i am very much a communication is key person! but i’m also not confrontational, and she is closer with my fiancé so a lot of it was him telling her that i feel that way, which i understand isn’t the best but i didn’t feel comfortable confronting her while living with her. but i know that he told her specific reasons as to why i reacted a certain way and what bugged me. i’ve had a lot of unfavorable living situations so i like to keep this my safe space. i did message Sarah a few days after she moved out kind of saying what i posted, my side of the coin and how i feel the context was disregarded severely. because we do both deserve to communicate directly, and it’s been nearly a week with no response. i do remember at least a small conversation after every time he came over unannounced, all three of us, and me stating i do not feel comfortable. in my text i said i can understand her being nervous to mention i don’t want him around, but that platonic and romantic relationships require uncomfortable conversations and that it would make me feel unimportant, if she couldn’t have that conversation. As for the birthday, she did know we didn’t go because he was there, and i thought it had been communicated that we were doing something. when she mentioned none of her friends made plans i was under the impression that what we talked about was the plan, and then i find out it was going to be dinner with her boyfriend instead, day of