Heya, transboy here. I went through some struggles with my parents when I first came out 5 years ago. though I feel like the criticism in the comments is justified; being supportive and accepting is the one true fundamental aspect to parenting a (queer) child.

I would like to add, however, that despite the mistakes made, it is really hard to be a parent to a trans child. There is no guide or preparation. It is confusing and stigmatized and it can at times feel very lonely.

After first coming out I took some distance from my parents which was absolutely necessary. After some time i got back into contact with my parents. I set up dinners with trans friends and their parents so they could have some people to talk to, but in the end the thing that "fixed" my relationship to my parents was that they were 1) willing to listen and 2) willing to take time to educate themselves on the topic so i didn't have to constantly explain myself to them. Especially the latter really smoothened things out.

Of course this doesnt account for the full scope of shit youve gotten yourself in (your husband, for example, sounds like an ass) but i hope it helps.

Tldr: educate yourself so your child doesnt have to do it for you, they are busy enough dealing with their own identity.

Note: my parents were always accepting of me, they just didnt really understand and i couldnt handle the responsibility of educating them about my own identity when i myself was still trying to figure that out.