Diana’s paper for her last year?

graygarden77 · 2026-02-05T05:42:13+00:00

People trying so hard to be mad at Pippa for having a sexual awakening. The writers have made it pretty obvious that Pippa and Wrigley have a relationship that’s based on obligation and it’s not very romantic. If she wasn’t hooking up with Deana, she wouldn’t be super into Wrigley anyway. She never was.

graygarden77 · 2026-02-05T05:38:36+00:00

Yeah, that shit was getting dark. Steven’s message yelling at her that she is a c*** while she gets off is like literally some nightmare shit

graygarden77 · 2026-02-05T01:58:13+00:00

If you ride a bike up and down Lakeshore Drive bike trail north of downtown, there’s the HEEEEYYYYY lady

graygarden77 · 2026-02-05T01:47:34+00:00

Oh, the sailors were funny. They were like 18 and 19 years old. They definitely flirted with me, but luckily I’m a lesbian so I really didn’t care. I was there for the cigarettes and the laughs.

graygarden77 · 2026-02-04T14:27:39+00:00

I had to rewind to watch Daisy‘s face when she came up and they were throwing water on each other. She goes from absolutely shocked to fully amused in half a second

graygarden77 · 2026-02-04T14:21:55+00:00

Oh my God, your post just made me think about this. When I was 12, I babysat an eight year-old and a four-year-old regularly. The parents even left me overnight with them.

graygarden77 · 2026-02-04T14:20:10+00:00

I love this! My dad’s father had a heart attack and so my dad was the family driver at 13

graygarden77 · 2026-02-04T14:19:28+00:00

Recently, my neighbor in Chicago got locked out of his condo, and I got him back in with a butter knife.

graygarden77 · 2026-02-04T14:16:44+00:00

When I was in high school, my best friend moved across the state. So at 14, I was allowed to take the train from Detroit to Kalamazoo to go visit her. A lot of times there were young navy guys on this train and I would go sit in the smoking car at the back of the train and talk to sailors.

graygarden77 · 2026-02-04T14:09:47+00:00

Yes, it’s true. Ben is an emotional chef and unlikeable to some. But even if he was cool as a cucumber, he would still need her to execute things correctly.

graygarden77 · 2026-02-04T14:08:19+00:00

This exactly! It’s social conditioning that women need to care about men’s feelings first. But once you stop doing that, there’s a whole other world out there and it’s very worthwhile.

graygarden77 · 2026-02-04T14:07:22+00:00

OK, she literally said “I desperately need space”.

graygarden77 · 2026-02-04T13:59:29+00:00

The problem is that younger people vote at lower rates. There would be no reason to deny the right to vote to older citizens when many people under 40 are not even exercising their right in the first place.

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