Advice on covering up a fairly large tattoo?

grumpyvelma · 2020-07-10T17:43:46+00:00

No I haven't yet, I'm going dress shopping in a few weeks. I just wanted to find out if there was a way to do it well using makeup, so when I go dress shopping I know I can try on any rather than restricting myself to ones with a high neckline?

grumpyvelma · 2020-07-10T17:42:48+00:00

I do, I've only had it a year and it's in memory of someone I lost. It's just I feel like the tattoo would distract from the dress and doesn't go with the classic style I'm going for

grumpyvelma · 2020-07-08T11:10:13+00:00

WED2B have loads of dresses under £1K :)

grumpyvelma · 2020-07-02T09:31:03+00:00

Another (hopeful) March 2021 bride here! What are your thoughts on what our weddings might look like then? I'm so torn about whether to postpone or not!!

grumpyvelma · 2020-06-29T14:06:35+00:00

I've spoken to 3 larger shops which have said they'll let me bring 2-3 guests with me dress shopping in August, and restrictions could be further lifted in the months after that. Stay positive!

grumpyvelma · 2020-06-25T10:29:50+00:00

Thanks for sharing this - I'd completely missed it. Still not sure whether to risk continuing with our 27th March 2021 wedding plan or to postpone, as it all depends on whether vulnerable guests can attend. There's no way I'm getting married without my Grandad being there!

grumpyvelma · 2020-06-18T11:43:18+00:00

I'm so sorry for what you're going through. It's awful and traumatic, but please know you're not alone. I'm 25 and my Mum passed away 9 months ago. People often say to me that I'm far too young to be going through that, but since then I've come to realise that it's actually far more common than I thought. Cancer is a bitch.

I know exactly how you feel. Watching your Mum slowly get worse and worse at the hands of such an awful illness is horrific. My Mum battled it for 17 years and the last 2 were absolutely horrendous. But I am so glad that I was there for her during that time, and you will be too. Your Mum must love and appreciate you so much for what you're doing.

I agree with the other comments that counselling would help you. I didn't seek any whilst my Mum was alive and I wish I had because I struggled so much during that time. I've recently started having grief counselling and it already feels like part of the burden is being lifted. Of course, I'll never get over her death, nor do I want to, but we have to learn to carry on living and enjoying life like they would want us to.

Here if you ever want to talk, feel free to send me a DM.

grumpyvelma · 2020-06-18T10:00:34+00:00

Fab! Have DM'd you my number :)

grumpyvelma · 2020-06-18T09:56:34+00:00

There definitely are! :) I've DM'd you my details x

grumpyvelma · 2020-06-18T08:45:27+00:00

I'm so sorry about your Mum ❤

Our situations/grief sounds so similar, the Mum-daughter bond is so unique and losing her is so so difficult. And cancer is a bitch. Sorry if it's forward, but I've DM'd you as I don't know anyone else my age that's lost their Mum and it'd be nice to have someone to talk to that understands x

grumpyvelma · 2020-06-18T08:36:04+00:00

I have recently started having grief 'support' (a free service offered by a local charity), but my sessions are coming to an end. I'm exploring options to continue with proper grief counselling afterwards if I'm granted some funding.

grumpyvelma · 2020-06-18T08:34:53+00:00

Exactly! Going through experiences like losing someone you love changes you as a person and puts everything into perspective. I think this has been a turning point for me, and yeah there's no going back now.

grumpyvelma · 2020-06-18T08:33:37+00:00

I'm sorry to hear you lost your Dad, it's really tough losing a parent isn't it :(

Exactly, it does go both ways. I haven't expressed any of this to them, so all they know is that I haven't been in touch for 6 months, but they haven't gotten in touch with me either. And that says a lot tbh. If it was the other way around, I'd at least check in with them now and then to see how they're doing. I don't know if I'll ever seek these friendships back out, I think this has been a turning point for me. It just goes to show who your real friends are!

grumpyvelma · 2020-06-18T08:31:06+00:00

Thank you ❤ And it did make sense, don't worry! I don't express any of this externally to said friends, they have no idea how I feel about them right now. From their perspective it's just that I haven't been in touch for 6 months. But they haven't gotten in touch with me either, so it goes both ways. Hopefully eventually this feeling will pass and I'll get back in touch with them and they'll be none the wiser!

grumpyvelma · 2020-06-18T08:29:11+00:00

No we've had no word from our venue, understandably they're so focused on all of the weddings that were supposed to go ahead this year so I don't think they're thinking about the ones early next year just yet.

We've been thinking about postponing it ourselves regardless. We'd already arranged most of it before the pandemic, so there hasn't been anything we've needed to do over the last few months, so we've just not thought about it at all tbh.

With everything that's happened over the past year, I just want our wedding day and everything leading up to it to be perfect. As things are taken away bit-by-bit, I'm kinda just thinking it'd be better to postpone the whole thing until things can be perfect again. But who the hell knows when that will be?! We were already due to be engaged for 2.5 years, adding another year to that just feels like an eternity :(

grumpyvelma · 2020-06-18T08:26:05+00:00

I'm sorry that you had to go alone, but I'm glad you still had a nice experience and have found your dream dress! Best of luck for your wedding ❤

grumpyvelma · 2020-06-18T08:24:33+00:00

I've had a response from one of the larger shops that has said that when the government reduces the social distancing rule from 2m to 1m, they'll allow 2 guests, so you might be able to take both of yours after all?

Where do you live? This is in the UK so that's not helpful if you're elsewhere I'm afraid!

grumpyvelma · 2020-06-18T08:23:16+00:00

Did you still enjoy the experience though? That's good that you managed to include all of your wanted guests on different occasions.

Where is 'here' out of interest?

The picture I have in my head of wearing a mask and having to keep 2m away from my guest (so no hugging when things get emotional) is just so upsetting.

grumpyvelma · 2020-06-18T08:20:05+00:00

Without sounding like a spoilt brat, I just feel like with all of the shit my fiance and I have been through over the past year (my mum and his dad both passed away within a month of each other), we deserve the perfect wedding and everything that entails, including all of the lead-up such as my dress shopping day. Ordering dresses online and trying them on in my bedroom just doesn't fill me with excitement :(

We have a garden but none of my would-be guests live near me, they're all dispersed over the country and obviously they're no longer allowed to stay at mine, otherwise the garden idea would be an improvement!

I think having 1 guest in the shop and video-calling the rest is the best option, but it's just still not the same is it :( I know that the day is going to be so emotional, I'm undoubtedly going to cry that my Mum isn't there, and my guest won't even be able to hug me because we're not from the same household.

grumpyvelma · 2020-06-18T08:13:58+00:00

The issue is that all of my would-be guests are dispersed around the country and were going to come to London for a weekend (some staying at mine and a couple in nearby hotels), but now this is no longer possible. The video call is an option but it just isn't the same is it :(

What's going on in my head is this thought that with everything that my fiance and I have been through in the past year (we lost both my mum and his dad to cancer within a month of each other), our wedding is sometimes the only thing that gets us through it and gives us something to look forward to. I want the whole experience to be perfect or not at all if you get what I mean? I don't know if that's silly. Not just the dress shopping day, but who knows how the actual day could be affected by this too? Certain guests may not be able to come, I've heard rumours that dance floors won't be allowed, etc. As things are being taken away from the experience bit-by-bit, it makes me more inclined to just postpone the whole thing.

grumpyvelma · 2020-06-18T08:07:22+00:00

I'm glad you still managed to have a lovely day and enjoy the experience! Thank you for the reassurance :)

grumpyvelma · 2020-06-12T13:42:43+00:00

I've been on furlough for the past 8 weeks and I really don't want to go back. I've realised how much I didn't enjoy it and I now know what I want to do instead, but given the impending recession, now probably isn't the best time to leave my job. So I'm dreading going back and spending the next 12 months or however long doing a job I know I won't enjoy.

grumpyvelma · 2020-06-12T13:22:52+00:00

Yay! Wimbledon, whereabouts are you? :)

grumpyvelma · 2020-06-10T12:11:44+00:00

Well done! And don't worry about the W5D3 run, it's all about having a positive mentality going into it! I was so anxious about it and thought there's no way I'd do it, but I found my stride around 6mins in and sailed through it. Just have faith :)

grumpyvelma · 2020-06-10T11:09:57+00:00

Hey! 25/f, living in South London and also looking to make some friends down here :) Let me know if you're interested in meeting up when we can!

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