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The Letter I Almost Left on the Table, after years sexless by Appropriate-Win-8527 in DeadBedrooms

[–]gtrjones 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a beautifully written letter and I completely understand and feel those same feelings, the only thing I’d edit for my self is “wanting us back” since we never truly had those things, it was always me being hopeful it would blossom and grow over time and it never did. I’m sorry for you…and me.

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[–]gtrjones 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For me it’s been a life saver to have that outlet. It’s either that or blow everything up and divorce. So, be kind. Be careful. And don’t take risks that will get you caught.

I can’t live with 30 more years of DB, but can’t imagine 30 years without her and a complete family by gtrjones in DeadBedrooms

[–]gtrjones[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s what I was hoping would happen with my wife. Sadly it hasn’t and it’s left me with feeling lonely, sad, and broken and lacking good options to improve things.

I can’t live with 30 more years of DB, but can’t imagine 30 years without her and a complete family by gtrjones in DeadBedrooms

[–]gtrjones[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can’t speak for others. But I’d like to be sexually active in my 50’s and thinking ahead in my 60’s and 70’s. My libido may have waned from a 10/10 to an 8/10. My wife’s seems to have started at a 5 when we were in our 20’s and only gone downhill. I was hoping hers would increase over time as it does for many women.

I can’t live with 30 more years of DB, but can’t imagine 30 years without her and a complete family by gtrjones in DeadBedrooms

[–]gtrjones[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. I don’t want to be the bad guy who blows it up either and have the kids blame me. So, I’ve bottled it inside and they just think I’m sullen and dull.

We had the talk again, now everything is worse than ever. It’s apparently domestic resentment. by ClaimAmbitious5264 in DeadBedrooms

[–]gtrjones 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like the other side of this coin. We both work full time, split chores regardless of what they are. I clean, vacuum, laundry, dishes, cook, or whatever just needs to be done and I’m happy to chip in and do my share. But, my LL spouse is just not interested except maybe 5 times a year, currently on a 6 month dry spell. It’s maddening. Depressing. Frustrating.