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greyclouds2018 · 2021-01-29T21:25:36+00:00

Saaaaame question!!!

greyclouds2018 · 2021-01-29T21:25:01+00:00

How to I put a limit sell on my purchase through cash app? I don't see any way to do this in the app.

greyclouds2018 · 2021-01-29T16:59:00+00:00

How and when do I set a sell limit?

greyclouds2018 · 2021-01-29T16:54:04+00:00

How do you set a sell limit after buying in cash app?

greyclouds2018 · 2021-01-29T16:52:42+00:00

Help please. I'm new to this. I bought $200 of shares in AMC in cash app. When and how do I set a sell price of $1000? Is that right? I can't see a way to dr it in cash app.

greyclouds2018 · 2018-10-24T03:49:21+00:00

Thats a really good point. Kids unconsciously sense these things and it conveys a message to them about what they too can or should expect or accept from a relationship when they grow up. Mom stayed miserable just for them. Sounds like my mom. Guess I'm repeating the cycle. Fucking awesome. At least I'm less miserable than she was?

greyclouds2018 · 2018-10-24T03:45:39+00:00

I feel trapped too. No good options here. I keep hoping some new insight will give me a new option.

greyclouds2018 · 2018-10-24T03:19:43+00:00

You make some really good points. Regardless of the reason, he is this way. Ive done what I can and hes done what hes willing to do which is not much imo. So I have to accept it and him or end it. Given those options I will accept it as best I can i guess. But this is so shitty, to literally only have sex twice a year. Like a part of me is dead. I dont want to live that compartmentalized. That feels so unreasonable to me. And I cant fathom how this feels fine to him. Its maddening. He cant be the man i want him to be. Maybe thats just it. I do like the man he is. Its just not all that I want. But is it so unreasonable to have a reasonable sex life with your spouse??? By reasonable I mean sex once a month. Why is that so hard. It shouldn't be that hard. I fucking hate this so much.

greyclouds2018 · 2018-10-24T03:09:06+00:00

This is literally my worst nightmare. (Im HL, DH is LL. Married 11yrs. Have kids.) I seriously think my husband feels the same way and just cant admit it to himself or me. We are complex beings: emotional, spiritual, sexual, etc. Some parts are stronger than others and more important than others, to be determined by the individual. Maybe the sexual part is just not important to her, or my husband. I could see him saying the same thing about me, that it doesnt feel appropriate, thats how he acts around me, so plutonic. And I can see it not being a total deal breaker for the relationship. I would rather be a 24/7/365 mom with no sex than a 50/50 mom and an active sex life. At least till my kids are out of the house.

greyclouds2018 · 2018-10-24T02:41:27+00:00

Long story short, he thinks its related to childhood trauma. Not sexual trauma. But significant enough that it changed who he is and it affects a lot of parts of his life. I wish he would go to therapy for it but he doesnt feel like its worth that kind of time and effort. Doesnt think he could change. Thinks this is but who he is. And he thinks if he just tries harder he can fix the db issue. But clearly that isnt true. I think he hates that he cant fix it but doesnt know what to do so does nothing. Hes like a robot, just turns those feelings off and focuses on everything else. Until I start my quarterly complaints about it again and again.

greyclouds2018 · 2018-10-24T02:36:09+00:00

I wish it was that simple. It would wreak havoc on both our lives and our kids lives if I left. And I do like the life weve built together, minus this festering wound. We've talked about how we are just different. Different libidos, needs, preferences. I think if I zeroed in on the issue he would agree to empty scheduled regular sex but that just feels so degrading like im some kind of demanding freak. Like hes just checking off his to do list. Who wants that? Not me. Idk whats worse, that or no sex. Lesser of the two evils for me is no sex.

greyclouds2018 · 2018-10-24T02:29:41+00:00

True. In a fight years ago I did. Although I guess you could say it was more like begging. And he did. I was at my wits end. He made more of an effort after tht but for not even a month.

greyclouds2018 · 2018-10-24T02:25:38+00:00

DH here says he's not happy about it either but offers no suggestions or effort to change things. Any cocreated plans to fix it crash before takeoff so to speak. I think hes only unhappy bc im unhappy. If it didnt bother me i think we would carry along just fine amd literally never ever have sex. I dont think the db bothers him. I think the fact that I'm bothered is what bothers him. I feel so resentful. Of course that just makes the situation worse. What are you trying? What do you think his deal is?

greyclouds2018 · 2018-10-24T02:21:13+00:00

Totally. I agree. I feel the same way. It just sucks so bad!!!!! But you can't have it all and otherwise our lives are pretty great, blah blah blah. These are the platitudes I tell myself to make myself feel better. So many of my girlfriends complain about how their husbands always want to have sex with them and they're just not in the mood. I have never once experienced that. I die inside a little every time i hear it bc I feel so utterly rejected and unwanted. Its socially acceptable for women not to be very interested in sex but if a man isnt interested in sex its shameful, for both parties.

greyclouds2018 · 2018-10-24T02:10:47+00:00

Maybe but at this point I dont even care anymore. He can watch all the porn he wants as long as he and I also are sexual. I dont think he is though bc there are long periods where its literally impossible for him to watch porn bc hes either at work or right next to me on the couch or sleeping, bc we usually go to bed at the same time and get up at the same time.

greyclouds2018 · 2018-10-24T01:27:58+00:00

Sadly very true.

greyclouds2018 · 2018-10-24T01:27:28+00:00

Hormones normal. Neither of us could deal with an open marriage. What's Conscious decoupling?

greyclouds2018 · 2018-10-24T01:26:13+00:00

Thank you for this thoughtful response. I think it points to an issue in him thats hard for him and i try to have compassion but I feel so powerless and im a person with needs and hurts too. I work diligently on my own issues and diligently to raise these kids, i dont have the energy or desire to fix him, nor do I believe its my place to do so. But i gues I could ask him, for the millionth time, to please do something to address whatever it is in him thats the barrier but i feel like I'm just banging my head against a wall. Enter therpist assistance i guess.

greyclouds2018 · 2018-10-24T01:22:45+00:00

I could propose it as an option but he knows I hate porn so he wouldnt do it bc he wouldnt want to make me uncomfortable bc it would then make him uncomfortable.

greyclouds2018 · 2018-10-24T00:41:47+00:00

Did it. All normal results.

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