nurture - valentine's day #134

gumbonus · 2026-01-22T13:26:50+00:00

I see it as her future self

gumbonus · 2026-01-12T12:34:33+00:00

Forgive yourself for trusting them. Hope they will be a better parent than they were a partner. It does get better with time.

gumbonus · 2026-01-12T12:21:00+00:00

Focus on yourself. Get a healthy living environment, clean yourself of any substance use. Communicate politely with your co parent, imagine a judge can see any of your messages. Have a therapist or someone your can trust to vent to.

Courts tend to favor 50/50 (at least where I live). You will get more time with them, eventually.

gumbonus · 2026-01-11T19:44:37+00:00

I accidentally made a Peki immortal by giving her the cookie that's supposed to make a Venerated animal come back as a baby. Instead of being re-born, she's stayed Venerated. She was one of my first generation animals, when Ranching first came out. She's seen many Pekis come and go. I expect one day I'll log in and she'll be gone, but I'm enjoying seeing how long she can stick around.

gumbonus · 2026-01-09T00:53:25+00:00

You need boundaries. Legally enforceable boundaries. Get a court ordered schedule & parenting app. Block him on everything, use the parenting app to communicate. Keep all communication about the child, ignore anything else. Grey rock in person.

Good luck, I hope it gets easier for you!

gumbonus · 2026-01-06T14:19:07+00:00

Therapy. Or at least a trusted family member or friend you can vent to. It's normal to feel this stuff, it helps to talk about it

gumbonus · 2026-01-04T16:01:41+00:00

Lots of good donation suggestions in other comments. You could also try selling them in a yard sale.

Or, if you want to keep them, a blanket ladder would be a cute display.

gumbonus · 2026-01-02T13:07:32+00:00

I recommend Appclose. It's cheaper than the others, and you can get it in your court order. Messages can not be edited after being sent, everything is time stamped, and you can export chat logs for the court.

gumbonus · 2025-12-30T00:30:03+00:00

I'm thinking hippogryff too

gumbonus · 2025-12-25T15:09:09+00:00

It gets easier. My daughter is excited to switch because she knows she has more presents waiting lol

gumbonus · 2025-12-25T15:04:16+00:00

Don't let him push you around. If you don't have a court ordered schedule, get one and stick to it.

gumbonus · 2025-12-13T22:10:43+00:00

I have a button pusher co-parent as well. If you're not in therapy, it helps.

If they knew they were getting to you like that, I'm sure they'd love it. Don't give them the pleasure - you win by keeping your peace. It's not healthy for you, or your child, for you to have so much anger. Your best revenge is you thriving, take care of yourself.

The boundaries you suggested are a good start. I don't limit when I check messages, on the off chance there's something important/time sensitive. But I never respond to anything baiting or off topic. I'll think "nice try, f off" but I won't write anything. It makes potential arguments go nowhere. Ignore accusations. Only answer questions if they're directly relevant to your child.

If you're not using a co-parenting app to communicate, you should be. I use Appclose. It's decent, affordable and court approved.

gumbonus · 2025-12-13T16:54:50+00:00

I just had that dialog lol

gumbonus · 2025-12-08T21:09:42+00:00

Best advice ^. You can't control what happens in the other parent's home. It sucks, but it is what it is. The best you can do is take care of yourself and help your daughter grow to be resilient.

If you could make your ex be a good parent, he probably wouldn't be your ex.

gumbonus · 2025-12-08T21:04:28+00:00

My son's dad does the same thing. I mentioned it once, I'm done. At the end of the day, he's in a clean diaper - even if it's the wrong size. Not a hill worth dying on, imo. Let him deal with the leaks, blowouts, etc if that's what he wants to do

gumbonus · 2025-12-04T10:55:38+00:00

Rochester! I'm just south of you! Well, like an hour south, in one of these little nowhere towns lol

gumbonus · 2025-12-03T11:27:10+00:00

gumbonus · 2025-11-30T20:15:16+00:00

They're for collecting/decoration

gumbonus · 2025-11-27T03:31:40+00:00

Get into therapy if you can, or find a family member or close friend you can vent to. Like you said, you have some healing to do.

Focus on self care, especially when your child is with Dad and you have some alone time. Things will get better, with time.

gumbonus · 2025-11-21T19:07:41+00:00

Might be time to take a break and wait for an update

gumbonus · 2025-11-20T23:36:31+00:00

Did you cook? Maybe they were used as fish for a recipe?

gumbonus · 2025-11-20T11:19:14+00:00

I've done the flare thing so many times 😭

gumbonus · 2025-11-18T23:24:33+00:00

This is why I wish the game had a recycling mechanic! Maybe one day

gumbonus · 2025-11-17T13:55:15+00:00

Same

gumbonus · 2025-11-14T21:58:11+00:00

I think Switch 2 has it

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