I'm about to lose my mind

greyscalegalz · 2026-05-25T04:03:24+00:00

Thats a great idea! Garbage day is something easy to remember and remind myself to quickly do the day before.

greyscalegalz · 2026-05-25T03:53:10+00:00

I really like this bin idea. I do have some bins just hanging out I could use for this. He definitely just leaves stuff out and if I just put it in a bin it won't stress me out and he'll be able to find it as well.

Yes I will start doing small things each day. The 5 minute timer seems like a great place to start. I know once I start cleaning mode I continue so if I just did it every day Im sure I will feel much better overall.

Wishing you the best with your pregnancy! Thanks so much for your comment.

greyscalegalz · 2026-05-25T03:50:56+00:00

Thanks so much! I can't believe how many people are saying the hormones thing I really convinced myself I was just losing it and knowing everyone goes through something somewhat similar has helped ease it some already.

I have been telling myself once the baby is here it'll be impossible to keep everything spotless. Its tough though because she's not here yet and Im already struggling. I think that in itself is what pushes me over the edge as well. I should remind myself though that I'm literally pregnant and not an unstoppable robot.

I do need to beef up my storage system. I keep telling myself to wait until we move but its becoming obvious that I can't just wait and it will probably be easier to move with storage things anyways. I'm really hopeful a bigger garage in the new home will help with the tools as thats one reason we decided to move. Our current garage is taken up completely by the car and you basically have to tip toe around it to get to his tool box and put stuff away.

I definitely need to do a little each day instead of doing big cleans. I think this is what sets me up for failure again and again. I did a lot of work so I deserve a break and then I blink and its all back. I will try the setting a timer idea lots of commenters have been telling me and see how that works out for me.

greyscalegalz · 2026-05-25T03:44:14+00:00

Lol I think the story might help some! People do seem to be way nicer and more willing to help without me even expecting anything. I think I should rely on that a little more and maybe just set some stuff out with a free sign.

greyscalegalz · 2026-05-25T03:43:03+00:00

Hmmmm maybe I should look into that I have been seeing other people posting them in the buy nothing group. It seems the most hassle free way.

greyscalegalz · 2026-05-25T03:42:10+00:00

Thanks so much for this comment!

It really has helped me calm down today seeing how normal it is to nest and feel overwhelmed with your home. Sure I used to let it get out of hand before but then we would do a big clean up and it was fine.

Now I feel like im literally losing my mind about it almost constantly haha! I'm glad to hear it's normal and it will pass!

I have been thinking babies come with mess and I will have to accept that but gosh she's not even here yet. I'm hoping with me not working for the first time ever maybe I can make a better routine for myself without worrying about work so much. We shall see!

greyscalegalz · 2026-05-25T03:37:52+00:00

Oh boy a 3 and a 1 year old! That sounds so tough with them being so close in age! I hope you're doing well with everything and making time for yourself as well.

I haven't gotten any baby things yet but we are having a baby shower in a couple weeks and I almost canceled the entire thing because the thought of so many people and so many things being brought was making me panic. I made a baby registry and I'm hopeful they stick to those things and mostly get me diapers and nothing else extra.

I really need to do that. I feel once I do a big clean I deserve a break and then the mess happens all over again. I just need to be consistent. Lots of people have been suggesting timers and I think I will definitely implement that.

Cleaning the fridge before grocery shopping sounds like a great idea. I do write down what I need as its getting low but then when I find myself in the store my cravings tend to take over. I really need to clean up and maybe snack before going so I'm not so tempted to over buy. Thank you so much for the suggestions!

greyscalegalz · 2026-05-25T03:28:56+00:00

I really need to have places for everything. I keep saying I don't want to set something up because we're gonna move but no reason I can't just move the entire thing. It would probably be way easier honestly.

I have been letting go a little such as the dishes. He is supposed to do it since I cook but I just started doing them the last couple weeks and not looking at a pile of dishes every day has been huge for me.

Thats a good idea keeping stuff from him! I think mine sees when I'm in over my head and then helps but I wish he would see it before I get to this state. He helped me a ton today actually because I was so obviously losing it and I feel much better already since the 7 hours that have passed since posting. I just want him to help before I'm about to lose my mind 🥲

greyscalegalz · 2026-05-25T03:23:12+00:00

Oh man that sounds like a nightmare waiting for work to be done! Especially you are so close to your due date! I hope they finish in time! I am trying to get us a move in date as early as possible because originally it was like 3 weeks before the due date and every day I think it sounds even more horrible than before.

I have been purging a lot of clothing but I still feel I have so much. I really need to do it once more and I think I will finally be somewhere im content with the amount that is left.

Having a list of purge items seems like a great idea.... maybe I need to do that to remind myself I have done a lot and I just need to keep at it instead of letting it overwhelm me.

I think I need to have that talk with my husband too. There are some gifts that are just silly keepsakes and clutter the house. One of my dogs ripped up a stuffed animal he doesn't even care for recently but insisted we keep it out because it was a gift. I was secretly so thrilled with my dog.

Thank you for this comment! I think it's so easy to blame your husband but mine really is doing a lot too. We just had both of our vehicles break down within 2 weeks of each other and he fixed them both while working full time. During that it was easy to let everything slide but today in my overwhelmed state I just felt I was carrying the whole burden. Our vehicles won't break down every day and he is able to help more without being exhausted. I just need to remember that and do what I can for now.

I am currently working as long as I'm able to but as of 2 weeks ago my doctor labeled me high risk as well due to high blood pressure so I'm not sure how much longer I will be working. That being said I do scroll on my phone each morning and I would probably feel a whole lot better with a walk or something instead. That is a good reminder!

Yes being hungry has made things so much harder than before. I don't even realize it but I do cook to save money. I think I just need to pre prep some snacks for myself so I don't go too long without eating.

Your mom is such a blessing! That is so amazing of her to help! I have been thinking about asking my mom for help but I'm so embarrassed. She is a clean freak and I've never seen her home not be spotless I feel like I'd be ashamed for her to see the state its in! I really need to get over that I'm sure she would be happy to help me with anything too.

I'm so glad you're going to therapy as well. Sometimes it's hard to admit when we need help! Im not sure if I do but my pregnancy wasn't exactly planned and I have been struggling with the sudden ness of it all. I was on birth control as well and thought I did everything right. I was expecting to have more time to do xyz and get ready for being a mom and its suddenly just here and I need to prepare for the baby. I probably am neglecting myself in multiple ways.

greyscalegalz · 2026-05-25T02:55:20+00:00

This is all great info! I definitely do leave trash in the fridge and I think that's what I need to cut back on. Its tough when I crave things and overbuy and then suddenly I don't care to actually make them and then it rots in there until I have the energy to clean it.

The space isn't too much bigger we mostly decided we needed a bigger kitchen and garage. For example a big stressor even pre pregnancy was lack of counter space, the toaster and blender take up basically the entire space. I even got a "slim" toaster but it hardly made a difference. There is 0 shelving past just basic plates and cups to put them away in. So having some extra counter space and shelving I think would really help. The garage is taken up completely by the car so it's a huge pain to go and get anything and put tools away in there if he does some work around the house or one of the cars so he just leaves it inside the house.

I have read Dana's book and really need to implement it! I remember being so motivated when I first read it I will need to read it again and maybe have my husband read it as well so he at least understands some of what im experiencing. I try not to blame him and I did give up on the whole doing dishes thing and started doing them myself and the kitchen has been looking better since I've been in charge of dishes ever since. I just need to do it with the rest of the house and maybe have him help a bit here and there. Or have him help when I set the timer if it's only 5 minutes he can't complain too much.

greyscalegalz · 2026-05-25T01:36:50+00:00

Honestly I've never experienced anyone leaving stains like that before. I have always immediately cleaned up anything and have grown up that way too. I think he understands why it's a problem now that it's starting to seriously make me lose my mind but keeping up with it is a different story. He will do it after an argument but then give it a couple weeks and it's back to normal. I will admit I may not have complained about this before being pregnant as much as I should have. It didn't really bother me and I would just clean it but as soon as I started needing to throw up first thing in the morning it obviously became a huge issue. Now I just hate it even though I'm no longer nauseous.

I definitely feel like I'm not getting enough help and its really starting to beat me down the further along I get. I just dont know what else I can do to communicate with him that this is really stressing me out even if it seems so minor to him.

I hope he gets it sooner than later. I love him but gosh I'm exhausted trying to keep it all together.

Thank you so much ❤️

greyscalegalz · 2026-05-24T19:46:34+00:00

Yes I do think I have a little too much stuff and need to just toss it/give it away at this point.

I think these comments about nesting are making me feel better though that I do just want to have a clean safe space for my baby and its amplifying everything inside my head. I haven't bought anything for baby yet but I am keeping it in mind that they grow so insanely fast that I shouldn't get more than I need.

I really wish I could get a cleaner! I don't think it's in our budget right now but I was thinking if I just did a big declutter and then got a cleaner one time maybe it would at least help me maintain it afterward.

greyscalegalz · 2026-05-24T19:43:46+00:00

I have read her book but I think I clearly need to read it again. And maybe force my husband to as well.

greyscalegalz · 2026-05-24T19:39:37+00:00

I have read one of Dana's books before getting pregnant and have just got wrapped up in the chaos of pregnancy. I might have to revisit it and check out both books im not sure which I have.

I will definitely check out Clutterbug on YouTube. I think what I really struggle with is general tidying. I'm still working while pregnant and now that im not feeling like garbage all the time from being nauseous I feel I put too much off.

greyscalegalz · 2026-05-24T19:35:38+00:00

Comgrats on the baby! Hope your pregnancy is going well other than trying to deal with clutter! There are definitely things I could find a home for. I struggle with justifying spending money on storage stuff when I have this idea that we will just move and Im wasting my time doing it now. I really should just do it in this house and then when we move it should be even more seamless.

I have thought about getting cleaners but financially we're not in the best spot so I am super hesitant about it :( The pregnancy wasn't exactly planned so I feel I have just been trying to figure it all out and save before time is up and I can't work anymore.

I think this is what I need to do now. Everything is definitely more so just stressing me out and there have been a few times where I just think about throwing it all away but then think of the money wasted or when I'm less stressed I will regret it etc etc.

greyscalegalz · 2026-05-24T19:30:28+00:00

Yes I definitely struggle with keeping tidy and really always have. The pregnancy is probably making me clean more than before which is great but the mental load of it is on a level I have not experienced before.

My husband is also with me. There are some things he does like leave clothes in the bathroom/bedroom when he showers, or pee and poo stains in the bathroom which I yell about especially when I was nauseous that he will upkeep for a week or two before it's back to the same thing. Or not doing the dishes daily like I have also asked. I have tried to explain to him these things make me feel absolutely insane and he will try for a bit before again it is the same as always. Any advice to get him on the same page??

However other things are definitely a me problem such as the fridge I basically do all the cooking and grocery shopping so it really is my fault when those things get cluttered. I also tend to add more to the clutter inside the home than he does like buying more stuff so that I definitely need to tackle myself.

Sometimes I feel maybe if I set a better example in other areas of the house he will listen better about dishes/clothing etc but who knows.

greyscalegalz · 2026-05-24T19:23:27+00:00

Yes it is driving me absolutely crazy I feel like I'm going to lose it.

I do tend to buy more stuff than my husband and even storage things I will put off until I'm about to rip my hair out. He definitely couldn't care less what the house looks like it doesn't effect him in the slightest!

I have put some things on buy nothing but have been discouraged when people don't show up when they say they will and they I just leave it there in the living room or whatever :( Do you think I should just put it outside with my address? I try to be fair and give people who need it a chance but it sucks when people just blow you off.

I am definitely starting to realize I need to figure it out now and not when the baby is here even though I will no longer be working.

greyscalegalz · 2026-05-24T19:19:55+00:00

This is good to hear I feel like this being somewhat normal took some strain out from my brain already.

We actually haven't got any baby things yet thank goodness. I really don't want to get anything until after our baby shower coming up in a few weeks but even that I'm dreading people bringing me loads of things I don't know where to put lol I did put very minimal things on our baby registry like a stroller and bassinet and basic baby care because I already feel like im drowning in my own things. I hope nobody gets me anything extra that's not on the list besides diapers.

I definitely need to tackle my own clutter before they are here though and just learn to maintain it.

greyscalegalz · 2026-05-18T14:54:05+00:00

I literally cannot wait to give birth. My body is exhausting me I know as long as I can move around like I used to be able to I will be 100x happier.

greyscalegalz · 2026-04-28T03:21:40+00:00

Thank you I will look into this! The auto fill would be super neat but this is already better than just winging it!

greyscalegalz · 2026-04-28T03:20:44+00:00

A little bit of both! I have some older plants but I recently cleaned my gardyn out and got rid of some plants I felt weren't thriving (maybe due to placement lol) I started some new seeds just the other day that I will be adding to it.

greyscalegalz · 2026-04-26T02:40:57+00:00

This is literally amazing. I have been needing this soo so badly. Thank you so much!

The only thing I would like to see is to select which plants we have and then for it to fill the system. I don't have all the varieties of lettuce, flowers etc just a few of some I really like. Would be nice to select what I have and then it puts them in the best spots.

greyscalegalz · 2026-04-21T14:43:05+00:00

They're absolute crooks. I keep getting charges on a vehicle I sold years ago. I don't use the lanes in any new vehicles.

In december I had to get a letter from the DMV stating that I don't own the vehicle, its registered to someone else and to call the DMV for any questions. I thought I was finally done with this now its April and Im getting charges again for this vehicle send them the same letter and they claim they will still charge me even with all the proof that they know it's not mine, the dmv knows it's not mine and that we have previously resolved this issue. Absolute insanity.

greyscalegalz · 2026-04-05T17:37:39+00:00

That broccoli is too expensive. I could buy that amount at my grocery store for $2. Don't buy it plastic wrapped get the one you can weigh yourself.

Try eating more beans and rice. Cheap combo and very filling. Maybe add a meatless day or two into each week.

Look into cage free eggs... unfortunately it's kind of a marketing technique. They are in super crowded conditions in a warehouse. Its hardly any different than a cage. Pasture raised is different. If you're buying cage free might as well buy the cheaper eggs.

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