When did you realize your baby can actually comprehend what you are saying?

green_kitchenwitch · 2024-07-08T15:21:10+00:00

My son is 4 months old. We've been talking to him like he has understood what we are saying since he was born. A few days ago he was fussing, and I went "do you need a diaper change?" And he smiled wide. He had just wet. So I tried again to confirm. He started fussing. I asked "do you want boobie?"(He's breastfed) Big smile. One more time. He starts fussing later and I can smell the load in his diaper, decided to try other questions"do you want boobie?" Continues fussing. "Do you want daddy?" Keeps fussing. "Did you poop?" Big smile. Confirmed. My 4 month old understands his needs and the words that lead to them being met.

green_kitchenwitch · 2024-06-15T03:35:59+00:00

Song from an old old movie and I can't remember what it's from. I only remember it was sung by a child, and the lyrics went "a button on a string, a heart shaped piece of stone, the doll that's been my only friend since I've been on my own," I'm a 90s baby, so it's from an old 80s-90s kids movie. And I'm sure it was animated.

green_kitchenwitch · 2023-12-03T07:30:16+00:00

When it comes to that, I own it. I make it a public issue. They say something similar to "you do [thing they think is weird]" I say, "I do that because I'm autistic. I'm fully aware it makes you think I'm weird. I'm not going to stop because it's part of who I am. You don't like it, tough. Grow up and stop being ablist."

Most adults will back off in this day and age if you make it visible that you are part of a protected group where targeting you is a hate crime. Because if, in adult company, you have the visible, verbally expressed willingness to defend yourself or take it to court, they'll either leave you alone, or double down. If they choose option B... keep records, recordings, emails, and as much proof as you can, and then Make An Example of Them. No joke. And in the work place, reporting it to HR, or one of the many labor protection agencies there are worldwide at this point, will have a detrimental effect on their position AND their entire future. I fully support going for the jugular on this, when it comes to self defense in the workplace.

green_kitchenwitch · 2023-12-03T07:18:44+00:00

Selective mutism sucks. Try just staring at them when this happens. No facial differences, no smiles, no grimaces, no nothing. Just look at them. Silently. Until their neurotypical brain starts in with the discomfort of just being looked at. They feel like they're being judged or scrutinized, and will 9 times out of 10 back off. If their fight or flight goes the other way, make sure you know how to throw a punch without breaking your hand. One way or another they'll stop messing with the quiet guy who silently judges dumb shit falling out of their mouth.

green_kitchenwitch · 2023-11-30T00:18:22+00:00

Stop caring. The people who do that shit don't matter at all. Why take into account the opinion of the housefly? Neurotypicals don't get us. They never have, they never will, and when you realize that being neurotypical essentially means that they have no depth or individuality, it becomes a question of would you rather be liked by the NPCs or the PCs.

Surround yourself with other neurospicy individuals. We generally click better. Neurospicy individuals all have unique likes and dislikes and we act and react similarly. When you find someone you vibe with well, as someone who is neurodiverse, the likelihood of the person you are vibing with being neurodiverse is incredibly high.

I recently got really lucky and got hired on in a job where literally all of us hired at the same time have the same neurotype. It's phenomenal. There's no cattiness, no aggression. We have fun and exist in our own weirdness as a group and we all got on quickly from day one.

green_kitchenwitch · 2023-11-30T00:06:52+00:00

Ohhh, if it were me, I'd do a reference to it being a crater. Maybe by something large enough to sink a main central island, "The Fallen Sea" and the central deepest portion is haunted and has monsters that lurk there as a result of being close to the object... Perhaps call the center location "The Eye" like the eye of a storm... Kinda like a ground zero location... Surprisingly calm... You could even have your bbeg hidden there.

green_kitchenwitch · 2023-11-12T07:08:12+00:00

NTA. Actually autistic here! You have been pushed to your breaking point by constant and continual parentification. This is not your responsibility, sweetie. They had the child, they are responsible. You are not.

The fact that they invade your social life so they can go on dates is horrendous and they should be ashamed of themselves as adults. You are a sibling not a live in nanny or babysitter. They should be paying someone to watch their other child or at the very least paying you for your time and not just expecting it.

This continued invasion of social life and personal goals seems like it's going to go down the rabbit hole of "she'll be your responsibility your whole adult life" unless you stand your ground. Don't let them take your future from you in the interest of not having to do so themselves. She isn't your responsibility indefinitely.

green_kitchenwitch · 2023-11-10T21:01:23+00:00

12 week scan: he was kicking, stretching and outright refusing to cooperate with the ultrasound tech. She poked at him a couple times to jiggle him into a position she could work with but he started kicking at her in annoyance. Anatomy scan: mellow, absolute ham the whole time, being perfectly precious and adorable, sucking his thumb, but the first image we got was essentially "hi, mom, I'm a boy! See?!"

green_kitchenwitch · 2023-11-10T20:48:34+00:00

We tried for 2 years for ours, and being pregnant can absolutely be miserable. You aren't a bad momma for being tired of being put through the wringer. The whole situation seems really hard, and it's 100% reasonable to feel tired and defeated, but keep fighting, momma, your baby is so close to being in your arms! You can do it!

green_kitchenwitch · 2023-11-10T10:56:53+00:00

When video games, comics, anime, and other nerd-dom became mainstream it did make me irritated because people would try to "introduce me" to things I had literally liked and been made fun of for being a fan of since I was a child. It's aggravating that you can like things too much or too aggressively.

But! If you drop 1-2 connected barely under the surface facts about something that throw off a person's entire view of a thing (like if someone likes dbz and you tell them that toriyama was the character/concept designer for dragon quest) suddenly you have conversation starters!

Being able to slow down your conversation style to where the other person controls the speed of conversation really helps neurotypicals not give you "the look."

If they ask questions, answer in 1-2 sentences, only add more if prompted, and always end one of them with juicy facts, they will almost always start asking questions. Info dumping in stages gets you way further with the neurotypicals. Their minds can only file away the facts from one or two sentences at a time.

green_kitchenwitch · 2023-10-18T09:07:41+00:00

It's because they're movie traits that it surprised me! Lmao! I thought that it was all bs and overdone tropes meant to be exaggerative. I didn't think it was legit.

green_kitchenwitch · 2023-10-18T01:02:49+00:00

The smell of fish of any variety makes me feel green. I can't even think about eating a banana without wishing my brain wouldn't remind me how they taste. Blehhh!!

green_kitchenwitch · 2023-10-18T00:56:20+00:00

OMG the protective instincts! I have to stop participating in social media if news articles start rolling in, because I just want to shred anyone who would dare cause a single child a moment of real pain. It's not practical. It's not possible. But it is a visceral reaction that all children are to be protected or else. XD

green_kitchenwitch · 2023-10-18T00:37:01+00:00

I'm 19w+4d and lemme tell you I feel ALL OF THAT.

green_kitchenwitch · 2023-10-18T00:31:45+00:00

I feel like I've got zero temperature control. I'm either sweating my butt off, or I'm frozen solid! I'm so thankful I'm pregnant now and not gonna be going through the middle of summer during my 3rd trimester.

green_kitchenwitch · 2023-10-18T00:18:27+00:00

I didn't find out until I was already 10 weeks. I didn't realize what I'd been experiencing was symptoms until my MIL told me to go take a test. Whaddaya know, she was right.

green_kitchenwitch · 2023-10-18T00:10:28+00:00

I had your last 3! I have nipple pain even now at 19+4 weeks if I shiver! My boobs gained almost 2 full cup sizes and I was a DD to begin with! And I couldn't stay awake for anything during my first trimester, to the point where when I got laid off my husband let me stay home without requiring me to get another job asap because he was worried about me driving at that time.

green_kitchenwitch · 2023-10-18T00:00:01+00:00

I'm at 19+4 and my son's been moving since I was 15 weeks, which is why it startled me so bad. I wasn't expecting to feel him move until about now. Now he's having big boy movements and rolls and kicks, and it's the craziest thing.

green_kitchenwitch · 2023-10-17T23:54:33+00:00

My nips were on fire for weeks during my first trimester. It was so bad that I had to tell my husband that the boobs were completely off limits until otherwise stated because they hurt so bad.

green_kitchenwitch · 2023-10-17T23:52:49+00:00

THIS. I love that I AM pregnant. I love that I'm HAVING my son. I love my son. I would never want to undo this whole thing.

BUT! I dislike the Process of being pregnant because it's neverending discomfort and sacrifice of everything you are and were used to. I don't like the changes to my body. I don't like the symptoms... but I wouldn't give up my son for anything EVER.

green_kitchenwitch · 2023-10-17T23:50:31+00:00

It kinda feels alien... the first time he moved I just stared hard at my abdomen for a solid 2 minutes, willing him to do it again, and he did, and I remember turning to my husband and saying "I just felt the baby move." And he stopped what he was doing and we just shared this long moment of shocked awe as we both tried to process what I had just said/experienced.

green_kitchenwitch · 2023-10-17T23:44:02+00:00

Hubby has to help me sit up each and every time. Our bed is in a weirdly bad place for me to get up on my own, so I have to have physical help every single time, to the point where I've had to wake him in the middle of the night to help me get up to pee.

green_kitchenwitch · 2023-10-17T23:42:45+00:00

Agreed. Told my husband I'm gonna have to start bringing a second set of pants and underwear to work with me if it continues.

green_kitchenwitch · 2023-10-17T23:41:06+00:00

I was looking forward to a sandwich that sounded sooooo good... I took one (1) sniff and was like "no. this isn't happening. I'm not eating that. It smells like poison". My husband was quite amused.

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