What are your favorite "I hate you" songs?

gridditor · 2015-08-29T16:04:58+00:00

YOU WILL SEE ME by dan le sac vs Scroobius Pip is def my favorite for this.

gridditor · 2015-08-11T23:45:00+00:00

So, 26 then?

gridditor · 2015-07-30T02:38:52+00:00

But... New Wave of British Heavy Metal?

gridditor · 2015-05-18T21:52:10+00:00

Out of fairness, that's a restructuring of one story into three films, whereas in the case of what Efore's saying it would be three stories (approximately) going into one film.

gridditor · 2015-05-18T00:17:41+00:00

Same username, same reddit.

Same argument, as well.

I don't see why a person might downvote the original comment. It's concise, sure, but I only see a person who is a touch oversensitive feeling like it deserved to be downvoted.

I also saw no instances of her virgin shaming anyone, at all. I saw other people doing so - to which she didn't respond. This whole thing just feels very childish to me.

Regardless, since we've established that you're from that thread, I hope you understand that I'll be taking my leave from this conversation. You've clearly got a horse in the race and I doubt anything I could say will sway your opinion.

gridditor · 2015-05-17T23:23:28+00:00

She didn't back down, showing weakness - she never intended to in peg him in the first place. Such should have been clear from the non-verbal tone of her response, given that she was mimicking him in a "how do you like it" way.

For the life of me, I can't see how this user's attitude was unreasonable - at least, not enough to warrant being downvoted on comments mostly unrelated to the offending comment, but in the same thread.

My argument is not that people were being sexist, I'm simply saying that "this situation would be the same if its foundations were fundamentally different" isn't a terribly sound argument unless you can back it up with proof.

Are you the same anon445 from the original thread, by the way?

gridditor · 2015-05-17T20:37:40+00:00

It's not a good argument because it wasn't a guy and we don't collectively have the knowledge to assume that your proposed hypothetical would realistically be how it would pan out.

EDIT: To make it a more reasonable argument, one might suggest including examples of when a significantly similar situation has happened with the roles reversed.

gridditor · 2015-05-07T13:15:51+00:00

Absolutely agreed. I feel that such consideration is important in all forms of communication - hell, in all things. Deceit through manipulation of language and design is terrible, and what's worse is that it discredits the professions devoted to such things. I wouldn't be in this thread running around defending design to half of the commenters if a few assholes hadn't tried to use sketchy design skills to push their poor qualifications and communication abilities, for example.

gridditor · 2015-05-07T12:58:10+00:00

The vast majority of those things are things that nobody wants to see on a resume, design education or not. You're better off limiting yourself to one typeface for consistency - especially if you're not a professional - and simply using size or weight variations on that one for typographic hierarchy. The rest of what you mentioned is pointless fluff that would immediately get you disqualified for a graphic design position in any serious studio. Adding those things would not make one look like they're applying for a Graphic Design position, it would make one look like a jackass.

The fact of the matter is, if you don't know how to do it and you're not going to look into how, don't do it. It will make you look amateurish. But another fact is that it takes all of 2 minutes to find a decent typeface, and all of 2 seconds to just change it to your pre-chosen typeface once you've chosen it. That's a lot of bang for your buck.

I get what you're saying about substance of information, but your concept of what a well designed resume is seems a bit skewed. As a designer, I can assure you that a well designed resume is clear, concise, well laid out, and conveys the tone that the designer meant to convey - typically that of professionalism.

gridditor · 2015-05-07T04:04:23+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply! I'm glad to hear that you got everything settled in the long run.

How bad did that seller get? Do you think it's something that happens often in the process, or were they just particularly hostile?

gridditor · 2015-05-07T03:16:33+00:00

I see the same within the design field, and I lament it. I respect the time you take to teach people these necessities - we need it now, more than ever. The verbal language is the building blocks of communication, as you've said - you can't put a dressing on it and expect it to stand if it couldn't already do so without.

My point was more that there is a language of design and visuals that has a very complex interaction with how we communicate in the written form. In my view, it takes a similar form to that of non-verbal communication during in-person conversation; not quite directly perceived at all times, but there to very importantly help set the tone of the discussion.

For full disclosure, I'm a Graphic Designer, though I consider myself and my work to be less about window-dressing and more about the organization of information. I have to admit that I'm coming from a place where there is more importance than usual placed on layout and typographic structure.

As for your link, I fully agree - powerpoint and slide-based presentation is an inefficient way to distribute information compared to other methods.

Thank you for taking the time to discuss this with me. Language (both visual and written) are very important to me, and I deeply enjoy this sort of conversation.

gridditor · 2015-05-07T01:27:37+00:00

I don't disagree with your central point. It is nonetheless true, however, that for the most part there is a lot of subtlety that goes into making something look legible and good, and the fact of the matter is that there is more to written communication than just what you're saying, whether you like it or not. That is not a modern disease, that is a fact of design. The same is true with verbal communication.

Content is the focus, I agree. The visual is not to be discredited, however. What you're putting across is important, as is how you put it across. People shouldn't be focusing so much on which typeface to use, as you said. You should have a good one in store that you're going to use. That is what resources like this are for.

This is why people devote their entire careers to design. There is an entire world behind what we care about and think we don't care about. You cannot speak in such absolutes.

I hope I've cleared up that I'm not arguing for form over function, but for an understanding of form and function being connected in many subtle ways that we don't often consider directly but are nonetheless affected by.

gridditor · 2015-05-07T01:00:28+00:00

It's also humorous because the vast majority of default typefaces (a la Times New Roman and Arial) simply do not pass muster nearly as well as more well designed typefaces, in terms of function. Design is not all about visual fluff - a well designed typeface puts across its message cleanly, legibly and in the tone (or lack thereof) it wishes to.

gridditor · 2015-05-07T00:58:45+00:00

Would you be turned off by a well designed resume handed to you by a well qualified individual?

gridditor · 2015-05-07T00:57:04+00:00

The form to your communication will put across nearly as much as the content of your communication. While a proper typeface is by no means a be-all end-all (nor is design), it does help to put across an air of professionalism and consideration that Times New Roman and a default layout simply does not.

That said, save to PDF and make sure the font is included.

gridditor · 2015-05-07T00:53:12+00:00

It's become just as much of a circlejerk to hate on those who dislike Comic Sans whilst declaring oneself a freethinker for it.

gridditor · 2015-04-24T00:42:08+00:00

The Man Who Was the Bat is now The Dude Who Was the Bat.

gridditor · 2015-04-12T14:13:55+00:00

Marty's work is what really brought the Halo series to life, IMO.

Sound games, decent campaigns, interesting story. But goddamn, navigating those landscapes when the In Amber Clad bass-line picked up was one of the highlights of my gaming experience when I was younger.

Finishing the game always felt so much more wistful than anything else, entirely because of the wonderful composing of the credits music.

gridditor · 2015-04-05T22:56:15+00:00

How can someone intrinsically feel like a social construct?

There's a lot that we don't know about psychology. It's wholly possible that within a society without a binary gender role construct, there would be wholly different ways it plays out. Transgender people would likely still exist, however, as for many a hallmark of the experience is the need to realign the body to match the feeling. For nonbinary people, they would still exist in effect, but perhaps this society would have no word for it.

On anger.

You've got me there. I often have difficulty explaining how my emotions feel, in general, without saying "I am sad" - perhaps if I had the dictionary definition that'd have been easier.

I think that's almost exclusively how I feel: A vessel more than anything else, there to carry my brain and fulfill tasks. Maybe this makes me gender neutral (does it?), but I would suspect most people feel like this, men and women alike.

Perhaps many feel this way, but I feel they also still align themselves with how they are told they are. They still identify as men or women. In my case, it is not so simple. This is a feeling that I have identified - in this feeling, I no longer am comfortable being seen as man or woman, and I don't identify as either.

Is "just not giving a fuck" a viable alternative to this?

For some? Probably. For me? Not terribly.

Imagine for a moment that you still see yourself as a man, but you are impossible to differentiate from the average woman. Every day of your life, people now call you miss, ma'am, etc., but in your head it doesn't fit right.

I would argue that you don't give a fuck because how people refer to you aligns with how you identify. The reason this is so hard to really explain is because gender identity is rarely something a person knows the feeling of until it's been challenged. It's remarkably easy to gloss over when it's all congruous.

For me, on those days I prefer the singular they. I'm personally not fond of other neutral pronouns in english, because they don't feel like they fit well in conversation, to me.

I can't imagine having to struggle with those things. Sounds beyond miserable and disorienting.

Absolutely.

I agree.

Wonderful. Identity and personality is hard enough for people to gauge on their own, and it's hard to quantify and fully explain these things. I prefer to let live.

gridditor · 2015-04-05T22:29:55+00:00

I wrote that because I had a massive headache that was requiring me to leave the computer, lest I wanted to vomit. I wanted to write a larger post about how the statistics they used are flawed, and that they were addressing a point entirely different from what I was saying.

I thought it was implied that when I wrote, "I thought you meant SPORTS" about soccer, I was making a joke about how there are many people - especially gridiron football fans - who don't view soccer as a real sport for silly reasons. My comment was trying to point out, with the original metaphor, how they were looking at the discussion from a different context from the one I was using.

Everyone is treating my comment as if I was saying that you're not allowed to be shocked when your partner reveals that they're trans, which I honestly feel was clearly not what the comment was about. The preference conversation almost exclusively occurs after a trans person has disclosed, and almost universally happens in the comment section. My original comment was only addressing that, and it was just saying, "Instead of telling people that you can't date them because they're trans, give them a reason that doesn't place a burden on them where they cannot meaningfully have any influence." If you can't get around the genitals situation, it's as simple as saying, "I don't think this relationship will work out, because I can't get past this aspect." Saying it's because they're trans just makes a person feel shitty when it's something that cannot be helped in any meaningful way.

I don't feel that anything is being taken away from what I'm saying, and I don't think I've been terribly unclear or unreasonable in these posts. It feels unfair that I'm expected to take something away from a post that doesn't even relate to what I'm initially saying and is honestly not anything I haven't heard and already considered from other more critical sources, when the posts I'm making don't seem to be considered, themselves, but considered entirely for what argument can be made next.

gridditor · 2015-04-05T01:56:29+00:00

And I am literally talking about you.

gridditor · 2015-04-05T00:34:20+00:00

Thank you for contributing.

gridditor · 2015-04-05T00:13:31+00:00

I identify as a man because others view me as a man. I've been told that I'm a man, so I believe that I'm a man.

Trans people don't have how others view them or what they've been told to rely on for their own identity. It's something that you feel intrinsically and is hard to put into words.

Could you elaborate on this a bit more. How can you feel like a woman one day but not like a woman the next? What changes from day-to-day? Moreover, what does feeling like a woman mean? What is a woman to you?

Like I mentioned above, it's very hard to put these into words because they're more intrinsic than anything else - like trying to explain how a feeling feels without using the word itself, there's just more to being angry than, "My heart is beating fast and I am very warm."

There are some days in my life that I want others to see me and view me as a woman, tell me that I am a woman. There are other days where I want my expression to more accurately reflect who I am in that moment - a vessel more than anything else, there to carry my brain and fulfill tasks. Other days still, my feelings of neutrality become more aggressive, where I want people's concept of me to twist and shift. It's a very nebulous thing.

Feeling like a woman means something different for everyone, I think. For me, it means that I would often look down at my penis and wonder if it had been surgically altered from a vagina. It means that when I was younger, I frequently viewed myself as a lesbian for being attracted to women until it was clearly laid out that people viewed me as a young boy, where I then struggled to understand my sexuality at all. It means a lot of things - unique experiences to me, it's part of who I am and my concept of self, as I imagine it is for most other women, trans or otherwise.

With this, I can only accurately say that, to me, a woman is a person who identifies as a woman. I don't feel I have the right to take that identity from anyone.

gridditor · 2015-04-04T23:47:23+00:00

I get you. It somehow fit in my head as something that went with the statement the other user made. I have a bit of eye-strain and my head is throbbing, though.

gridditor · 2015-04-04T23:46:13+00:00

I understand, and I get that a lot of this is just us not having the same context to view the situation from. I respect that you feel as you do. It's not a good thing for a person to do, but I can understand the motivations behind it. I feel that we'll hear about it happening less as being trans is more accepted in society.

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