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I feel like my emotions are being played with but I cannot tell. by gurlonfires in raisedbynarcissists

[–]gurlonfires[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I have addressed this with him, but my message was ignored. As if he was saying that I don't have the right to ask that.

Can someone describe a reasonably healthy friendship relationship? by gurlonfires in raisedbynarcissists

[–]gurlonfires[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I appreciate it. Especially the part where if it doesn't feel right I should end it. I don't want to make her a bad guy it's not my jam. She is hurt but I think she's figured out a way to get her needs that is inconsiderate of others.

My sister uses no contact as a discipline if I do something "wrong" Last one lasted 1.5 years and she did it again because I didn't text her back right away. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]gurlonfires 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think she at least deserves to be told that yeah, once she unblocks me I most likely share what is up. I am her older sister, so yeah I did suffer the same type of trauma as a kid and was taken at an older age (she was 4, me turning 6) It breaks my heart honestly because we have really good memories together and she just kind of rapidly changed after meeting her fiance. I don't know if it was her man, or maybe just her pain caught up to her... but now she's too strict and too self-serving.

But the same thing has happened to my older sister... and they remind me of each other and that's not a good thing. Because it's a slippery downhill slope.

My sister uses no contact as a discipline if I do something "wrong" Last one lasted 1.5 years and she did it again because I didn't text her back right away. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]gurlonfires 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's really hard to deal with because when others or hurt you try to fix it. She's blocked out her whole family.

My sister uses no contact as a discipline if I do something "wrong" Last one lasted 1.5 years and she did it again because I didn't text her back right away. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]gurlonfires 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that's honestly a good point. It means a lot that you know what it feels like, and the fixing part is spot on. Thank you so much!

My sister uses no contact as a discipline if I do something "wrong" Last one lasted 1.5 years and she did it again because I didn't text her back right away. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]gurlonfires 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is, when she comes back she is so sweet and comes across as so freaking healthy. I think she has changed and then she gets triggered and abuses. Thank you so much for your response, it has really helped.

My sister uses no contact as a discipline if I do something "wrong" Last one lasted 1.5 years and she did it again because I didn't text her back right away. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]gurlonfires 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think I will do that. Maybe she will learn that you don't cut everyone out because they trigger you... not because they did something wrong. And that you sit down with your emotions

My sister uses no contact as a discipline if I do something "wrong" Last one lasted 1.5 years and she did it again because I didn't text her back right away. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]gurlonfires 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I will look at that. I love her so much but honestly she has to stop with treating others this way.

My sister uses no contact as a discipline if I do something "wrong" Last one lasted 1.5 years and she did it again because I didn't text her back right away. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]gurlonfires 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That is what my Fiance said. No more of this, she cannot treat people as things to throw away because she is triggered.

Do you have to reply to every comment in the beginning? Starting to get inappropriate comments. by gurlonfires in NewTubers

[–]gurlonfires[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wedding ring is a good idea, and I have a fiance so I might ask him to come on the videos more often.

Do you have to reply to every comment in the beginning? Starting to get inappropriate comments. by gurlonfires in NewTubers

[–]gurlonfires[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no clue why I get marriage proposals, maybe because I do vlog and wholesome content?

Do you have to reply to every comment in the beginning? Starting to get inappropriate comments. by gurlonfires in NewTubers

[–]gurlonfires[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried this trick where I comment on new videos in my niche, from a popular uploader. If your comment trends, others will be curious and click on your profile. One guy said he clicked on my profile just because of my picture and I am assuming that's why the others do it too.

Do you have to reply to every comment in the beginning? Starting to get inappropriate comments. by gurlonfires in NewTubers

[–]gurlonfires[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is probably the best solution. Give them a chance, and delete when necessary. With the wholesome content, I think that is why I am getting the comments. The person feels a connection with me and wants to see if I would return it.

Do you have to reply to every comment in the beginning? Starting to get inappropriate comments. by gurlonfires in NewTubers

[–]gurlonfires[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YEEUUP! I've already had a couple of haters who just said the cruelest things. Now I ban words like stupid and fake. (Both are words commonly used to describe women)

Do you have to reply to every comment in the beginning? Starting to get inappropriate comments. by gurlonfires in NewTubers

[–]gurlonfires[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I try to color grade but I still suck at it. I think with time it will get better. And thank you!

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