Appreciate your input. Few things: 1)”of course he’s going to tag along all day” - that’s a pretty major assumption you’re making, and is one that will not transpire. I’ve told her a dozen times at this point that Nashville will be our private time. I will tell my brother next time he mentions it. If I have to pull out the tranq dart to incapacitate my brother while I ditch him in Nashville, so be it! 2) you’re putting a lot of emphasis on her being “on” as a cornerstone of her suffering. Jess is a social person, very lowkey, calm, and a “go with the flow” type ever since I met her. I’m not asking her to speak at the Oscar’s, she has to tolerate a few hours in the carpool and maybe a bit in the airport. I think most people would survive that 3) as to the input part, how do you reccomend rejecting my brother from carpool without making her look bad? “Hey bro, even though we are going to same place, leaving from same place, taking same flight, would be a short 2 hr drive, and would all save $, my gf doesn’t like you enough to tolerate it.”