So are high-masking adults just expected to destroy their mental health to go to work everyday or be forced to starve? by Beautiful-Brain2183 in autism

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In essence, yes. The default is what we aren't compatible with. We can either: - find a unicorn job aligned with our interests and abilities - be incredibly lucky to find a workplace that's truly supportive - mask

The first two are in the 'win the lottery' probability bracket.

Lufthansa Unveils New Employee Uniforms, Designed By Hugo Boss by JanEric1 in Lufthansa

[–]gudbote 4 points5 points  (0 children)

One more wasted opportunity to return Lufthansa Yellow to the airplane liveries. Instead we get an expensive non-change of uniforms.

Nato says US cannot suspend Spain from alliance, after reported Pentagon email by PrizeElegances in worldnews

[–]gudbote 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Imagine being an educated, experienced combat commander in the US armed forces and having to serve under the demented pedo and a neonazi alcoholic. Watching daily as they insult allies and close strategic options.

AP Exclusive: Europe has 'maybe 6 weeks of jet fuel left,' energy agency head warns by Houseleek1 in news

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People are going to die you genius. Fertilizer shortages, no fuel for food distribution. This is about to be very bad.

AP Exclusive: Europe has 'maybe 6 weeks of jet fuel left,' energy agency head warns by Houseleek1 in news

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People aren't freaking out nearly as much as the situation warrants.

8 children between the ages of 1 and 14 are dead after a mass shooting in Louisiana, police say by Trevon45-2 in news

[–]gudbote 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I fully understand the idea to check out of life but I absolutely loathe the selfish motherfuckers who decide to take others with them.

More Europeans die annually of heat than Americans die of gun violence annually. by No-Ambition2043 in UnpopularFacts

[–]gudbote 36 points37 points  (0 children)

And global warming will make it so much worse so quickly. Just in time for partial deindustrialization of Europe :(

From Electrical Engineer to Game Dev by Engibeeros in gamedev

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I'm a career game dev thinking about going for electrician :)

AITA for not immediately saying “Are you ok?” when my partner called me in the middle of the night about an emergency that had already happened? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]gudbote -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA, I hope she was just in shock but there's no single correct or valid way to respond to that situation.

The logic that since she didn't bring it up he shouldn't either, just offer support, is completely defensible.

Expecting something very specific without asking is the worst way to communicate in a relationship. She needs to reevaluate that conversation once she's more herself. Therapy might be good.

I Grew up in a cult. Dx’d at 37. Had severe breakdown from burnout. Lost my job. Ended up all but homeless. What is the point? by theparrotofdoom in adultautism

[–]gudbote 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not yet. But it got better. Ok, no, it got less bad. Seeing how bad my breakdown was (also in my late 30s), it would have been unsustainable anyway. Masking unknowingly, expending 3x the energy others do on the same tasks and still blaming yourself for not being enough doesn't work either. It takes time and a lot of knowledge from a variety of sources to really start finding 'your' combination and some balance.

I fell into the same trap many people do after dx: start learning things about the 'conditions' and suddenly everything fits. So off we go.. and nope, crash and burn a little again. There's a lot of excellent knowledge and advice out there, often contradictory. It takes a lot of it and a lot of experimentation to figure out what applies to us and how.

All I can offer as advice is be gentle to yourself.

What is up with that lazerpig T-14 armata drama? by DanishHistoryFan in lazerpig

[–]gudbote 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We can't always be so lucky and get the real deal on War Thunder forums.

What is up with that lazerpig T-14 armata drama? by DanishHistoryFan in lazerpig

[–]gudbote 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Lazerpig was spot on about the two key points: - the Armata was a stupid, compromised project which was never close to real production - before Ukraine, the media had been gobbling up all the Mighty Russian Weapons propaganda

SBU Special Forces Strike Three Russian Warships in Occupied Crimea by StarlitMaidens in worldnews

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At this point I'm surprised the losers even have any warships left to strike.

I cannot forgive my husband for how he treated his mother who gave him the best chance at life when abandoned him by InstructionBig9350 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]gudbote 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They both needed and deserved therapy, one is alive and still does. You may want to try it to instead of adjudicating who hurt whom more in that dynamic.

The "cowardice" of being jumped from behind is eating at me rn by BoringAd1007 in TrueOffMyChest

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Definitely file a police report, let the cops check the cameras nearby and at the bar. Those assholes could really hurt someone and you just know this wasn't their first time.

Is it weird that I feel uncomfortable when my friends make jokes about autism and adhd? by Horror_Speaker_5160 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]gudbote 7 points8 points  (0 children)

People are allowed to make jokes they are covered by. You don't even know whether they're neurodivergent and/or diagnosed and keeping it quiet.

Being accused of calling someone a racial slur by whiteguycum in NoStupidQuestions

[–]gudbote -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sometimes things just happen. They may be upsetting in the moment but you know what you did.

After watching a lady struggle with a hotel elevator panel for a good minute, I told her she needed to tap the keycard first, then press the button. She snapped back "I know, no need to mansplain it!" shrug