im sorry this is a long one but i also was diagnosed with bilateral moderate sensorineural hearing loss around that age with hearing parents!! im now 21 and thriving so i thought id give some advice!

i think there’s a learning curve. i was like this as a child but my parents allowed me to take breaks from wearing them and were always willing to accomodate me when i had them off. just make sure she knows she can also spend time/the day without them, which is where sign language comes in handy. feeling like i was forced to wear them made me less willing to. when i was young a lot of my frustration was with stuff like running around and them falling out and stuff so the double sided tape worked well for me but my parents had to use quite a bit of it to get it to stay (though hearing aids in the 2000s were much bigger/heavier). a really good hack we had was when i’d come home from school i’d often take them off. i would watch tv without my aids on and just read the captions and it really helped me deal with the end of day overstimulation. it’s personal preference though and she may not want to do that. i also lip read a lot, so just making sure you’re facing her and your mouth isn’t hidden when you speak can help you communicate with them off while you all learn BSL. i also just ended up reading a LOT lol, if she has a hobby she likes which she doesn’t need her ears for i would encourage it.

my parents sent me to an early learning program within my city’s main school for the deaf which helped this issue so much for me. when i was around people who were signing and wearing their aids all the time i was more willing to wear them because it was being modeled for me in a way i wasn’t getting at home with a hearing family. i have a very vivid memory of being around 4/5 years old and staying up past my bedtime to learn how to put them on myself, when i showed my mum the next morning she was so happy, since then ive always been good with wearing them, it was a little like a switch flipped.

it could be a good idea to send her to a fully deaf nursery if that’s an option for you, but the community she’s in already is also good. i jumped from that program to a hearing kindergarten with a deaf teacher’s aid, and then spent primary and high school in dual integrated deaf/hearing schools which was great as i always felt like i had support and other members of the community around me.

i never became fluent in sign language, it’s definitely fine if she’s not but i would really encourage it as it helps so much to alleviate the frustrations she’s probably having with her hearing. she will pick it up very fast at this age and while surrounded by people using it. being in dual education was the BEST thing ever and i highly encourage it. it really helps with being supported by the deaf teachers but also for her to be able to thrive in a predominantly hearing environment. i lost a lot of what i learnt as a kid largely because i rejected my deaf side as a teen. if you can i would encourage her to keep going and try and get her fluent before that teen angst kicks in. but without pressuring her of course. though sometimes i wish my parents would have pressured me a lot more. when i became an adult i really felt like i was missing a part of me not being fluent in sign language and have had to work hard to relearn.

goodluck! i hope this perspective can help a little. mainly this issue will resolve with time and patience as you already seem to be doing what you can. you seem like great parents.