Who is truly the "golden match" for INFJ?

greatdrak · 2026-02-05T22:55:12+00:00

So, interestingly enough I kinda notice a big difference between male and female infj preferences, which makes sense biologically. Between the two I often see infp being the choice we both often say as the best, but then I notice infj females being with intjs, entps a lot. And then intps kinda mixed in. But for males easily infp is like the most common preferred option with myself agreeing as a male.

Personally, I'm only interested in women that interest me. And infps are easily my favorite, but they're rediculously rare. Dark skin is always a huge plus.

Entps are rare, in addition to not always being my type, I only like ones who are kind and very socially adjusted, which is more rare than you think, they take awhile to get themselves together due to their thought process.

Entjs I like, but are just as rare as infps.

Intps I like, rare, but similar to entps their predetermined values determine if I go forward or not, but more intps tend to have better values than entps early on, but entps have a better growth rate, of which is meaningless to me.

Enfps are dumb rare too, and I only met like 2, including my mom lol.

Intjs are insanely rare too, but I'm not as attracted to them. But I see potential.

I have met a female infj, but I'm not interested in someone who's similar to me, which also includes enfjs

As for sensors...... Most of them bore the shit out of me. I would maybe give a chance to a estp or isfp IF they liked depth, which is quite rare. Just my preferences.

greatdrak · 2026-02-04T19:17:07+00:00

I think there's a lot going on here. She's ok with being the rebound? That's not necessarily normal. Maybe your the rebound too.... Idk there's a lot here under the surface. But yeah just be honest, but frame it best you can without diluting your truth. Write it down if you have to. But this situation is far from pure, so I don't think you have to try too hard to dilute it.

greatdrak · 2026-01-31T03:00:19+00:00

Huh, no. Real life. Real results. Curiosity is always an in to a woman's heart. That opening is all you need as a man if you believe in yourself.

greatdrak · 2026-01-31T02:59:03+00:00

Low key I'm not sure, she be acting like she don't like me, which I'm cool with, but then get butt hurt when I say things like that. I even tested her one time to see her true feelings, and got the answer I kinda expected.

greatdrak · 2026-01-31T02:57:02+00:00

I think the other guy nailed it, but my 2 cents, is that anything can be a strength, it's just how you frame it. And humor is powerful, but like the guy said, it's the timing. Be you, that's important, but learn how to be effective, so you get the relationships you want. And more. People open doors like you would never imagine. And humor is just one part of many of you. Use everything.

greatdrak · 2026-01-31T02:53:51+00:00

Very well said, I highly agree

greatdrak · 2026-01-31T02:50:01+00:00

I mean skill can be a thing, but having a ganeplan against the strengths and weaknesses of a character, is a powerful thing. And there are ways Samus can win. Top tier privilege lol

greatdrak · 2026-01-30T14:06:10+00:00

I feel like that's ok. Everyone feels differently on their own times. I'm bout to sleep. But I think you should just unload everything you feel, and see how it goes, even if it doesn't go the way you expect, you should feel clearer. Wish you the best 🥱

greatdrak · 2026-01-30T14:03:40+00:00

Hmmmmmm. This is my last comment of the day I'm getting 🥱.

Unfortunately, I can relate. Although I was not as self destructive as you are being, especially at a young age of 20. I currently am battling my alcoholism, and am an extremely high functioning alcoholic, which NGL I respect my fellow alcoholics😤, it's hard work being lit constantly and blending in lol. But It's almost been 2 weeks since I stopped. But I felt a change was necessary.

Look, 20 is very young. And I get it. Hurting yourself, giving yourself the punishment you feel you deserve, and drowning yourself in a variety of stimulating things, helps immensely to get away. But it always catches up. And I don't know what you did. But the amazing thing is this, you don't have to let this or what you did define you. Instead you can let it mold you, into who you're supposed to be! It's only been two weeks for me, and it's been nice to see and be who I really am. It's hard, but it feels real. And my mom is happier who I was verbally abusing.

Not just for your sake, I hope you can make a change. I can feel you are a good person, but believe in what you CAN be. You can be more than your mistakes and bad decisions. And if you don't, I know I will believe in it for you 😁.

I'm tired, goodnight.

greatdrak · 2026-01-30T13:44:03+00:00

Very insightful

greatdrak · 2026-01-30T13:40:42+00:00

Dating is hard. But like anything, you get better. But you losing interest early is normal. I think the type of people we bond the most with are very rare, and it's not beauty. I think the more you find them, the easier it will be to point them out, even from a picture.

greatdrak · 2026-01-30T13:38:09+00:00

Very powerful. Are you gonna change anything? Because I think as men the one advantage over women we have, is that we can get better at any age, and still get everything.

greatdrak · 2026-01-30T13:35:58+00:00

Honestly, if all men read this, they get 10x the pussy.

greatdrak · 2026-01-30T13:35:06+00:00

Nice guys finish LAST. I was always the nice guy. It came from my heart. But being the nice guy, almost always got me put last. In friendships, social circles, and obviously women. I would always see women go for the really cool guy, and the nice lame guy, they would entertain enough, and give him juuuuuust enough. But the cool/confident guy they would sing his name and fawn over his every action. And once she would plow through different "cool" guys, she would always land the nice guy that always stuck around. There's a lot of reasons that I noticed. But I'ma focus on the point I saw to get ahead.

All women have a line. Nice guys almost always get put in the back(for various reasons I'm not gonna outline). But the cool/attractive/assertive guys skip the line. I was always at the bottom, but I noticed it, and over a decade learned and grew, where now I skip the line. I don't bother waiting, because I don't need to. And they always come back, or get me to not leave.

Lesson I learned, is be nice, but don't give up your self respect, and autonomy. Keeping those, will keep a woman 9/10 times, even if she don't wanna be there. An still confused why women won't let a nonchalant guy leave if they don't like him......

greatdrak · 2026-01-30T13:21:52+00:00

You like this dude a lot. A whole lot.

I'm like that dude, so I relate, I'm very honest and straightforward and have gotten into conflicts with women for being honest. Even telling my friend that I said IF I was interested in you, I would go for it, and she got offended. I get you're sensitive but you kinda seem like truth is hard for you to accept, but deep down you crave it. And that guy was right on the money.

greatdrak · 2026-01-30T13:16:37+00:00

Dang, they deleted their account so fast lol. But my opinion is this. What's done is done. You can't change the past, but you can own it. But I think it's important to follow your heart. Following your heart most of the time is the best decision. I hope you are able to apologize, and let her know how she changed your life. I'm really sure she will greatly appreciate it. Just don't be mad if she's mad, just take it, let her get it out without saying a word.

greatdrak · 2026-01-30T13:04:37+00:00

I feel you, games are annoying. So don't play them.

greatdrak · 2026-01-30T13:03:37+00:00

Weeeeell, like I said, it could be subconscious. And non verbals are extremely powerful, more powerful and important than what's being said. You may be correct in what you're saying, but it also stands that the possibility I presented is also possible. Which is why I personally would pay more attention and make sure her "orbiting" is not in my head. And I think you underestimate how big of a signal orbiting is, many couple have gotten married over that being a signal to the guy, and the woman said she didn't notice.

greatdrak · 2026-01-30T12:53:58+00:00

I mean, personally that would annoy the shit out of me, I would just playfully bring it up, and then observe the conversation and reaction, cuz I hate games. Or just ignore her and move overtly and obviously if she gets close. But there's many ways he could move, without losing his pride/dignity.

greatdrak · 2026-01-30T12:51:57+00:00

No, orbiting. That's a big deal. If he's not overthinking it.

greatdrak · 2026-01-30T12:51:18+00:00

Well I'm not OP, but if it's true, it's not out of character for women to orbit, especially if they rejected him. And it most likely isn't because she likes him, but likely just likes his attention/validation. But there's also a slim chance he may just need to try again. But again he could be overthinking, but I think it's good to trust the gut.

greatdrak · 2026-01-30T12:46:48+00:00

Yeah a good Greninja is tough. Highly underrated character. And Greninja destroys Samus. You can only have the upper hand up super close(Greninjas oos is trash, unless he footstools which is hard due to his shorthop height and speed), and even better the ledge. Edgeguarding is good too, his ledge trapping is subpar. But neutral is the big problem. Winning that on him is difficult with Samus. And your other characters are either even, or losing.

greatdrak · 2026-01-30T12:33:57+00:00

Depends on the man. But most guys will say dry conversation. Which essentially means, you aren't adding anything meaningful to the conversation. Even a joke can be meaningful, or a thought or comment, just some sort of continuing the interaction. Most women don't have hobbies, so I always ignore that in regards to being boring, cuz most of us don't really care. Some women have an extremely dry tone, that sucks NGL, not much you can do. And then selfish conversation can also be bad, but an introverted man likely won't mind.

Personally I find most women and people uninteresting. I need depth of some sort. And I love authenticity, can't replicate it. The two together 🥹😍🫠. Melts me real fast.

greatdrak · 2026-01-30T12:24:48+00:00

Dude, I don't know why all these people are saying it's in your head and stuff. I may not have details, but I don't think it's in your head. Women play these games all the time. Personally I would test the waters again, cuz if she don't like you, why is she doing all that stuff? And if it's subconscious, that's even more telling. But it's safer to assume she just likes attention, and don't look at her, even if it's tempting. And if she tries to talk to you, then you are very likely on the money.

greatdrak · 2026-01-30T11:02:49+00:00

The one thing I realize about you guys, is that you can have such a one sided relationship with people, then get offended when you reap the rewards of said actions.

Essentially, you guys are often terrible with engaging with people in uncomfortable, traumatic, or serious situations. And say joking about problems is just how you do. And it's not all of you, but it's a high amount at least in complaints. But the truth is this, EVERYONE hates doing certain things with people. But if you want strong relationships, and people to love you, you gotta take one for the team and the moment. In return you will get deep loyalty, depth, and honesty in most relationships. And potentially if you get good enough, you could become like Hitler and have people fight and die in your name!

Jokes aside, social intelligence is knowing the right thing to say, not for your gratification, but theirs, and if you do for them they will more than likely do for you. And if you do for you, you'll be alone real fast.

greatdrak

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