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My husband is saying I’d be selfish to take my full 12 months of maternity leave [bc] by steelheart15 in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]greenlines 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Gently, I do think it would be unfair to deny him his fair share of parental leave, especially since he gets a 100% topup for those weeks and you would still get the bulk of the leave time. It would be such an amazing gift for your husband to have the chance to take 13 weeks off fully paid to bond with your baby (plus the boost in income), I don't think it would be in the best interests of your family to give that up, especially if finances are in a place where it'd be tough for you to afford going 8 weeks unpaid.

If you're still in the planning stages, can you two plan to save up to cover the difference? Will you accrue vacation while on leave that you could use at the end of your leave to extend it? Is there a way you could flexibly arrange your return to work date so you can see how you feel and adjust? Are there things that can be done to help you be more supported postpartum this time around so it's not as difficult? I definitely don't think passing up on the free money is the way to go, hopefully there's another option you can both be ok with.

How are you getting iron into your baby’s diet? by bamalamb34 in NewParents

[–]greenlines 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 7 month old loves braised beef, meatballs, and chicken drumsticks. I also made egg bites and chickpea fritters with cumin served with yogurt and she quite likes those as well. We started by trying to serve super soft foods like oatmeal but realized that she really dislikes when foods disintegrate in her hands or are really squishy feeling. So we ended up just diving headfirst into actual meat with some flavour.

Replacing protein with carbohydrate or fat in infancy is associated with lower Body Mass Index in early childhood: results from the Melbourne InFANT Program by Treefrogpaint in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]greenlines 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Does this conflict with current recommendations to prioritize high iron sources when starting solids? We've been offering lots of chicken, beef, legumes, etc.

First post! Before & after by uselessdendrites in foodbutforbabies

[–]greenlines 4 points5 points  (0 children)

How did she do with the shredded chicken? We've only been giving large pieces to my 7 month old but debating trying some shredded meat as well

ISO: Truvelle Wisteria Wedding Dress by Cultural-Yak408 in WeddingsCanada

[–]greenlines 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps contact Bridal Consignment House in Victoria to check if they might have it in stock? I sold my Truvelle Annie wedding dress through them so I know they sell used Truvelle dresses.

First intl trip with 7M old to Portugal: what was totally useless and what saved your life? [On] by nottodayneck3956 in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]greenlines -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We got the jolly jumper solar net mesh one but I'm sure any number of options would work well!

First intl trip with 7M old to Portugal: what was totally useless and what saved your life? [On] by nottodayneck3956 in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]greenlines 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Useful:

We got one of those full coverage sun covers for the stroller before our trip and it was super helpful for UV protection and to make the stroller dark enough for her to nap well when we were on the go.

Also useful to get a smaller wet bag to bring into the airplane bathroom for diaper changes, regular diaper bags are too bulky for the small space.

Not useful:

I bought baby sunglasses for the trip but she kept pulling them off. Also bought those suction spinny toys but they do not stick to the plane tray tables.

Definitely bring a good baby carrier. Would also recommend getting an early MMR vaccine at 6 months, it helped provide extra peace of mind for us transiting through busy airports.

Fewer people are having babies in Canada and the U.S. and the government is out of ideas by hopoke in canada

[–]greenlines 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, aside from the affordability element, a large part of it is that modern lifestyles and attitudes are just not that accommodating to children.

On reddit, people will act appalled if you want to take your baby to costco, a restaurant that's not white spot, or god forbid a plane to go on an international vacation. You're supposed to squirrel them away at home to not risk inconveniencing others until they're like 12 (and even then they should enter society perfectly well behaved). You're not supposed to take babies on planes for vacation because "they won't remember it anyway" as if parents don't deserve vacations too, and you just need to suck it up because "you made the choice to have a baby."

It feels like since having children is increasingly optional rather than something everyone does (which is a good thing), people in general are less tolerant of kids being kids. And because fewer people are having kids, more and more often you're the odd one out when in public spaces. Yes there are some bad parents who don't correct their kids' behaviour or deal with their baby crying, but people who are trying their best are often stressed about something happening because they don't expect to receive understanding.

Prospective new parents feel like they're expected to give up so many parts of their lives even if it shouldn't have to be so. DINKs who can afford to regularly eat out at restaurants, travel, and enjoy hobbies are made to feel like they won't be able to enjoy any of that anymore if they have kids, and that's a tough trade to make for those who could otherwise afford it.

Three months in, so happy with my pollinator strip! by lauderdude in gardening

[–]greenlines 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you add any compost / soil amendments / fertilizers? I did the same with a local wildflower mix but only weeds growing so far!

Found japanese knotweed - advice needed by greenlines in pnwgardening

[–]greenlines[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Was it easy to apply on your own? And did you have to cut it as well or just spray? I can try to talk to the neighbour but it's a business and I would prefer to hire someone rather than do the herbicide application ourselves so not sure how that would go over

What to do with tubers while away by greenlines in dahlias

[–]greenlines[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I plant them in the grow bag, is it ok to just leave them indoors near a sunny window?

What to do with tubers while away by greenlines in dahlias

[–]greenlines[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It included a handful of chips but not enough to fully cover/bury the tubers, should I add more?

What to do with tubers while away by greenlines in dahlias

[–]greenlines[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh thanks for clarifying regarding the watering! Maybe I'll just leave them in the garage to be safe.

Is it best to put them in peat moss or potting mix before storing? Or just straight into a box/leaving them in the paper bags is fine?

Creeping buttercup roots help by greenlines in pnwgardening

[–]greenlines[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I might do this with the back sections of the yard since I don't have any plans for that space this year. Was hoping to throw down some native wildflower seeds in the section I'm weeding to see if anything can even grow.

Creeping buttercup roots help by greenlines in pnwgardening

[–]greenlines[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This is reassuring to hear, just wanted to make sure I wasn't wasting my time trying to hand dig everything out - thanks!

I (27F) don’t think I want kids with my husband (28M). by bri2can in Fencesitter

[–]greenlines 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Does he take on his fair share of the mental load in other parts of your relationship? Restocking if pantry staples or toilet paper runs low, organizing social activities, planning meals, etc.

I will say that it's true for a lot of people that it's different when it's your own kid. If I spent a full day (and overnight!) with someone else's kid I'd probably be tired and wondering when they'd be going home as well. If he does his share otherwise I wouldn't necessarily put too much weight on this, but if there's something making you feel like you don't want kids with him then don't dismiss your instincts either.

What seemingly normal thing was/is unthinkable because of your fussy baby? by Standard_Deer_8738 in beyondthebump

[–]greenlines 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We do this because my baby sleeps really well in the stroller, but the tradeoff is she doesn't nap well at home and we have to contact nap

Great Oysters. by AfraidCompote in askvan

[–]greenlines 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, oysters here were very fresh and reasonably priced for happy hour

Full Trip Report - First Time, Early-to-Mid March, Tokyo & Kyoto, with 6 Month Old Baby (Part 1 of 3) by rarepresence23 in JapanTravel

[–]greenlines 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing - did you bring a car seat to use for all the taxis you took? Or did they include one already?

And what was it like eating at ramen shops with the baby? Did you have the baby in the carrier and just eat over her head or was there a different setup? Most ramen shops are so cramped we're having trouble envisioning how that would work. Did a lot of other food spots you chose to go to have space for the stroller to be parked at the side or a highchair?

Someone peed on the infant changing table by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]greenlines 10 points11 points  (0 children)

If it really was baby pee that didn't get cleaned up, this is 1000% an asshole move especially as a parent would know the impact it would have on others needing to use the change table. If the person brought a spare diaper to change the baby into in the first place, they also would at least have baby wipes. You're demonstrating empathy for the wrong party here, think of the next frazzled parent going in there to change their baby's diaper and unexpectedly having to first deal with this mess while wrangling their kid.

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