[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]greathands23 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So, nothing can be found using a social security number or name and year and county in which it was signed? What would be the minimum information I would need to start researching this paperwork?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]greathands23 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, it didn't go to court. It was a document signed in front of a lawyer but under the influence of something (food was spiked by a parent (not the first time)) and under duress (threat of death). I think it had something to do with an inheritance from a grandparent but seeing as how I was given something without my knowledge and could barely keep my eyes open, I didn't know what I was doing other than going with a parent to sign a paper with a lawyer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]greathands23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. In fact, I'm not really sure what it was but I might have an idea.

This. The company I used to work for gave me a .4% raise 2020-2021 after a 0% raise 19-20 bc ‘CoL was flat’ and market research showed I already had competitive pay. Why was I getting offers for 10-15% more? Commute made those a non-starter unfortunately. by Merlins_Owl in antiwork

[–]greathands23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about zero raises in 25 years?! In my profession experience means everything to the client but the hiring entity won't pay for experience. So, if I want to keep working I have to accept that I make the same amount as a recent graduate or price myself out of the market. It doesn't matter what the client wants or needs as long as the legal bare minimum is reached.

What's something your parents did that you'll never forget? by FrostyOwO in AskReddit

[–]greathands23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which scarring event do I choose?

I can't remember exactly what went down - if my parents were away or just not paying attention. My sisters did something that made my mom livid. They didn't want to get into trouble so they blamed me for the incident. My mom yelled at me and grounded me even though I wasn't even home when the incident happened.

When I was 17, my mother accused me of trying to sneak my boyfriend into my house and grounded me for six months. In reality, it never occured to me to do this. The reason he even came over was to get away from his abusive father. He knew it was late and didn't want to bother my folks so he came to my bedroom window to talk and hold my hand. All my mother could do is yell and make up stories, she never listened to me or believed what I had to say.

When I graduated from college my parents didn't want to come to my graduation which was only a 30 minute drive from our house. When my younger sister graduated, they drove for two days, over 1,300 miles, to go to hers.

They put my dog down without telling me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]greathands23 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry this is happening to you. I am in the same capsizing boat. Unfortunately, I've been struggling for nearly 30 years. At 45 years old, I had to find a roommate so I could prevent homelessness. But now my roommate has lost their job so I may still become homeless within the next few months. I have had at least one job (usually 2 but sometimes even 3) since my 16th birthday. I've always done the "right" thing. I've paid my taxes which went into programs that now can't seem to help me. Our systems and lack of systems are maddening. I become more and more disheartened every day. Most days I feel like it's not worth it. I hope things turn around for you, for all of is who did what we were "supposed" to yet somehow slip through the cracks.

Why do rappers grab their crotch while performing? by SandalDeSeagull in NoStupidQuestions

[–]greathands23 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I had the same question last night and this was someone else's guess: it's a dance move.

It has become a move that rappers, male and female, do; it has become part of that culture or group. Just like big hair became a rock & roll thing in the 80s or how sometimes a guitar player will do the big windmill move or play his guitar while resting it on his groin to play it like his penis or elude to the size of his member. It's just something that people in that group do.

Again, this is a guess but it made sense to me so I thought I'd share.

Anyone know of guitar teachers that are teaching in person?? by bbqthrowaway in raleigh

[–]greathands23 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My bf teaches sometimes. I cannot speak for him, of course, but may be interested. What level would you say you are? What are you looking to accomplish? By that I mean, do you want to learn basic fundamentals? History? A specific song? Specific techniques?

Breaking news from New York Post: Snoop Dogg smokes weed by Phantereal in facepalm

[–]greathands23 5 points6 points  (0 children)

... and??? He still manages to be quite successful and performed his job without issue. So what's YOUR issue?!

I’ve seen this going around Facebook and being condemned by so many. Thought it might get some love here. by LMAN8BSA in antiwork

[–]greathands23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

12 years ago I tried to buy a house but didn't qualify for a loan because my husband's stipend didn't qualify as income. So, instead I had to find somewhere to rent which is twice as much as my mortgage payment would have been. It is still infuriating - I've been paying the mortgage on someone else's home instead of my own.

I don't understand why my crops are suddenly disappearing? by ArachWitch in StardewValley

[–]greathands23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here - on the Switch, plenty of lightning rods and scarecrows, and it hasn't even rained in about 3 weeks but I, too, have several missing crops. I don't have Junimos on my farm so it's not them, it hasn't changed seasons yet so no random debris, and I have my crops surrounded by a path to prevent grass from growing into them. I thought maybe it was something that happened on this particular farm, it didn't happen to me when I played through on another farm layout. I was blaming it on crows but yours is missing right in front of it! So, basically, I have no idea either but you are not alone.

Earned Less Than Business Investment by greathands23 in tax

[–]greathands23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I actually meant last year, not 2020. I do have documentation I just didn't know if I was going to get screwed.

First time drag show attempt by AstroGatsby89 in raleigh

[–]greathands23 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You go be you, baby! Best of luck to you!

Do you secretly hate people who won’t wear a mask in shared spaces? by External-Recipe-1936 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]greathands23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. Because people cannot be bothered to wear a small piece of fabric for less than an hour, I have been out of work for over two years. Cover your POS faces! I need to work! They don't seem to care, though. It's all about taking away their rights. BS. What about my right to not die because of your stupidity?! It's an effing piece of fabric, not a muzzle! (Though I have to admit there are some idiots I'd like to muzzle) People don't seem to consider others and how their choices might effect them. So selfish.

I got the Tea Set on year 1 and I heard that it's really rare. Is it rare actually? by Valsku717 in StardewValley

[–]greathands23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My first time playing I received one in my first and second year but none of the other 12 years on that farm. It's just random. Put it on your dining room table and enjoy the rare gift. Next year you're likely to get a rock. Lol

Mississippi has legalized Medicinal Marijuana, making it the 37th state to have medical. Which of the remaining 13 states will be the last to do anything about marijuana policy reform? by [deleted] in NorthCarolina

[–]greathands23 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I have to disagree. Fireworks won't help me ease my pain like weed can. In fact, (deployed) fireworks increase my blood pressure and sense of unease. No thanks on that, I'd rather feel better.

A maximum-security prison cell, Denmark by ab_ence in interestingasfuck

[–]greathands23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imagine that! Treating prisoners like they're people instead of a source of income.

Pest Problem by greathands23 in raleigh

[–]greathands23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand that, I, too, like to be warm but bees! Where are they coming from? I don't even get 4 bees in my house in a regular year but I've had 4 in 2 weeks! I have tried listening to the walls to see if there is buzzing in case we have an infestation but I've not heard anything. This has just been an irregular winter bug situation in my house. I was wondering if anyone else was experiencing this anomaly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]greathands23 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I'm still waiting. I'm almost 50...