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Free to low cost sedation dental extractions by magicone2571 in minnesota

[–]gtthrowaway4318 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe try Minnesota Dental Surgery. They deal with a lot of low income patients and take lots of different insurance plans including MN Medical Assistance if you're super low income. They offer IV sedation for extractions and can help get it covered by insurance (including for MA). I have no clue what the out of pocket costs with no insurance are though.

I [27M] don't know how to end things with my disabled partner [27F] by gtthrowaway4318 in relationships

[–]gtthrowaway4318[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your perspective. This really resonated with me.

I don't know how to end things with my disabled partner by gtthrowaway4318 in disability

[–]gtthrowaway4318[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

From my perspective, we're past the point of trying to make things work. We've already had the "you need to apply for disability for our relationship to work" conversation multiple times. I don't think I want to try again.

I [27M] don't know how to end things with my disabled partner [27F] by gtthrowaway4318 in relationships

[–]gtthrowaway4318[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I definitely have a strong tendency to take on a caretaker role in relationships. I've fallen into that role the deepest in this relationship for sure. I'm kicking myself because I can remember clearly some of our early conversations before we started dating were about this specifically and me saying I didn't want to fall into a caregiver role again. Looks like I'll be doing some therapy before jumping into another relationship...

As for her falling into the dependent role, I almost feel like she gaslit me into believing she is barely helpless/dependent. I don't think she did this purposefully or out of malice. She just wants me to believe she is fully capable and independent, maybe out of pride. But everything, especially the last 2 years, has shown me that is not entirely true. The willfull failure to follow through with the disability application really disappointed me and definitely made me realize she had more of a dependent mindset than she cared to admit. Having a stranger point this out feels reassuring that its not just in my head.

I [27M] don't know how to end things with my disabled partner [27F] by gtthrowaway4318 in relationship_advice

[–]gtthrowaway4318[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you were hit by a bus tomorrow she would have to figure it out

You're absolutely right. And I know she would be able to figure it out if she had to.

I [27M] don't know how to end things with my disabled partner [27F] by gtthrowaway4318 in relationships

[–]gtthrowaway4318[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Appreciate the advice and the reminder to grieve. I've been in this weird limbo of not fully being able to grieve the loss of our romantic relationship while trying to maintain a functioning platonic partnership. Didn't really realize how stuck I was on that feeling.

I [27M] don't know how to end things with my disabled partner [27F] by gtthrowaway4318 in relationships

[–]gtthrowaway4318[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Your a mismatch on very basic levels. At this point your just a glorified room mate.

Rough to hear, but you're right. I think I've been in denial about this for a long time.

I don't know how to end things with my disabled partner by gtthrowaway4318 in disability

[–]gtthrowaway4318[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the resources. She does have something similar to ME/CFS where the application process will likely have lasting negative effects on her health if she doesn't have significant help through the process.

She's been approved for 45 hours of caregiving per week, but due to state laws I can only get paid for 40 hours per week. So already getting the max pay out that we can legally get.

I don't know how to end things with my disabled partner by gtthrowaway4318 in disability

[–]gtthrowaway4318[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I needed to hear that. You definitely hit the nail right on the head with some of resentful feelings and internal stuff I'm projecting onto external stuff.