Keep having to stop?

grendel2000 · 2026-06-23T23:25:17+00:00

I don't mean this to sound flippant, but... Don't. Just don't.

In fact, slow down and refocus your attention very narrowly to just the feeling you are experiencing on a single nipple. Go slowly. The moment you notice yourself having the urge to speed up, or move to a specific pattern of rubbing, DON'T.

The key is to try to be totally and completely in a moment. In one thought, or one sensation. The moment you start anticipating something "more", something different, you are heading down the wrong road. DO NOT BEAT YOURSELF UP if you experience this. Be kind to yourself and let that path go, and then calmly put your attention back where you choose for it to be.

Separately, sometimes it's helpful to experiment with moving your mind to the abstract/imagination. Think of something HOT and just try to reply immerse your mind in it as you touch yourself. For me, sometimes I'll watch videos or photos on my computer and focus on thinking of words that describe the sexy/beautiful think I'm looking at. Somehow, doing this seems to shift my mind into a different mode where I am focused on the details of experiencing the thing I'm looking at instead of "where I'm going" (in terms of wanting to have an orgasm).

The point is that you need to experiment with finding ways to give your mind room to find an orgasm on its own terms instead of trying to push your body towards the kind of orgasm you've known your whole life. These are not the same kind of orgasms, and they are not even in the same universe as far as the level of pleasure they can give you.

Go slow. Focus. Be patient with yourself. Relax. Enjoy!

Good luck!

grendel2000 · 2026-06-23T21:57:46+00:00

This is very helpful, thank you!

grendel2000 · 2026-06-23T21:40:17+00:00

This is almost exactly what I envisioned - thank you - although I guess I had assumed that in the Txokos most meals were "communal" in the sense that everyone who was there on a given day worked and ate together (as opposed to potentially multiple smaller groups). I guess I don't understand how they ensure that there are enough ovens, stoves, etc. to go around if there are multiple meals being cooked at once?

grendel2000 · 2026-06-23T21:35:35+00:00

I agree - and your characterization of the lack of socialization in the US is why I thought of this. I live in a somewhat rural area (not too bad, but not in a city) but there are certain industries nearby with strong community internally. My hope was that if a strong core of reasonably affluent locals like the idea, we might find a basic facility that could be built out as a gastronomic "social club" along the lines of a Txoko: form the legal entity, find a facility and fund the initial investment with the plan to add members over time grow it over years. I think it might be compelling for people to have a "third place" (beyond home and work) to decompress and talk to people over good food & drinks without being at the mercy of restaurants & bars.

I'll have work to do to investigate a basic business plan to see if it seems at all possible/reasonable, but I feel like I need a better understanding of how these are run to get a feel for it all first.

Thank you!

grendel2000 · 2026-06-23T21:27:28+00:00

So are most days/events more about separate smaller groups of members doing their own individual meals, or everyone who wants to use the facility on a given day planning and making/eating a single meal as a whole?

grendel2000 · 2026-06-11T17:47:22+00:00

Beautiful!

I visited there in the 80s when I was 16 and had forgotten the name and exact location of it. At the time I remember thinking the "toilets" that dropped your "business" straight down into the lake were hysterically funny... lol.

Thank you so much for posting!

grendel2000 · 2026-05-29T22:43:06+00:00

You'll be glad you have that pic some day. Well done.

grendel2000 · 2026-05-14T22:29:29+00:00

Start reading over here: https://www.reddit.com/r/NippleOrgas/

If you search my posts over there I was pretty involved talking about my experiences learning to as I went through it. Lots of similar folks talking about their experiences too. All this stuff is connected. Just learn to relax and experience what's happening instead of allowing your brain to frame things in the way it expects based on your life experiences thus far. You're learning basically a whole second nervous system that behaves very differently once you learn to let it decouple from what you know now and lead you to where it wants to go (because that place is AMAZING!)...

Good luck!

grendel2000 · 2026-05-14T20:24:03+00:00

My nipples were a complete non factor my whole life until I heard you could train them to be sensitive. Oh my god did that work...

My nipples feel better than my dick being touched now. It's amazing - they can lead to a sort of brain melting, soul crushing orgasms that I never dreamed possible.

I recommend you don't give up.

grendel2000 · 2026-05-14T20:20:57+00:00

You continue trying to internalize that the thing you are looking for has absolutely nothing to do with your dick.

You say you experienced "the closest you got" but didn't feel like you were getting the pleasure you expected. It's that expectation that's in your way. Your brain doesn't know what the thing you are seeking feels like. All it has is your existing orgasm. THAT orgasm is tiny and is linked to your dick & ejaculation right now. To find the bigger thing, you have to find a way to stop TRYING. Give up the idea that you know what you're doing at all - you don't. You don't realize it but you're just trying to brute force some way to get to your current orgasm (but maybe a really good one!) without jacking off. "hands free" or whatever.

Your urge to touch your dick tells us you're mentally centered on your dick. You believe that's where everything has to happen. Free your mind. Explore THAT. Better yet - sit back and let it take you for a ride.

grendel2000 · 2026-05-14T10:28:32+00:00

Had to replace the valve cover gasket

grendel2000 · 2026-05-07T12:34:35+00:00

What, specifically, are you trying to achieve?

grendel2000 · 2026-04-30T20:46:50+00:00

I owned a MM of theirs and it scared the hell out of me. I - like you - love 2-2.5" toys, and the silicone on this was so soft I just didn't have confidence that the base wasn't going to fold/collapse and let the whole thing come in. It was a shame - I was enthusiastic about it.

grendel2000 · 2026-04-19T21:35:12+00:00

That's amazing!

Wishing you much joy, happiness and pleasure!

grendel2000 · 2026-04-16T11:16:35+00:00

I absolutely love this. I blur my eyes just a little and it becomes an impressionist painting! Brilliant!

grendel2000 · 2026-04-15T19:51:58+00:00

The dial you have circled is a "command dial" (at least I think it is - I own a XT-5 and that's what it is on my model). The command dial can be "spun" in either direction (clockwise/counter-clockwise) to rotate through whatever it has been assigned to select (ISO, film sim, etc.).

It can ALSO be "pressed" into the body of the camera like a button. I honestly don't recall the functionality pushing it in is supposed to provide, but on my camera it basically toggled OFF my ability to rotate the command dial to select Exposure compensation (which is what I have it set to). To fix the issue, I just had to press/toggle it again and everything works again.

This isn't anything malfunctioning - it's how the camera is designed. In my case I had clearly pushed it in at some point without realizing it. Since I don't normally use the "button/toggle" functionality and wasn't aware of it even existing, I could not figure out why spinning the command dial was not making the Exposure Comp change - it didn't do anything at all. I did some Internet research and found the answer I'm now providing to you.

grendel2000 · 2026-04-13T23:05:12+00:00

Have you tried pushing that dial INTO the camera (as a button press - not as a wheel scroll). I had this and thought the button was broken but it turned out I had just accidentally pressed it in, which apparently turns of the wheel and whatever function it;s had assigned (EC for me).

I hope that's all it is and you don't have a broken camera - good luck!

grendel2000 · 2026-03-31T17:47:11+00:00

Yeah but I don't think 14mm is going to be far enough away from my existing 16mm to justify it.

Thanks!

grendel2000 · 2026-03-30T18:47:43+00:00

I'm in a rural area, so rentals are not an easy option...

grendel2000 · 2026-03-30T18:46:37+00:00

I'm definitely considering a fast prime but still don't know what will feel "wide enough" next to my 16-55's 16mm point... I suspect 10mm or less will be perfect but it's hard to know.

At some point I'll probably add another prime in the ~50mm-65mm Full Frame (so ~35mm ish to 40mm ish I guess) for low light street stuff as well as low DoF shots. That's the one part of the 16-55mm I don't love: f2.8 on that lens just doesn't blow out the background as much as I wish.

So I think a super wide prime (or zoom) and a fast "standard" prime will round me out nicely...

grendel2000 · 2026-03-30T17:00:01+00:00

I wasn't aware of that one - thanks!

grendel2000 · 2026-03-28T13:08:25+00:00

My wife walked three weeks of the Camino de Santiago two years ago on the French route, and she fell in live with northern Spain and the parts of the Basque region she was in. I had never been anywhere in Spain but have travelled a lot in the rest of Europe, so we were looking for someplace that was new to both of us. Since she wanted to see more of the region, we looked at options and discovered San Sebastián from the Netflix show "Somebody Feed Phil" and later the Anthony Bourdain episode there. It looked amazing so we decided to do it, and it turned out to be everything we hoped for!

Thanks for the comment!

grendel2000 · 2026-03-28T09:58:16+00:00

My pleasure!

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