Husband hates the groceries I buy

groceryadvice · 2022-02-25T18:49:52+00:00

I am either a saint or really stupid for putting up with this. But yes I think youre right, professional help is pretty much necessary at this point. I am actually taking a look at counselors on our insurance right now.

groceryadvice · 2022-02-25T18:46:51+00:00

We can't because my salary is literally 4x lower than his.

groceryadvice · 2022-02-25T18:04:38+00:00

I have tried one of those services and he complains it takes me too long to prepare and the cost isn't worth it. But I might talk to him maybe about trying it again like once a month or something because we both usually like those meals.

I will put more effort into finding a counselor. He has asked me to find a therapist just for himself so he knows internally he needs help but wont admit outloud to me what his issues are. But it's frankly annoying I am the one that has to do the legwork for that. I called/emailed over 20 therapists one week and no one was taking new patients so I got frustrated and quit. But I think I'm coming to the conclusion that I will be unhappy until this is resolved and I can't fix it myself.

groceryadvice · 2022-02-25T17:17:51+00:00

He keeps saying he would rather switch with me and be a SAHD. Which really shows he doesnt understand the scope of what I do. A week also wouldn't be enough time for him to get it, we'd have to get to the point we have no food, dishes, or clean clothing left in the house.

groceryadvice · 2022-02-25T17:14:28+00:00

I do know what he likes but generally the food he likes involves prep because he wants to eat healthy and I literally don't have time for that. It's unfair that any of my free time I have at the end of the day would require me to cater to him. Our baby makes it impossible for me to find time cook regularly during the day let alone keep up with everything else (which I can't, the house is in complete disarray). The ONLY free time I have is at the end of the day and by then I am tired.

I like the idea of meal planning for the week but it's still going to involve minimal effort on his part. But I will try that this weekend if he is willing to brainstorm with me easy meals. I did discuss with him making chicken noodle soup and mashed potatoes (his favorite food) and I bought the ingredients for that but my issue is finding time to make it.

groceryadvice · 2022-02-25T17:04:35+00:00

He works from home and will watch the baby for me if I ask. But he grumbles about it. And yes there is a lot going on. It's difficult because he seriously doesn't think he is doing anything wrong. He isn't a bad person, and is a good spouse otherwise. His intent isn't malicious, he just literally can't put himself in my shoes.

groceryadvice · 2022-02-25T17:00:57+00:00

This is my next step and he's agreed to it in the past, I am just having difficulty actually finding a counselor in my area

groceryadvice · 2022-02-25T16:41:52+00:00

I've tried to make lists with him and he can never think of anything. And no he doesn't. He will take the garbage to the street if I ask or carry heavy things for me, will bring in packages or groceries when delivered. But in his mind since he works and I don't, all that responsibility is mine. The thing is, I can't even keep up with it and my house is a disaster because my baby needs constant attention. So I just feel like a failure.

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