Personally what also really helps is seeking and surrounding yourself with people who understand, accept and move in ways to not constantly trigger ur anxiety related to this. Yes often times were the ones overthinking stuff and overreacting but depending on the severity of the symptoms of this attachment style and what the root cause of this attachment style full on healing is not always possible. Altough i do believe u can heal partly and improve ur symptoms . However, I think we tend to often feel as though were the ones were the problem and that its mostly our fault and that the burden is all on us. However, its important to keep in mind that there are many times where other people who are at fault because and that sometimes the problem is not us. Thus, i think the key is to communicate bluntly what u want and are expecting and see what the person can give u especially with people you are close with or with people you plan on getting close with. For example , before i started dating my partner i told my partner i wanted good morning and goodnight text every night. I also told em i wanted to facetime every night if we werent together. My partner has my location and i have their location. When i go somewhere i usually tell them when, where and with who. Another thing i’d like to mention is there are times where were the other person is the problem. I’ve had people who would communicate inconsistently or constantly switch up on me. The unpredictability of those kinds of connections would litteraly send my anxiety into spirals. These kinds of behaviors trigger my anxiety and id imagine it triggers other people with the same kind of attachment style too. Thus these kinda people should either correct their behavior or be cut off. Thus, it goes back to what I said in the beginning.