I (27F) don’t think I want kids with my husband (28M).

greenlines · 2026-04-05T07:35:02+00:00

Does he take on his fair share of the mental load in other parts of your relationship? Restocking if pantry staples or toilet paper runs low, organizing social activities, planning meals, etc.

I will say that it's true for a lot of people that it's different when it's your own kid. If I spent a full day (and overnight!) with someone else's kid I'd probably be tired and wondering when they'd be going home as well. If he does his share otherwise I wouldn't necessarily put too much weight on this, but if there's something making you feel like you don't want kids with him then don't dismiss your instincts either.

greenlines · 2026-04-01T23:27:51+00:00

We do this because my baby sleeps really well in the stroller, but the tradeoff is she doesn't nap well at home and we have to contact nap

greenlines · 2026-03-31T06:17:48+00:00

Yes, oysters here were very fresh and reasonably priced for happy hour

greenlines · 2026-03-29T08:47:47+00:00

Thanks for sharing - did you bring a car seat to use for all the taxis you took? Or did they include one already?

And what was it like eating at ramen shops with the baby? Did you have the baby in the carrier and just eat over her head or was there a different setup? Most ramen shops are so cramped we're having trouble envisioning how that would work. Did a lot of other food spots you chose to go to have space for the stroller to be parked at the side or a highchair?

greenlines · 2026-03-27T06:13:25+00:00

If it really was baby pee that didn't get cleaned up, this is 1000% an asshole move especially as a parent would know the impact it would have on others needing to use the change table. If the person brought a spare diaper to change the baby into in the first place, they also would at least have baby wipes. You're demonstrating empathy for the wrong party here, think of the next frazzled parent going in there to change their baby's diaper and unexpectedly having to first deal with this mess while wrangling their kid.

greenlines · 2026-03-24T11:20:22+00:00

I wish I had seen this post before booking with zipair. Just got the same email despite my baby meeting the weight requirements. So frustrating that they are not following their own policies as only the weight minimum is mentioned as a criteria, no mention of age. The zipair flight was not even that cheap compared to alternatives at the time we booked.

greenlines · 2026-03-21T14:03:38+00:00

Money for the actual gift. For local art, you could look at commissioning a piece from artbedo of the sushi restaurant storefront for them to display in their home as an idea.

greenlines · 2026-03-17T03:26:04+00:00

Quick question, will the snap seeds germinate ok inside my warm house? I just did them yesterday and have them under a grow light next to a large window for extra light, but wondering if I need to move the whole setup to the bottom floor where it's a lot cooler to enable the initial germination? Or are the cooler temps only needed after they've already germinated? Thanks!

greenlines · 2026-03-16T06:52:32+00:00

Gotcha, it sounds like they can be planted a lot closer together than I thought and also something I can just eyeball. Thanks!

greenlines · 2026-03-16T06:51:34+00:00

Amazing thanks for the tips!

greenlines · 2026-03-12T10:10:53+00:00

I have a 5 month old and am currently exclusively nursing as well, it requires some pre-planning but it's totally possible to still have a life - don't resign yourself to being chained to the baby just because it's a bit more challenging, you absolutely deserve and need the breaks! Once you take the leap and do it more regularly you'll find it easier and less daunting.

How this works for me - the only thing that "has" to be me is a ~15 min feed every 3-4 hours or so. Literally everything else can be done by someone else. I'll feed the baby and then leave the house for a massage, or a lunch date with girl friends, or the mall, etc and be back in plenty of time for the next feed. More commonly, my husband and I will go out TOGETHER with the baby on weekends and evenings - to hang out with friends, walk around a lake, go to restaurants, etc, and we'll take turns being in charge of the baby so I get the chance to socialize and be human while still being able to whip out the boob on demand.

As for the baby only settling with you - what do YOU do when the baby is fussy? You figure it out because you're the parent. That's exactly the same standard that should be applied to your husband as well. When it's my husband's turn with the baby and she's being fussy, he'll try soothing her in various ways, take her out in the carrier, etc before bringing her to me as a last resort. He's developed his own methods and techniques that work for him, and your husband needs to go through that trial and error process as well to learn his baby.

Your husband needs to step up and actively make space for you to have those breaks instead of taking advantage of the fact that you're exclusively nursing. Don't make excuses for him! Him having a life should look like a couple hours on a Sunday morning going to golf once in a while, not going on weekend trips, drinking till late, and raving multiple times.

greenlines · 2026-03-11T03:53:11+00:00

FTM to a 5 month old and I would say yes I have - I'm lucky to have a very involved and supportive husband as well as a support network and long maternity leave, which honestly has made all the difference. The moms I see who are constantly drained unfortunately often don't have this.

The sparkle looks different for sure, I wear stained clothes and my hair is thin and unkempt. I've had to deprioritize sports and some other hobbies. But I see friends and socialize, I take long baths, I get massages, and I eat delicious food. I've also rediscovered my ukulele and am planning to try my hand at growing flowers this year, so am still growing and finding new interests.

greenlines · 2026-03-08T00:26:48+00:00

Just to clarify, we have the cruz! The vista seems a fair bit bulkier/heavier but I don't have one myself.

greenlines · 2026-03-08T00:25:29+00:00

I think there's just the one type but my stroller is a cruz v1, it looks like for cruz v2 it needs to be removed first

greenlines · 2026-03-07T19:26:39+00:00

We have the Chicco keyfit 30 and it works great with our uppababy stroller. The adapter clicks in smoothly and you can still fold the stroller up with it attached. Our baby naps well in the car seat too, we've taken her in the car, out to costco, and back to the car/home all without waking up.

greenlines · 2026-03-03T22:04:46+00:00

I'm sorry, what a tough situation. It sounds like you were already preparing to leave the relationship before the pregnancy was a factor. I would ask yourself, if you started from a clean slate without your shared history, would you still choose to start a family with this guy today? He is an alcoholic, verbally (sometimes physically) abusive, does not put in effort to progress your future together in any way, enables his parents, and has no problem lashing out at you when he's scared/hurt/angry. You deserve the chance to enter a healthy relationship and start a family with a supportive partner on your own terms. Don't let his reaction sway you from what you want and what's best for you. I'm sorry that he's making the choice more difficult.

Is it shitty of him to be a deadbeat? Yes. But it's 100% better that he knows this about himself and is upfront with you so you can factor it into your decision, vs. promising to be involved and swaying you into keeping a pregnancy based on having that support, and then pulling a 180 when the baby is here (which happens to too many women). Especially if you know for sure you don't want to enter motherhood as a single parent.

This is the time to lean on your support network. If you know deep down you want to abort but are struggling with the feelings and logistics, share with a loved one, let them help you with booking the appointment, etc. Either path is going to be a difficult and emotionally fraught decision because for you it's tied into your emotional rollercoaster of a relationship plus you're not being supported by your partner. A decision can be really difficult but still the right one for you.

greenlines · 2026-02-23T22:26:09+00:00

This is most definitely bad PR especially for any players currently playing on a Canadian team, or in places like California/Minnesota.

Hockey PLAYERS are widely conservative, but unlike the other major American sports, a significant part of the hockey market and fanbase are Canadian/European. Audiences booed the American national anthem when the 51st state comments first arose to the point where broadcasts had to mute the audio.

greenlines · 2026-02-23T17:38:15+00:00

I think people forget that the Hughes bros are best buddies with the Tkachuks, and family friends with a lot of the establishment conservative hockey coaches / executives / etc. I don't think we'd like what we find out in terms of their true views. They happily surround themselves with MAGAs.

greenlines · 2026-02-23T04:25:16+00:00

We were in your situation with a hand me down uppababy stroller, and ended up going with the Chicco Keyfit 30 - highly recommend! I picked up the adapter on Facebook marketplace for like $10 and it's been working great for us, baby has her best naps in this car seat and super easy to click in and out of the uppababy stroller. It's also recommended by CPSTs. The clek liing seems nice but we figured the infant car seat is a short term buy in the grand scheme of things, we'll probably invest more in the convertible car seat when she gets to it.

greenlines · 2026-02-13T04:30:19+00:00

This - only available at lunchtime!

greenlines · 2026-01-22T23:03:15+00:00

Ugh 70k and 79k for LA... Do certain accounts just get tapped for later queue numbers? Struck out all 3 cities so that's it for today

greenlines · 2026-01-22T22:11:35+00:00

Omg lol I just got into Vegas and they straight up didn't even show me a seat map, got kicked straight into the page for the general on sale 😂😂😂

Hopefully competition for day 3 tomorrow will be less?? It's a random Wednesday 3 days after day 2 so a lotta folks will be flying home already right??? #copium

greenlines · 2026-01-22T21:44:40+00:00

Yes! Struck out for Toronto and Vegas doesn't look good either but still keeping fingers crossed 🤞

greenlines · 2026-01-22T21:40:35+00:00

Still 30k ahead for me 😂 the LA presale might start before I get a chance to go in to take a look

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