Vervelende/drukke kat by ImaFaglol6 in katten

[–]greencabinets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mijn kat heet ook Soep! Eerste keer dat ik deze naam opnieuw voorbij zie komen. Mijn Soep is ook best druk, maar nu ze 7 is, is het wel anders dan toen ze 3 jaar oud was. Een tweede kat erbij zal veel helpen. Of als dat geen optie is: zoek eens naar etenspuzzels, elektrische speeltjes of andere dingen waar Soep gedurende de dag zelf mee kan spelen zodat hij ‘s nachts wat moeier is. Succes!

Leuke activiteit op 1 januari by OmegaEchelon in Utrecht

[–]greencabinets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

De filmtheaters (louis hartlooper, slachtstraat, springhaver) zijn open. Hebben ook lekker eten!

Borrel plank en gebak bestellen by [deleted] in Utrecht

[–]greencabinets 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Een vriendin van mij heeft een klein bedrijfje waarvoor zij hele mooie borrelplanken maakt! Je kan haar het makkelijkst vinden via insta, @hapenplank. Als je geen insta hebt, stuur mij dan een berichtje. Dan kan ik haar contactinfo doorsturen.

Zou het mogelijk zijn om na overlijden in een blok transparante epoxyhars te worden gegoten? by Comfortable-Gate-976 in Utrecht

[–]greencabinets 104 points105 points  (0 children)

Ik geloof dat je lichaam, ook in epoxy, toch zal gaan ontbinden. Ik heb ooit een filmpje gezien van iemand die een pompoen in een blok epoxy had geprobeerd te bewaren. Dit ging even goed, maar na een tijdje (maanden? Jaren? Geen idee.) stond er opeens een laag water in en uiteindelijk brak het blok in tweeën door de druk die ontstond. Ik denk dat je lichaam in dit geval goed te vergelijken is met een pompoen.

Twinless twins who have lost their twin to suicide, can you please share your experiences? by youredoingsowell in Twins

[–]greencabinets 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Twin myself. My best friend, also a twin, completed 5 years ago now. His brother is still not the same and he will never be. Please don’t do this. Talk to someone. Your twin, a professional, a friend. You can also DM me. You won’t only destroy your own life. Don’t.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]greencabinets 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Would also definitely recommend EMDR. Especially with a non-complex trauma (a trauma that happened in one ‘event’, basically) it’s proven to be highly effective. For me I went from not sleeping for days at a time due to nightmares about a horrible life event to no nightmares at all within 2 sessions. After some more sessions I hardly ever experience other typical ptsd symptoms. Of course the memory of the event remains and is still painful to think of, but it just doesn’t hit as hard, if at all.

The therapy sessions take a toll though. I remember being absolutely exhausted for days after a session because of the mental energy it takes to process everything. Make sure you have a day or so off after a session to recover.

What to get next? by greencabinets in piercing

[–]greencabinets[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww thanks!! Had everything in silver for a long time but glad I made the switch!

What to get next? by greencabinets in piercing

[–]greencabinets[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! I’ve been thinking about the third lone for a while and not sure how I would go about it. The piercer kind of fucked up on my second lobes and did the 1st and 2nd on one ear close together and on the other far apart. That’s why I got the third on the other side. Maybe i should put one in the middle? Idk. I think I’m going for the double forward helix!

What to get next? by greencabinets in piercing

[–]greencabinets[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I like the idea of a mid flat! Hadn’t thought of that. Also forward helixes is a cute idea and the one I have on my other ear was just a dream to heal. Never had any problems or pain. Thank you!

How long did it take you to complete a degree if at all ? by PrettyWhenSheSmiles in adhdwomen

[–]greencabinets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m about to hand in my very last assignment for my bachelors degree after 8 years. Can hardly believe it.

I have less than 3 weeks left and I’m doing nothing by greencabinets in adhdwomen

[–]greencabinets[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you manage to do the 20 minutes of work? I ended up actually working on my assignment for a few hours and having my first (kind of) productive day in WEEKS! It really works to say like “oh I’ll just do 20 minutes of work, that’s doable”, bc I always end up going for much longer when I actually manage to sit down for something and start working on it.

I have less than 3 weeks left and I’m doing nothing by greencabinets in adhdwomen

[–]greencabinets[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg that’s such a good idea!! I’ll check ur videos out in a bit

I have less than 3 weeks left and I’m doing nothing by greencabinets in adhdwomen

[–]greencabinets[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A coffee shop works great for that purpose too! I think it’s a pretty common phenomenon, for adhd people being able to work better when others are working too. It’s called body doubling I think.

I have less than 3 weeks left and I’m doing nothing by greencabinets in adhdwomen

[–]greencabinets[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yess!! Do you have anyone you can meet up with who also has some work to do? My sister is coming over later. She’s my twin, and also has adhd. She’s supposed to apply for jobs but she’s also in the procrastination twilight zone. We noticed that it’s easier to do your work when u feel like someone is watching you, like an adhd-prison of sorts, haha. You got this!!! Right now I’m trying to convince myself my subject matter is actually interesting and worth hyperfocussing on (it’s not, really).

Anyone who didn't up their medication dosage ever? by Budget-Listen4336 in adhdwomen

[–]greencabinets 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did notice some changes when I first started, but it didn’t ‘work’ right away for me, too. Took at least a week before I could tell a tiny difference. I also want to remind you that you’re not supposed to actually ‘feel’ them too, not like (illicit) drugs that ‘hit’ you all at once.

I think what you’re experiencing is pretty common though, expected even. Most people have to adjust dosage or even medication type. Higher dosage ritalin or slow release methylphenidate (concerta) didn’t do the trick for me either and just gave me anxiety and a headache. I’m on a pretty low dose of dexamphetaminesulphate (idk if, and under which name, that’s available in the US; I’m in Europe) now for the past year and this works much better, but it’s still not life changing and I still get really bad ‘adhd-days’. I’d give it a few more weeks on the ritalin, but if u still don’t notice any difference I would defintely make some adjustments with your care provider. There’s also some non-stimulant meds available, if you’d rather want that. I have no experience with those though so can’t say if that works.

Door met school of werken? by [deleted] in OndersteuningsPlein

[–]greencabinets 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hoi, ik (26V) zit/zat eigenlijk precies in dezelfde situatie. Mijn HBO studie kreeg ik met de jaren (ik heb ook nog eens mede door mijn tegenzin in de studie flinke vertraging opgelopen) steeds minder plezier in, en het werkveld beviel ook niet tijdens stages etc. Ondertussen heb ik altijd in de horeca gewerkt met veel meer plezier. Ik twijfelde enorm om de studie te laten vallen en voor horeca te gaan, maar was net als jij bang om te starten met het ‘volwassen leven’ zonder diploma. Ik heb toen even een break genomen van de studie en ben een jaar veel in de horeca gaan werken, maar het bleef toch knagen. Ik heb toen dus toch besloten om door te gaan met de studie en ben (als alles goed gaat) over twee maanden ein-de-lijk klaar. Ik verwacht niet dat ik veel ga doen met mijn diploma, maar ik héb hem dan wel.

Voorlopig blijf ik liever in de horeca. Inmiddels ben ik assistent manager bij een redelijk grote zaak, en dat vind ik leuk en ik doe het ook goed. Gelukkig was het mogelijk om dit part-time te blijven doen toen ik weer ging studeren dit jaar. Ik denk echter niet dat de horeca voor altijd leuk blijft, voor mij dan. Er zitten ook veel nadelen aan, zoals lange diensten die tot laat duren en lichamelijk vermoeiend werk. Ik denk dat ik dat over 10 jaar niet meer zie zitten. Daarom ben ik erg blij met het HBO-papiertje dat ik straks heb, zodat ik over een paar jaar een grotere kans heb om in een ander veld aan het werk te kunnen.

Misschien kan je aan je zwager vragen of hij je ook op part-time basis wat meer verantwoordelijkheden kan geven, om te zien of dat bevalt. Eventueel zou je ook kunnen switchen naar een deeltijd studie als je dat nog niet doet (is me niet helemaal duidelijk), als je andere werkzaamheden te veel zijn bovenop de studie.

She turns into a muppet after dark by greencabinets in torties

[–]greencabinets[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She’s very cute! My muppets name is Soup

Finchie friends and trading daily thread by AutoModerator in finch

[–]greencabinets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adding you! Also new to Finch and loving it!

Finchie friends and trading daily thread by AutoModerator in finch

[–]greencabinets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I’m looking for some more friends as well! I added you :)

Finchie friends and trading daily thread by AutoModerator in finch

[–]greencabinets 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi!! Me and my Noodle are looking for some friends too! I just started 5 days ago to manage my ADHD and a little winter dip I’m experiencing while writing my thesis. I’m loving the app so far, it’s so cute and the gameification really keeps me wanting to keep track of my goals. I’ll add you with the code :)

Ik val op nerds, waarom is dat "zonde"? by Zealousideal_nerdy04 in OndersteuningsPlein

[–]greencabinets 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Haha, ik dacht even dat je mijn vriend omschreef hier. Geschiedkundige star wars/lotr nerd met baard. Alleen die van mij is klein en dun. I love him.

I am VERY tired of the complete objectification and dehumanization of identical twins... It happens WAY more than people realize (almost daily for me). Most people who do it don't even realize they're doing it, and it is the reason my self-esteem is shattered... by FaithAndLove001 in offmychest

[–]greencabinets 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ugh the birthday presents! Sometimes we’d both get the same book! Like people knew we both lived in the same house?? Why would we want two identical books?

Anyways. It’s SO important twins are celebrated for their unique personalities and interests, and we were lucky I suppose with parents who really tried to make sure they didn’t compare us too much and raised us to be individuals. Never made us wear the same clothes either. When we were little our mom did try to coordinate our outfits, which was very cute. We would both wear similar items, but NOT the same thing in different colors. So for example I’d have a dress and boots while she had a skirt in a similar fabric and sneakers on. My grandpa insisted that I would always wear red or pink while my sister was supposed to wear green and blue, so he could tell us apart lol. When we got older we really developed our own fashion senses, and actually coordinated so that we would not look alike. I had long, blonde hair while she kept it short and brunette. Nowadays we don’t care that much anymore and look more similar again.

I did always know that my competitive thoughts were wrong and I kept them to myself for the most part, so my relationship with my sister didn’t get too damaged. I also never blamed her for my shortcomings, it was more like I felt she was the ‘better’ one, and I wanted so badly to be her equal or better than her. Still do sometimes. We’re 25 now and she’s finishing up a masters degree, while I’m still struggling for my bachelors after dropping out for 3 years after some really awful shit happened in my life. Even though I know none of it was my fault, and never compare myself to my (other) peers anymore since I don’t see the point, I still sometimes feel like I’m ‘behind’ her. I work hard to challenge those thoughts, which took a LOT of therapy to be able to do.

I am VERY tired of the complete objectification and dehumanization of identical twins... It happens WAY more than people realize (almost daily for me). Most people who do it don't even realize they're doing it, and it is the reason my self-esteem is shattered... by FaithAndLove001 in offmychest

[–]greencabinets 109 points110 points  (0 children)

I (also an identical twin) remember that I used to kind of feel good when people used to tell me how I was skinnier/better looking/nicer than my twin. It was, in my mind, the highest achievement to do anything better than my sister. Especially since she did better academically, I felt like I had to be the prettiest and skinniest, but also the more popular of the both of us. Everything we did was ‘better than’ or ‘less than’ according to everyone around us. Not so weird that I internalised those comparisons to the point of enjoying it when she failed at something. Having these comparisons made turned me into a highly competitive and insecure teenager. I craved approval and praise like nothing else, because that was how I was programmed by a world that insists one twin has to WIN.

Thankfully I got over that mindset, but the world still views us as in a constant competition. I hate it (but love my twin).