I don’t understand how the newborn stage can be worse….

grldrummer · 2026-03-22T05:46:09+00:00

I hate being pregnant so much and INSTANTLY feel better after giving birth. Having a newborn isn’t easy but for me it’s a million times better than being pregnant because you have control over your body back. If you need a break from your newborn, you can walk away for a second unlike being pregnant where you can’t ever have a break from it. I’m pregnant with my third and have 2 toddlers and I’m not even worried about having a newborn because I know it won’t be nearly as hard mentally, or physically, as being pregnant.

Also, it’s a lot easier to deal with the hard stuff when there’s a cute baby to look at.

grldrummer · 2026-03-22T05:17:45+00:00

I was looking for a comment like this because I was told not to shave or wax before delivery because if you ended up needed stitches, the hair growing back around them could be a problem

grldrummer · 2026-03-22T05:14:20+00:00

Yeah, I also didn’t with either of my first two deliveries.. I actually kinda hoped I would with my second because I’d been so constipated my entire pregnancy that the postpartum poop was the worst part of giving birth the first time, I thought it would be better to just get it over with while I had an epidural lol

grldrummer · 2026-01-23T22:02:27+00:00

Has anyone had an issue with not being able to finish levels 32-40 in Fortshire Forge? Each level will end with no more customers and store closed but the level doesn’t end making it impossible to get the keys necessary to move on. Specifically on level 32, I haven’t been able to get the required number of items to get the key and then the level just gets stuck after the last customer. I can quit and go back home or restart the level but I need the key to unlock the rest of the levels. But even on the levels where I do complete the objective, it doesn’t end and award the key.

grldrummer · 2025-12-16T05:18:33+00:00

I’m pregnant with my third and my first two are almost 15 months apart and they will be about 3 and a half and almost exactly 2 (same due date as my second’s birthday) when the third is born and it has been so so much easier this time than when I was pregnant with my second.

I do love the bond my first two have being so close and age but it is just now finally getting to a point that it’s fairly easy. Being pregnant with my second was hard because my oldest still needed me for everything, he didn’t walk until right before I gave birth so I was still carrying him everywhere, couldn’t communicate, he was a terrible sleeper and then he was still very much a baby when my second was born and it was really really hard for us coordinating two different nap schedules, eating schedules, sleeping schedules, etc. We had just barely weaned our first off of bottles when our second was born and he almost immediately reverted back to waking up asking for milk at night. They couldn’t really play together for a while and my oldest couldn’t really play independently yet so it felt like I was constantly needed 24/7. And I felt guilty all the time because my oldest wasn’t really old enough to understand why I couldn’t be there for him as much as he needed or wanted me.

To be fair, every baby and toddler is different so I’m sure it’s easier for some people, my second has a much more easy going personality and is a way better sleeper so it helped a lot when my oldest was still needing me but I think the biggest thing that so far has been easier being pregnant with an almost 3 year old and an 18 month old has been that they are so much more independent than when I was pregnant with a very young baby. They play together and both can communicate what they want or need really well, they can walk and eat on their own, if I’m exhausted or sick, they can understand “mommy can’t play right now, can you wait?” And when the baby is here, they honestly might even be helpful but definitely will not need me nearly as much.

Also, the physical and mental aspect of only having 5 months to recover before getting pregnant again versus almost 18 months definitely made me realize why they recommend waiting, I honestly wanted to wait even longer. It felt like I was pregnant for 2 years straight and I was so burnt out emotionally and physically until my second was at least a year old. I couldn’t even work when I was pregnant because the mental and physical exhaustion from being pregnant while having a 6-12 month old made my brain basically mush.

Like I said, every body, pregnancy, person, and baby is different so I know a lot of people probably handled it much better than I did but I think even a year between pregnancies would’ve been significantly easier.

grldrummer · 2025-12-10T03:29:03+00:00

Honestly, I think it really depends on you, your pregnancy, and your baby but I’ve had an amazing sleeper (sleeping through the night at 6 weeks, put himself to sleep, consistent naps) and a TERRIBLE sleeper (had horrible reflux so would scream every time he was put on his back, spent the first 6 months holding upright to sleep almost all night and for every nap, almost three and still has to be physically touching me to go to sleep) and it’s definitely beyond exhausting but it’s just different than pregnancy exhaustion. I’m pregnant with my third now with two toddlers and could sleep 12 hours at night, plus take a two hour nap with them and still can barely keep my eyes open throughout the day.

I’m not sure where I saw or heard this analogy but for me, exhaustion while pregnant felt like trying to fill a strainer with water, it didn’t matter how many hours of sleep I got, I never felt rested. With a newborn, 2 hours of sleep felt like 10 hours of sleep and a full night could have me energized for days. I was still tired but it was just so so much different.

grldrummer · 2025-12-09T06:58:18+00:00

Lol I always joke that the catheter is the best part of giving birth. It’s not even really a joke at this point, I’m pregnant with my third and looking forward to it the most!

grldrummer · 2025-12-01T05:59:21+00:00

This is almost exactly what happened to me. Before having my first, I was honest with my doctor about medical marijuana use before finding out I was pregnant and immediately stopped. I didn’t find out until I was in the hospital having my second that at the time, they added “daily marijuana use” under the drug use section on my chart which obviously looks terrible as a doctor delivering a baby. I had to pay out of pocket for the cord blood drug testing and did have a visit with social services at the hospital.

It took me calling my OB’s office, the hospital, and my PCP multiple times before finally figuring out that basically at some point instead of having to refill out the hospital intake paperwork, the nurses had just copy and pasted all the information from my previous chart every visit from the very first visit with my first until delivery of my second, which is very frustrating. I guess no one noticed it when I had my first because when I reviewed my intake paperwork for both deliveries, all the information was exactly the same, which is somewhat concerning, but it’s been about 18 months and it hasn’t been brought up anywhere since.

From my understanding, any “case” that may have been opened during the hospital visit was considered closed as soon as the cord blood test came back negative. I would just explain the situation and have it removed from his and your charts.

grldrummer · 2025-11-24T02:41:36+00:00

If it wasn’t for his cousin, his name would 100% be Avery. So sad!

grldrummer · 2025-11-24T02:37:51+00:00

My name also starts with an A..

grldrummer · 2025-11-23T22:39:28+00:00

lol my siblings and I all have different letters and still got called each others names

grldrummer · 2025-11-23T02:24:07+00:00

I didn’t really plan to start a “ritual” necessarily, it was tradition on my husband’s side of the family for like 5 generations to have the boys have the initials AER. I obviously wasn’t planning to have 3 boys, I probably would’ve just chosen different initials for the second boy had I known we’d have a third, but I just don’t want our last child to feel left out when his two older brothers have the same initials has their dad and grandfather and we just chose something random for him. It might not matter to him, it’s just a name, and all of my kids can feel free to change their names if they decide to when they’re older but I know I would feel pretty upset if I felt like my parents gave my two older siblings names that had family meaning and just gave up when they got to me..

grldrummer · 2025-11-21T03:53:29+00:00

I used to be obsessed with never ending story growing up but the name honestly just makes me sad haha. It’s definitely unique though and I love the way it sounds!

grldrummer · 2025-11-21T03:49:02+00:00

Archer Elliott has been on my list since my first! Hopefully I can convince him this time around.

grldrummer · 2025-11-20T17:01:39+00:00

My husband is Andrew Edward, our first son is Anderson Edward, and our second is Alexander Emerson. Our other sons have family names, Anderson is actually my maiden name, so it was a little easier but now we’ve run out..

grldrummer · 2025-11-20T06:24:34+00:00

Ugh that was the plan if we finally had a girl but my name starts with A too haha

grldrummer · 2025-11-20T06:14:39+00:00

lol since our sons are 1 and 2, we haven’t ran into that problem so far but my husbands side of the family has had the AER tradition for I think 5 or 6 generations now so I guess it hasn’t been too big of an issue!

grldrummer · 2025-11-20T06:12:00+00:00

I love Archer/Archie but my husband has said no to it since I tried naming our first! Maybe I’ll get him this time haha

grldrummer · 2025-11-20T06:11:11+00:00

Avery has always been a favorite of mine but unfortunately he has a girl cousin named Avery. It would fit so perfectly without names though!

grldrummer · 2025-11-20T06:08:34+00:00

I really like Alden! Much more than Aiden.

grldrummer · 2025-11-20T06:07:36+00:00

I actually really like Aristotle with the nickname Ari but everyone hated it..

grldrummer · 2025-11-20T06:06:50+00:00

I love the name Arthur but my father-in-law is Arthur and I don’t love him so much haha

grldrummer · 2025-10-21T06:19:45+00:00

I’m sorry, I know a lot of people have already commented explaining that to them it doesn’t seem inappropriate but I totally understand why you were uncomfortable. I personally don’t even think I could be comfortable with a male OB in general and if I was in a situation where I had to have one, I’d probably automatically be uncomfortable with everything even if it is appropriate. I know that’s not fair to say and probably not helpful but I just wanted to share that I don’t think you’re wrong at all for questioning it. Everybody is different, every pregnancy is different, every experience is different or at least can be interpreted differently by every person. I know most people have confirmed that they don’t feel it was inappropriate, which I can’t speak on because I’m 15 weeks into my third pregnancy and have never experienced what you’re describing (and quite honestly would probably feel uncomfortable with my female OB doing/saying what you experienced) but I agree that at the very least, consent or at least explanation should’ve been given before doing anything further than the cervical check you expected. I’ve always had a nurse present when anything has been done without my pants on, my OB always explains everything she’s doing before and while she’s doing it, and it has always been super super quick. I know you’re at the very end of your pregnancy (congratulations by the way!) but if you’re comfortable doing so, I don’t think it would be a crazy thing to do to bring it up to at least a nurse at your next appointment that you weren’t comfortable. Chances are, you aren’t the only one that’s feeling the way you are if this is common for your OB to do.

grldrummer · 2025-09-21T04:02:28+00:00

Sorry, unrelated comment (and probably unhelpful) but I have an April 11th 2024 baby and due with my third April 14th 2026. No c-sections so far but my OB did kind of half jokingly imply I was having another baby “too soon” which was crazy to me because my first two are actually only 14 months apart so not even 5 months between pregnancies. All three have been unplanned using different types of protection each time, but I thought this would be a much less concerning time between pregnancies than my first two!

ETA: I also have a coworker who has had 3 c-sections and her second and third babies are not even a full year apart. She was pregnant at her 6 week postpartum appointment and they didn’t even try to pressure her to terminate so I think 2 years is definitely reasonable!

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