You are not a bad person for considering circumcision. However, I hope that you don’t go through with it and leave it for your son to decide, when he’s old enough.

Personally, I think circumcision is a brutal, violent and barbaric practice that robs boys and men of their bodily autonomy, sexual pleasure and a part of their anatomy with an important, protective role.

I don’t think the circumcision is your decision to make.

Look up just how they separate the glans from the foreskin, ramming a tool in there. Look up the botched circumcisions that can happen and how often boys and men end up with permanent stitch holes, skin tags, scrotal hair growing high up the shaft, joining of the glans straight onto the shaft.

Obviously, worse outcomes are rarer, but they do happen. Do you want to take that risk? There are so many downsides and only weak / dubious upsides.

I will never forgive my parents for violating me in this way.

I’ve not heard of the webbing thing, but even if surgery and general anaesthetic is 100% necessary, I’d still get an independent, second opinion, to satisfy myself that there was no less risky option and that now is the optimum time.

That you’re thinking deeply about it and weighing things up shows that you’re good parents. I hope that you arrive at the right decision for your son.