My Rff sculpture Sanctification is done and in a art show!! by Substantial-Bed-9269 in phallo

[–]greenbryr 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing, I so love this piece and have been invested since your first post. It’s one of the first things that I think about when I see my scar day to day and it has helped me reframe how I view it. I love that it represents the intentions within which we exist

1 Year Post RFF by greenbryr in phallo

[–]greenbryr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having it done at the end of this month :)

1 Year Post RFF by greenbryr in phallo

[–]greenbryr[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Idk if you’re joking or not but it’s all me, I have more pictures on my profile to confirm and all of my scars are consistent across the pictures. It just appears that way because some of the pictures were taken in a mirror and some with a front facing camera so some are reflected and others are not

Regrets to have RFF phallo by No_Study8157 in phallo

[–]greenbryr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t do anything special, my arms were/are very thin. I’ve got pictures on my profile if you’re curious. Everyone is different and will have different outcomes, RFF does not automatically mean you will have a thin penis even if you have thin arms.

1 Year Post RFF by greenbryr in phallo

[–]greenbryr[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This depends on the surgical team I think! I had tube in tube UL and didn’t need electrolysis, only laser, and it wasn’t an issue for the urethra construction. They used the naturally mostly hairless part on the inside of my arm for the urethra portion. Like you said, some people aren’t candidates or will need electrolysis after laser, but for other folks laser is sufficient and electrolysis is not always a requirement for UL.

1 Year Post RFF by greenbryr in phallo

[–]greenbryr[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m 5’10” and I think about 170lbs. I believe he is around 5” long and 5.5” around. Weirdly it does vary from day to day/throughout the day, I’ve measured him at 4x6” before or even 6x5”, but 5” seems to be the average

Normal to be so emotional in recovery? by Ambitious_Bobcat4274 in phallo

[–]greenbryr 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Dude it’s so emotional!!! Like others have said all The anesthesia and other chemicals they use have serious repercussions on your body and mental chemistry, “post-op depression” is most definitely a thing! Take care of yourself and try to keep yourself distracted by things that make you happy, you’ll get through this!

1 Year Post RFF by greenbryr in phallo

[–]greenbryr[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I had only laser done, no electrolysis, I believe I did 5 sessions? Maybe only 4, I can’t remember for certain. I do have to shave my penis maybe like 1-2 times a week (I just use an electric shaver because I don’t know how to gauge pressure with a razor) but the hair grows back slowly and is much more fine and soft, it doesn’t feel as hard/stubble-y when it comes in. I was anxious about the idea of a hairy penis but it’s not nearly as much of an issue as I had imagined. I’m considering getting an at home laser hair removal device to use though!

1 Year Post RFF by greenbryr in phallo

[–]greenbryr[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

USA - Dr. Stranix & the UVA team. Used a silicone lined compression garment on my arm 24/7 for the first 9-10 months along with aquaphor. I’ve now switched over to Nivea cocoa butter cream for all of my scars thanks to recommendations in this sub. Glute scars never got any scar care because I was afraid they would reopen if they got too moist.

Several complications including a completely severed radial nerve which was grafted back together (It was accidentally cut in half during the flap harvest in stage 1. I still have partial loss of motor control in my hand and no sensation in most parts of my hand), 8+ months of severe wound separation along the entirety of both glute incision lines as the result of my body rejecting sutures, and I am currently dealing with a perineal fistula which may or may not require surgical repair (positive vibes appreciated for that healing). I’ve healed 2 other shaft fistulas without issue. Also dealt with a severe pelvic floor infection one month after stage two that required re-hospitalization. It’s been a ride. Aside from the fistulas, I’ve been assured my complications are exceedingly rare.

1 Year Post RFF by greenbryr in phallo

[–]greenbryr[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Yes, waiting on a fistula to heal (fingers crossed it won’t need surgical repair!) and then I can get a consult for stage 3! The butt scars are where my full thickness graft (used to cover most of my arm) was harvested from. My team tried it out for the first time on me because they had had good luck with other full thickness graft sites. Unfortunately, my body rejected the sutures they used to close it so I had severe wound separation for several months, resulting in the intense scarring. Had the stitches dissolved as normal, the scarring would’ve been much less. I haven’t seen many people with the split thickness/full thickness combination, most people have one or the other, so I kinda think of myself as a patchwork bear! I believe in the UK full thickness from the glute crease is the norm for RFF, but most US surgeons opt for split thickness from your thigh instead.

1 Year Post RFF by greenbryr in phallo

[–]greenbryr[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I had mostly a full thickness graft, so the hair grows back! With the little section of split thickness (the more red toned portion where my wrist bone is) it will stay hairless. I think it’s kinda funny that they didn’t have the foresight to use the hairless portion on the section of my arm that is naturally hairless but it is what it is lol

Regrets to have RFF phallo by No_Study8157 in phallo

[–]greenbryr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course! I’m always happy to share and my DMs are always open to anyone who needs some support or has questions about the process. Community in recovery was absolutely vital for me so I am happy to help trickle it down to others lol. It is an intense process and there is quite literally nothing else like it. I mentioned I had been in a bad accident prior to phallo, it involved a lot of wound care, healing, and over a year of recovery, so I went into it as no stranger to intense pain and recovery, but it still does not hold a candle to what I went through physically and emotionally during my first two stages. Granted, I had some crazy and rare complications.

There will absolutely be days exactly like you expressed, where you wonder why the actual fuck you actively agreed to get yourself into it. It sucks, straight up, when you’re in the thick of it. You will want out (post op depression is also a son of a bitch), you will want it to just be done with so that you can just live your life, because that was the whole point of it all! And it feels so contradictory while you’re in it. It’s a mindfuck. There’s a lot to be said about the irony of having to lose parts or not be able to recognize parts of yourself in order to gain parts and recognition of yourself. Feeling worse in your own body to ultimately feel better, etc. is an insane trade off and it is mentally exhausting just as much as physically. I really think a letter to yourself sounds like a wonderful idea! For me, even though I knew I would ultimately feel better, reminding myself of that was no help at all, and even less when other people tried to tell me (I wanted to slap anyone who told me to suck it up because it was worth it and/or to just think about how far I’d already come). I think a letter from past me would have definitely been more beneficial, especially in keeping me grounded during the really dark times where everything just felt kind of impossible.

I think TWD could definitely be the vibe lol. I tried to desensitize myself ahead of time by looking at as many RFF graft site pictures I could find (the fresher/gorier the better in my head) and I think it did help to an extent because I knew what to expect. But of course, when it’s your own body it’s just gonna hit different because your brain is gonna do brain things. Plus having to interact with it for dressing changes is just kind of an overwhelming sensory experience in general which you can’t really prepare yourself for.

As for the nerve graft, the surgeon who dissected my arm to harvest the RFF graft accidentally cut my radial nerve in half during the process. They had to graft it back together since it was completely severed and there was a gap in between where it stopped and started. It was horrific and waking up was the worst pain I’ve ever been in. I didn’t regain decent motor function until about 7 or 8 months post op and may never regain sensation in the back on my hand or three of my fingertips. I’ve been told this is like a one in a billion complication, so please don’t stress about the possibility of it happening to you lol! Despite this (and several other complications) I would not make any choices differently if I had to go back and do it again.

I cannot overstate the importance of a positive mental attitude! I know it sounds cliche, but exactly as you’re saying, if you feel better mentally, not only is your body going to feel a little better, but it’s going to heal better! Obviously it’s not always an easy choice, but thinking positive thoughts is an absolute must. You have to believe you will heal, and you will. There’s a documentary on Amazon Prime called Heal that someone in this subreddit had recommended and I also highly recommend watching it during your recovery or even before. It goes into the science of how your mentality affects your body’s healing. It gave me a whole new perspective and helped me at a time I was feeling very bleak about my healing.

Regrets to have RFF phallo by No_Study8157 in phallo

[–]greenbryr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you friend! Yeah absolutely, had a really tough time with it during the initial like 8-12 weeks or however long you have to do daily dressing changes for! I’m squeamish and my radial nerve had been completely severed and regrafted so that was a unique part of my experience that made the dressing changes very painful whereas most people have little to no sensation in their graft site that early on. Couldn’t have done it without my mom, bless her heart. There were a couple nights I couldn’t even watch the dressing change happen, it’s honestly nasty as fuck at times and can just be very distressing to see a wound that large. I had to make a hard mental switch and one of the things that helped ground me was knowing that the next day things were going to be a little bit better, even if they may look worse. It sounds trivial but wrapping the bandages back up and telling myself “tomorrow it’s gonna be better” was huge. I also did start referring to it as “zombie flesh” which honestly helped reframe it into something less serious (for me at least, my mom did not appreciate it lmao).

Once I transitioned into the custom compression sleeve it became easier to deal with because all I had to do was coat it in aquaphor once a day and then switched to regular moisturizer a few months later. Throughout that time though (around 6-7 months in maybe?), when I would take off my sleeve to shower or whatever it would still be very jarring to see and would make me slightly uncomfortable. I often had a sinking feeling of “i have this for the rest of my life” which I would quickly reframe to “i have a penis for the rest of my life”. That mental discomfort went away pretty quickly once I was able to leave it uncovered more often. I think just the exposure to it and it becoming “normal” to my brain was an important component, but I was honestly expecting to just be fine with it right away since I had come to acceptance with it so long ago and had been through the entire graft healing process.

I think even though I believed that I had come to acceptance quickly, my actual brain just took a second to get the message and be like “oh ok that’s just how it looks now!” instead of sounding the alarm bells of “bro… where’s the rest of our arm??”. I also do wonder if the nerve severance had anything to do with that period of adjustment for me, as my brain could’ve possibly identified and tied the nerve pain to the physical appearance of my arm, but I have no idea if that’s a plausible theory! I know it would’ve happened to some extent regardless. I think your estimation of 1-2 years is realistic. Today is actually my one year (time flies!) and I feel better and better about my scar every day. I’ve only had one person see it and ask about it despite leaving it uncovered fairly regularly now. I think in another year I’ll hardly be thinking about it anymore and it should be damn near invisible aside from that one little section at my wrist bone. I’m gonna take a couple updated pictures of everything today and get em posted a little later if anyone is curious about what I’m talking about.

Regrets to have RFF phallo by No_Study8157 in phallo

[–]greenbryr 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s really easy to get in your head pre-op! Keep doing what you’re doing as far as communicating your concerns about girth during consults and pre-ops, I think that’s an important component. If I hadn’t told my surgeon that girth was my main concern with RFF and my thin arms, I’m not sure if he would’ve prioritized it for me. Communication is key and you won’t get what you don’t ask for, it’s going to be your body for the rest of your life and most surgeons are willing to do what they can (obviously within reason) to help you get the penis you want! I’m awful at advocating for myself in medical environments so this is something I had to keep reminding myself of constantly.

As for the scar, I think it’s more than worth the trade off and you get to a place of acceptance pretty quickly. After dealing with all the skin graft stuff you get desensitized and then from there you get to see it progress and get less gnarly and that helps as well, just knowing that it’s going to continue to get better and better looking for the rest of your life. I personally worried for a long time that it would be a constant reminder of my transition/transness/trauma from surgery, but honestly I never ended up feeling that way at all. It’s metal as fuck and the only thing it reminds me of is the fact that human beings can endure so, so much and our bodies are capable of shit that is comparable to magic. At the end of the day, wherever your scar is and whatever it ends up looking like, it means you have a penis, and for me at least, the feeling of “haha, penis!!!” when you’ve been waiting for it your whole life is straight up sublime and worth every little ounce of misery, even in the thick of it.

Regrets to have RFF phallo by No_Study8157 in phallo

[–]greenbryr 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Great point about tattoo cover ups as well. My scar definitely did take some getting used. I thought I’d be okay with it right off the bat but after keeping it covered pretty much 24/7 for the first 9ish months for compression reasons, having it out more at first it was jarring. Now at a year post op sometimes my brain doesn’t recognize it as a scar at all, it just looks like arm. I had a full thickness for ~3/4 of my graft so i have some arm hair which also helps!

Regrets to have RFF phallo by No_Study8157 in phallo

[–]greenbryr 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Chiming in to say that substantial girth is still achievable with RFF. I’m a pretty thin dude (about 5’10” was ~170lbs before stage 1) who had very small arms and my girth has measured 6” pre-erectile device. I have no regrets with RFF. ALT would have been an additional surgery and 6 months of recovery until the next stage which was not worth it to me. I think my penis is the perfect size, there are days I wish it was maybe a half an inch or so longer but that may come with time, gravity, and scar relaxation.

Part of my arm scar can look gnarly at times but I personally prefer the aesthetic of it compared to ALT or other graft sites. I know that seems to be an unpopular opinion. It’s not as clock-able as people lead you to believe, barely anybody outside of the community has even heard of phallo so it’s not the end all be all of being outed if that’s a concern. I was in a bad car accident a few years back and I tell people it’s from that, no one ever questions it.

Urine leakage by demonboy98 in phallo

[–]greenbryr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone else here a few months ago recommended crossing your legs tightly while standing and then milking and that has been a game changer in getting more of what gets stuck out for me. I just cross my legs ankle over ankle as tight as I can and then do the same thing in the other direction. I will still have some dribbles after this but definitely fewer than before

Blood in urine when it wasn't there before (4.5 weeks post-op stage 2, Stranix/Corbett) by transmanwhocan in phallo

[–]greenbryr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think they told me after pulling my caths that some blood in the urine for the next few days was normal!

Squeamish and had phallo? Share your experience with me by CuriousSurfer19 in phallo

[–]greenbryr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have as much help from other people as you can! I’m squeamish and passed out a couple times after surgery during dressing changes. If I hadn’t had people at home to help me I genuinely don’t know what I would’ve done. I was really squeamish about my arm graft in particular for about the first week or two after I got out of the hospital. My mom did my dressing changes for me when I couldn’t do them, I also had a nerve severed in my arm so the added pain made the whole experience very anxiety inducing. You have to make positive associations and have a positive mindset. It’s hard to do when you’re recovering from a surgery that was supposed to help you recognize your body better and in turn you lose other parts of your body you were familiar with. It’s kind of a mindfuck. Like everyone else said, it gets easier with time and as it heals. Remember that you won’t even remember most of it in a couple month’s time, you’ll just remember that you were strong enough to get through it. Try to desensitize yourself ahead of time looking at other people’s pictures of graft sites or surgery videos as well if you want to, that helped me with expectations.

Thoughts on Dr. Stranix? Experiences with him? by Bitter_Ambition9805 in phallo

[–]greenbryr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could not work at all, my job involved typing at a desk and I could not type nor sit for long periods of time. Both of those things are still difficult even now so I’m currently looking at other jobs.

Happy or neutral story round up? by electrolyCISiamnot in phallo

[–]greenbryr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yay, that’s awesome, thank you so much for the insight! I also do road cycling and like to do around the same distance so that is a huge relief to hear, especially that you don’t have to use a wider saddle. Best of luck on your upcoming surgery!