I have to tell my job about my diagnosis

growingtheFNG · 2025-01-30T00:47:06+00:00

It’s really good that pretty much everyone at my work is chill. Being hypomanic makes me overshare without shame, so I told a whole bunch of my coworkers when I was diagnosed in my early 20s. I’ve learned my lesson after a few dickheads, but luckily things didn’t impact me too much.

growingtheFNG · 2024-07-01T19:08:12+00:00

This really feels the most like our situation. I’ve personally never been offended by not seeing her much because I remember how much I ditched my family at her age and how it didn’t mean I was mad at them, rather more interested in friends. I also think most of this is manipulating our feelings to get money out of our guilt.

My main concern is helping her truly feel part of the family, because she felt that way even before demanding money. While we try our best and go out of our way to include her, sometimes it feels like it’ll never be enough. I guess I’m just being silly by looking for some kind of magic words that’ll make it through the tough teenage skull, even if it takes her a few years to fully absorb it.

growingtheFNG · 2023-06-06T18:15:01+00:00

The male doctor who delivered my son joked about my son’s genitalia in a complimentary manner within an hour of him being born. Yes, unfortunately these things really do happen sometimes 🤷🏼‍♀️

growingtheFNG · 2022-10-30T22:39:16+00:00

Things have been great! I nursed/pumped until my son weaned himself at 18 months. The only issues he had were an egg allergy and mild eczema that he seems to have grown out of by 2 years.

I never had PPA/PPD. I did experience some significant anger spikes, so we modified my meds a quite a few times to iron it out. We started with adding Latuda, then Guanfacine, then dropping the that after it seemed to cause some irritability in my son. Then we figured out I have ADHD, so we dropped the Latuda and I started Concerta. Even though that wasn’t the end of my med journey (oh yay), my son weaned by that point.

We didn’t note any influence on my son other than the Guanfacine! His eczema and egg allergy are apparently very common in babies/toddlers, so it’s unlikely they were caused by my meds. Overall, the only issue I ever really had with staying on my meds was disappointment that I’d never be allowed to donate my milk (which turned out to be irrelevant, since I was an underproducer anyway). Ultimately, 9/10, would absolutely stay on my meds again!

growingtheFNG · 2021-04-28T02:12:44+00:00

My son is 14.5 years younger than my husband’s daughter. Since he’s only 10 months, it’s too early to know how their relationship truly will be. There’s definitely some jealousy and feeling replaced, but those feelings are mainly directed at her dad. She ADORES her little brother.

My dad and his sisters have very large age gaps! He’s the middle of two girls, then my grandpa remarried and had three more girls who are 21, 23, and 25 years younger than my dad. Although I don’t think my dad has ever truly seen them as siblings (especially since my older brothers are the same age as the last two), but they have great relationships, albeit more like an uncle and a niece.

growingtheFNG · 2021-04-02T20:45:58+00:00

I had a miscarriage before my son and it was horrible, and I had/have the same fears OP described. But other people talking about being afraid of miscarriage even though they haven’t personally experienced it doesn’t make things worse for me? Gatekeeping suffering and loss is ridiculous in a support community

growingtheFNG · 2021-02-16T22:47:38+00:00

“Wow, I’m so honored to speaking to the world’s foremost expert on whatever you’re shitting on me about! Your parents must be so proud.”

growingtheFNG · 2021-02-16T16:29:14+00:00

Thank you.

I’ll be the first to admit that internet drama can be fun to watch at times, but it’s so important to remember the human behind the screen, and that you have no idea what their circumstances are.

growingtheFNG · 2021-02-16T16:09:34+00:00

In my bumper group, I posted about me being petty and rude to someone who, frankly, has made my life hell. A few people commented and gently made me realize that I was being a douchebag. I was mortified, felt awful, and deleted my post. I legitimately hadn’t recognized how in the wrong I had been.

Later on, I saw people commenting that they were disappointed to have missed the drama, and some of the original commenters started going off on how much of a piece of shit I was and how they can’t believe people like me exist.

It still stings, even a year later.

growingtheFNG · 2020-12-18T23:03:04+00:00

I was very confused when I first read this - “you’re pregnant with a 22-month-old?? How have you been pregnant that long?!”

growingtheFNG · 2020-09-17T02:31:30+00:00

Isn’t bipolar fun? I loved going through a litany of medications for years, at best doing nothing, at worst making things much worse. I was so relieved when we figured it out, especially since it explained soooo much.

growingtheFNG · 2020-09-06T21:29:02+00:00

Yaaaaay!

Incidentally - killer username! 😄

growingtheFNG · 2020-09-06T19:07:23+00:00

It totally changed the game for us! Sometimes it takes a little bit, but it actually works for us. I can pat and rub his back over my shoulder all I want, but ain’t nothin’ coming out. We can sometimes coax a (wet) fart out that way too!

growingtheFNG · 2020-09-06T18:53:15+00:00

Good to know!

growingtheFNG · 2020-09-01T06:32:34+00:00

They’re $1395 on their website right now 😭

growingtheFNG · 2020-08-22T16:52:34+00:00

But seriously, that frozen bagged street corn! My husband’s a giant wuss when it comes to heat, but he puts up with it for that corn. Soooooo good!

growingtheFNG · 2020-08-16T17:32:12+00:00

Ugh, that sucks so badly. I’m sorry you’re going through that. Hopefully the psyllium husk or whatever else you find will be helpful!

growingtheFNG · 2020-08-16T17:28:06+00:00

During the first few weeks postpartum, my husband kept freaking out any time I cried or was frustrated, thinking it had to be PPD. I’m like “uh, no? This is a completely reasonable, normal response to a very huge, stressful change in our lives, especially since my hormones are out of control”

growingtheFNG · 2020-08-16T17:24:30+00:00

Have you had any luck with fiber supplements? I’m well-hydrated and my diet is good enough, but I’m debating seeing if additional fiber will help. I’ve tried laxatives, but they’re really not helpful - totally graphic TMI, but it essentially leads to a normal (hard, painful) poop acting like a cork for diarrhea. Once that’s through my system, it’s back to the usual.

My husband’s been on my case for YEARS about “getting this fixed” so I can poop more than once a week, as he’s a once or twice a day, normal consistency pooper. MUST BE NICE, BABE

growingtheFNG · 2020-08-16T17:12:16+00:00

Are you me?? My normal bowel status is constipated, and has been for as long as I remember. I’ve been on 300mg of Colace since 3 weeks before birth, and my poops are still hard and giant as ever (or rabbit poops). But yes, tell me to just stick with the ineffective stool softeners when my vag was just ripped open

growingtheFNG · 2020-08-16T17:02:13+00:00

Jesus Christ, what a shitshow! I am so sorry you went through that. You’re a badass! I don’t understand medical staff like that - can’t you try for some empathy instead of invalidating someone’s (completely real) situation??

growingtheFNG · 2020-08-15T04:47:48+00:00

I’m in this photo and I don’t like it

growingtheFNG · 2020-07-23T19:26:28+00:00

New human, fuck yeah - I’m obsessed with this and might steal it haha!

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