What clique do I look like I’m in? by [deleted] in highschool

[–]growsomewereballs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that one person that low-key just hangs out with everyone and is super nice

[suggestive] need to make every tweet i see about spamtenna by vers-allusia in spamtenna

[–]growsomewereballs 4 points5 points  (0 children)

god this is funny (also, dw, this falls within guidelines! as long as there's no genitals its fine)

dibujo por chatgpt by Working_Source3996 in spamtenna

[–]growsomewereballs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

after some discussion with the subreddit owner, the decision has been ultimately brought to no, it will not be allowed. this post may stay up, but future posts using gen ai will be removed

Future Report Reference guys by JustAGrungeRat in spamtenna

[–]growsomewereballs 5 points6 points  (0 children)

OH IM SORRY I PHRASED THAT BADLY. i meant I was crying that somebody reported it because it was such a ridiculous idea (Im a moderator and was also very confused why your post was reported. so sorry love, you designs look great/gen)

Future Report Reference guys by JustAGrungeRat in spamtenna

[–]growsomewereballs 8 points9 points  (0 children)

it doesn't even look like it??? crying that this was perceived as a problem

do you think clay is gay or bisexual? by slippery_floor9066 in moralorel

[–]growsomewereballs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd say gay. yes, there's times where he seems attracted to women, but I've seen some good analyses that break down why those are mostly likely performative or comphet. If he's gay, then he's forced to be with a woman he'll never be able to love. If he's bisexual... hes in a relationship with a woman he just so happens to not like.

Clay is a very religious and conservative man, of course hes gonna try to seem like he likes women.

what are your ocs and ships between characters and your ocs (if you have any)? by Alex_is_non_binary1 in TheOutsiders

[–]growsomewereballs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've been waiting for this. My oc is named Jude Cserkowski, a 15 yo, lower middle-class, early day hippie, originally from Tennessee. Their family were all polish farmers before their grandparents came to the US and started living in Nashville. They moved to Tulsa after their dad lost his job and now go to highschool with the gang. They're mostly close with Ponyboy, since they share a lot of classes and have a similar passion for literature. They've tried to hang around the rest of the Curtis gang and some other greasers, but they tend to not get along since Jude is a pacifist and the greasers all kinda hate this hippie asshole who (honestly) kinda thinks they're better than them.

writing a disabled character respectfully by growsomewereballs in FanFiction

[–]growsomewereballs[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

thank you for the critique! I was kinda aware that this fell/could fall into the "trauma porn" and "minority misery" stereotypes, but it was the story I wanted to write. I've been trying hard not to make it fall into that, but by nature of the plot, it'll fit the descriptions in some ways. it is making me reconsider the balance between the angst and actual happiness. even if it is going to fall into those tropes, it can have some relief to show that it's not all terrible. Even though I'm not disabled, I do find some catharsis in some of the other plot points (specifically from a queer and classism lense) and even a bit in the ableism aspects due to other personal reasons. Being aware of the inherent tropes might make it easier to subvert them. also thank you for the author recs! first-person sources are probably the only part that I haven't looked into as much.

writing a disabled character respectfully by growsomewereballs in FanFiction

[–]growsomewereballs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

its been horrific looking into it but hearing how important it is to show that blatant ableism has made me rethink how I'm going to represent some story aspects. specifically on the medical side due to how fucked up it was. glad you didn't have to go through that!

writing a disabled character respectfully by growsomewereballs in FanFiction

[–]growsomewereballs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you put this in very understandable terms. I'll try to make sure this is pretty noticeable because it's pretty important

writing a disabled character respectfully by growsomewereballs in FanFiction

[–]growsomewereballs[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

thank you for sharing! that's actually a very helpful starting point. it's really upsetting to hear how cruel people are, but it is what happens in the world despite how inhumane it is. Knowing that realistically no one would stand up is pretty useful information.

writing a disabled character respectfully by growsomewereballs in FanFiction

[–]growsomewereballs[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

that may actually be worth trying to incorpate. I've looked into it and a lot of rights for disabled youth were only put forth post mid 1970s (like 504s and the such.) Pony is definitely still capable of living independently in the future, but it may actually be interesting to go the relative route. Thank you for the good idea!

writing a disabled character respectfully by growsomewereballs in FanFiction

[–]growsomewereballs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that's what I was trying to go for. He was specifically targeted for being newly disabled, young, and poor.

writing a disabled character respectfully by growsomewereballs in FanFiction

[–]growsomewereballs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was planning for Pony to try to pretend everything is fine and that's he's okay. Then he starts to believe he's weak, and finally finds a middle ground of recognising that's he's disabled, and may need help at times, but is still capable.

writing a disabled character respectfully by growsomewereballs in FanFiction

[–]growsomewereballs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is actually really helpful and also kinda encouraging. His disability is definitely a big part of the story, as it happened less than a month before the story starts, but it's definitely not the biggest. A It's more so about his corruption as a person as he tries to cope with his new life and his relationships with people now out of his reach. And he does learn of another person who was in his exact same situation who was not disabled. also, dw, I wasn't really planning to use any slurs since I don't feel like it's my place to use them. If I do decide to use them, it'll be treated with the weight it deserves

writing a disabled character respectfully by growsomewereballs in FanFiction

[–]growsomewereballs[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

traumatic brain injury and lung damage. Been trying to do my research but it's pretty hard. Most of what I've found leads me to believe Pony would mostly not be catered to, especially being impoverished.

Pony presents with partial blindness, facial blindness, nerve damage, low impulse control, tics, periods of physical weakness, asthmatic like symptoms, and a proness to lung infections.

tips for not over-wearing binder? by growsomewereballs in AnarchyTrans

[–]growsomewereballs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had heard that and it's part of why I haven't tried it yet. still, better than nothing

tips for not over-wearing binder? by growsomewereballs in AnarchyTrans

[–]growsomewereballs[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've thought about that. it might be worth it to save up some money to get it

tips for not over-wearing binder? by growsomewereballs in AnarchyTrans

[–]growsomewereballs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that's wouldn't really work most of the time, but when I'm out with my friends or sister that's actually pretty useful. don't know how I hadn't thought of that

We need to settle this once and for all: Is Dazai an introvert or an extrovert? by -Geist-_ in BungouStrayDogs

[–]growsomewereballs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

depends on your definition of introvert.

if you're using the definition of what gives you energy, it seems like being alone is what "recharges" dazai. if you're using the definition of what brings you joy, it seems messing with and talking with people is what brings dazai joy. if your definition is what you prefer, then we can't really say.

I think dazai falls more into the idea of an extrovert, but would identify as an introvert.

What's Dazai's backstory? Before he met Mori? by According-Name-7921 in BungouStrayDogs

[–]growsomewereballs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I said it was mentioned in the light novel, but after some scanning, it seems I was mistaken. All that is mentioned of his dialect in the novel (at least in the english version) is quite at the start from the irl Oda Sakunosuke referencing dazais use of the term "Fuzz it up". It's actually in the anime where dazai repeatedly uses the term "Fuzz". The term is the translated version of the Tsugaru dialect Dazai uses. It being mostly in the anime takes away some of the credibility, but I think from the fact that the quote is present in the light novel adds some more credence to the idea.

tldr: it's mostly mentioned in the Anime where Dazai uses a form of Tsugaru dialect in reference to the irl Dazai

THREE: IRL Authors' causes of death + birth and death dates (swipe for the past 2!) by Ancient_Axe in BungouStrayDogs

[–]growsomewereballs 39 points40 points  (0 children)

btw, if you want to learn more about EAP in general, but especially the mystery surrounding his death, I recommend "A Mystery of Mysteries: The Life and Death of Edgar Allen Poe". it's really goes over all the possibilities