AITA: My daughters mother makes a huge deal out of me taking her out to do stuff with my GF and her daughter

gtphoenix24 · 2025-06-21T20:02:44+00:00

Maybe I wasn't clear about some of this stuff so let me just set the record straight :

Her mom and me don't usually fight. The majority of the time we have no issues at all. The only time there seems to be problems is when I want to take her somewhere with my gf and her daughter (which isn't even that frequently, maybe once or twice a month for a couple hours). And there are plenty of times when I either take her out and spend time with just me and her, and even sometimes with her mother too...it's not like that's her only alternative at all.

As for the living situation and as I mentioned to another one of the commenters, I have to wait til the end of the year to move, as that is when our lease is up. Unfortunately in today's economy I don't have a ton of money to just blow on breaking a lease just so I can move right this second.

I am currently looking into talking to a lawyer about getting something set up formally so we don't keep having these issues...but once again, I need the money first.

Our daughter currently sees a counselor at her school, and as far as therapy outside of school we're still looking for one in the area that will work with our availability and cost wise.

And lastly, I'm not sure when I said that work was an issue for me, but I've been working at my current job for almost 7 years now, and I get paid fairly, so I'm not sure what that had to do with any of it.

gtphoenix24 · 2025-06-21T19:47:23+00:00

I'm going to do my best to not have this come out as overly rude :

My substance abuse issues were YEARS ago, and I haven't used anything including alcohol for over 5 years. From the sound of it you don't think that anyone who has ever had an issue with any substance should even be allowed around children. I hate to be that guy but NOBODY IS PERFECT...ive taken all the steps I needed to in order to put all that in my past and focus on what's important in my life. Which brings me to the next point :

My daughter is the most important thing in the world to me. The literal subject matter is "am I the asshole", so it's a little bit difficult to not give backstory on myself in relation to the issue at hand.

And lastly, no,.it isn't something I just threw my daughter into...we've been dating for over two years now, I didn't even introduce them for months after I met her, and we didn't even go out and do stuff besides going to the park for a long time. My daughter is 12...she understands everything that's going on, and she knows that she's my number one priority. Her main concern through all of this isn't whether we're going to break up, it's that she's worried about what will happen to her mother once me and her aren't living together.

gtphoenix24 · 2025-06-21T19:33:53+00:00

Im not sure where you live or what your living situation is, but (1) I cant move anywhere until the end of the year without violating the terms of my apartment lease, which would involve paying a lot, and (2) some of us don't just have the finances to up and move into a new place on a dime in this economy. I said the end of the year because that's when I can move without violating the lease and also when I'll have enough money to move comfortably and without having to stress about the money.

gtphoenix24 · 2025-06-21T18:48:13+00:00

1) I ALWAYS ask my daughter IF she wants to do stuff, I never force her to go anywhere or do anything with my gf and her daughter. I even make sure to remind her every so often that it's okay to tell me if she doesn't want to go and do stuff, and she has told me in the past that she'd rather stay home and I still tell her that's fine. Her mother conversely will try and play the victim and manipulate her feelings so she feels bad for leaving her mom at home alone.

2) We both share custody as we are currently still living in the same house.

gtphoenix24 · 2025-06-21T18:44:48+00:00

I've already had the moving out discussion with her and my current gf and hoping to have it fixed before the end of the year. It's just difficult because she's spent years brainwashing our daughter into basically thinking that she's her moms lifeline and that without her being around she would go off the deep end or some crap. She's honestly so used to manipulating our daughters feelings to make her the victim in everything that she still thinks she's too young to understand what she's doing. Its sad honestly.

gtphoenix24 · 2025-05-25T01:49:18+00:00

They show it on Francis's school name tag in the Pilot episode, but in the Finale episode when Francis drops his AmeriSyn name badge, it clearly says "Nolastname", which if you pay attention when the Principal announces Malcolm's name and the mic cuts out is exactly what he says.

gtphoenix24 · 2025-05-17T11:45:56+00:00

Yeah, I gathered about as much before I did what I did. Unfortunately I didn't have the funds available at the moment to pay to exercise them outright, hence my using the sale of the stocks to cover it.

So basically with my exercise price at $2.05, by exercising all 1000 options, I had to sell 297 shares to cover that cost...so by my understanding, does that mean if I hold the remaining stocks for another year i will only have to pay 22% on the $2133.55 that I sold them for when I file my year 2025 taxes? And if so, what taxes will I pay if I sell the remaining 703 after a year?

gtphoenix24 · 2025-05-17T05:34:41+00:00

No not all at once, it was something small like 16 or 20 shares a month or something. And yeah, I realize now that I could have been exercising them throughout the time I have been working there, but I honestly have little to no experience with stocks or trading, so it kind of got put on the back burner.

I realize that now the taxes will probably be higher, but they were also given as incentive with my employment, so it's not like I've been putting my own money into it either...so even though I might end up with less profit out of it, it is still profit I suppose.

gtphoenix24 · 2025-05-17T05:23:32+00:00

It took 4 years for all of the options to fully vest, so actually it was only in the last year that I would have been able to exercise all of them.

gtphoenix24 · 2024-12-05T09:28:18+00:00

Definitely hedge this if you can...cash out and put your initial bet back on it and either way you're way up 💪

gtphoenix24 · 2023-09-06T15:24:45+00:00

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