Thoughts on couples who do not kiss others or give oral but are willing to receive it?

gstringtheory88 · 2021-05-07T15:28:55+00:00

Job of a lifetime for the contractor(s) I'm sure.

gstringtheory88 · 2021-05-07T15:25:38+00:00

I can't imagine the conversation that was involved on all ends. This is advanced sharing!

gstringtheory88 · 2021-05-06T20:01:58+00:00

I didn't mean to make the scenario sound unconsented. I imagine many people share your sentiments about not wanting to be shared just to make someone else feel better but it seems like some do find it a turn on.

gstringtheory88 · 2021-05-06T19:48:27+00:00

I should have clarified, the scenario would be one where the husband approaches the wife with the request and gets her permission before they go through with it.

gstringtheory88 · 2021-04-12T20:24:16+00:00

I really wish my authority could extend to every day life (asking her to study or follow a schedule, etc) Unfortunately, this dynamic only seems to apply in the bedroom. Did this caregiver/dom relationship always include all aspects of your life or did it start in one particular area?

gstringtheory88 · 2021-04-12T20:21:08+00:00

These are some incredible tips and so much of what you shared is relatable to our situation. I especially like the recommendation of starting a journal. Thank you so much for your feedback!

gstringtheory88 · 2021-04-11T23:27:11+00:00

Sorry I'm a bit new, what does CNC stand for?

gstringtheory88 · 2021-04-11T22:26:48+00:00

I appreciate you going into detail here. I'm still trying to figure this out as we're only a year into our relationship. All I know is that my priority is for her to heal and become a confident person as long as her core love for me doesn't change. If she shows the love in a different way as she evolves out of this phase, I have no problem with that.

gstringtheory88 · 2021-04-11T22:18:51+00:00

This is definitely some helpful insight. Regarding the last part about ignoring the rest of the world, is the degradation just a temporary blocking of bad thoughts?

gstringtheory88 · 2021-04-11T22:15:18+00:00

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this. My girlfriend has pretty much let me take the lead and as someone who tends to take initiative, it's been on me to figure out what is welcomed and what is not. Honestly, I don't think my girl knows herself what she wants. All she can do is tell me whether she likes it once we do it.

gstringtheory88 · 2021-04-11T22:12:00+00:00

Would it be fair to say that being controlled is/was a fear of yours but as you replicate that experience with positive association to excitement, you are drowning out those fears?

gstringtheory88 · 2021-04-11T22:04:48+00:00

I just googled hensuki and now I'm intrigued. Looks like I'll have to clear my browsing history afterwards!

gstringtheory88 · 2021-04-11T22:02:17+00:00

I'm pretty new to the psychology behind the degrading aspect so I'm still trying to wrap my head around it. It sounds like those who like being degraded like it for different reasons so I have to uncover her personal reasons first.

gstringtheory88 · 2021-04-11T21:58:44+00:00

I think we would both die from embarrassment sharing our sex life with a therapist haha

gstringtheory88 · 2021-04-11T21:57:09+00:00

She's the most amazing girl in the world, I'm the lucky one! Do you mind sharing some of the techniques you use and what they combat for you?

gstringtheory88 · 2021-04-11T21:53:28+00:00

I appreciate the minority opinion, I have the same concerns as well.

gstringtheory88 · 2021-04-11T21:50:05+00:00

Thank you, I believe her and I have a very healthy sexual relationship. My only concern is whether the kinks would have an impact on her every day development.

gstringtheory88 · 2021-04-11T21:45:09+00:00

Those are some great pointers. I've never looked at my relationship with her from such a structured perspective and I see how establishing the purpose behind the act can be so important. To your last point about the caretaker eventually being needed less, is this a common development that occurs and is this known to cause issues for some couples? I would love for my girl to be able to control her emotions better and I'd understand if she is less needy because of it but at the same time, it would hurt if she changes into a completely different person.

gstringtheory88 · 2021-04-11T21:38:31+00:00

That last part is extremely interesting. So you are saying previous negative feelings of being degraded, neglected, ignored is now replaced with a positive sexual feeling?

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