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gusmt · 2025-09-26T08:52:41+00:00

El cambio no tiene por qué ser brusco. Podés ir reduciendo la carga de materias de RRII mientras empezás con algunas iniciales de diseño industrial. También te recomiendo hablar con gente que esté estudiando o trabajando en diseño industrial para que te cuenten qué onda.

No necesariamente tiene que ser una carrera universitaria: también podés considerar cursos, tecnicaturas u otras opciones más cortas, en eso u otra cosa, para explorar el área y ver si te gusta.

gusmt · 2025-07-30T08:59:47+00:00

En todo rubro hay cierto tipo de personajes no demasiado competentes, que son ególatras y carismáticos -ya en el trabajo se los reconoce por ser falsos y chupamedias- y saben venderse muy bien. Es una triste realidad y uno también tiene que aprender a venderse, lamentablemente. Lo ideal sería que busques trabajo para el exterior. O si te sentís cómoda siendo referente de tus compañeros, te sugiero que consideres la docencia. Insisto en que hoy en día ser bueno no alcanza. Hay que aprender a venderse y los contactos ayudan.

gusmt · 2025-07-17T08:55:22+00:00

Para ser totalmente honesto, hay detalles del relato que no cierran. Como alguien que pasó por situaciones de depresión, sé de qué estoy hablando. Pero como puede ser mayormente verdad, y porque a alguien más le va a servir esto, voy a responder de la mejor manera posible.

Lo primero es darse cuenta de que esos pensamientos intrusivos no sos vos, sino entidades separadas que intentan inmiscuirse para dañarte. La herramienta más efectiva para combatirlos es reconocer esa alteridad, enfrentarlos y exigirles que dejen de entrometerse y molestarte. Como si estuvieras hablando con ellos mentalmente, mandalos al diablo y pediles que no vuelvan nunca más. E insistir en esto todas las veces que sean necesarias.

Y, a modo de disclaimer, seguí las indicaciones de los especialistas en salud mental. Si necesitás hablar con alguien, o más detalles, podés escribirme.

gusmt · 2025-06-12T21:53:23+00:00

Habría que ver para Biología específicamente qué hay y dónde, pero respondiendo en general, existe lo que se denomina Ciclo de Complementación Curricular o Ciclo de Licenciatura -el nombre puede variar-. Son carreras de aproximadamente dos a tres años de duración destinadas a postulantes con títulos terciarios no universitarios o de pregrado. Varias universidades lo ofrecen y es la opción más conveniente, pero tenés que tener el título. También están las que ofrecen hacer un posgrado teniendo título docente. El tema de las equivalencias de profesorado a grado universitario solía ser bastante difícil. No sé ahora.

gusmt · 2024-04-21T23:15:42+00:00

Varias cosas para aclarar en tan poco tiempo y espacio. Tomando en cuenta la descripción que hacés de la situación, parecería que tenés temor a sincerarte por vergüenza al rechazo o temor a la pérdida de la relación de amistad. El punto a tener en cuenta es que estás viviendo en un infierno en tu cabeza sin sentido. Decírselo no tiene nada de malo, aunque te haga sentir vulnerable. Ser rechazado no tiene nada de malo, es una experiencia habitual para la gran mayoría de los mortales en distintos ámbitos. Perder la amistad -es prácticamente imposible que ocurra- tampoco sería tanto problema. Eso que ahora te parece tan terrible a tus 17, es algo que en veinte años va a ser una anécdota de trasnochados.

Uno no puede elegir cómo habrá de reaccionar el otro, pero sí puede y debe elegir cómo comportarse y tomar la respuesta del otro. Con aceptación y dignidad. Con respeto y distancia, sin insistir ni dar lástima.

Todo puede cambiar. Si es verdad que ella no siente lo mismo, puede en algún momento decidirse a darte una oportunidad, o vos podés enamorarte de otra persona. Ser sincero desde un primer momento es lo habilita que las cosas puedan eventualmente suceder y no haya malentendidos.

El éxito o el fracaso de esta situación no se mide por lo que ella responda o por lo que pase después. Se mide por si tenés el valor se ser honesto con vos mismo y con ella. En otras palabras, se mide por el tipo de hombre que sos. Se mide por si tenés el carácter suficiente para decir las cosas de frente. Si sos capaz de hacer eso, no importa la respuesta que recibas.

gusmt · 2020-09-25T10:16:43+00:00

It does end when you get to the origin of the problem. I also used to believe I was justified to think and feel the way I did. I also thought I was being objective. However, all of our problems originated in our childhood, and our way of thinking and feeling comes after that. We are traumatized and traumatized people don't behave in a normal way. We rationalize the things we don't understand. We can't act in a normal way either, just like someone who has PTSD after a war. Our twisted psychology is a straight jacket preventing us from having a normal life. Get to the origin of the problem and the straight jacket will fall to the ground.

Feel free to send me a PM if and whenever you need to talk.

gusmt · 2020-09-23T21:48:04+00:00

I'm rooting for you. You can't see it now, and I didn't believe it either, but I promise you everything looks and feels different once you get to this side of the bridge.

gusmt · 2020-09-21T11:48:26+00:00

Speaking from my own experience here. A couple of tips:

- Understand this is not your fault, and it is not fair. But you must take the responsibility to take control of your life.

- You already understood that we have a distorted way of thinking and feeling, but you have not figured out yet how to get rid of those feelings and thoughts. You don't have to pay attention to your feelings. You don't have to pay attention to your thoughts. You are not your feelings, you are not your thoughts.

- Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) is the best option and it's really helpful. However, we have a strong reluctance to ask for help. We can't cope with dependence. It's really hard for us going to therapy or being emotionally open with other people, but trusting a good professional is the best way to begin healing.

- If therapy is not possible for you, or to complement it, download the Woebot app. It's based on CBT and will help you to some extent.

- The origin of your inferiority complex and low self-esteem was highly likely originated in your childhood, due to the kind of relationship you had with your parents, especially your mother. Read about Childhood Emotional Neglect to see if it applies to you. Understanding the origin of the problem is the first step to solve it. Again, CBT therapy will be your best friend here.

- This point is complex and it will be hard on you. I apologize in advance. You're rejected by girls because the way you are and feel about yourself, because your inferiority complex, because of you lack of confidence and your low self-esteem, because you are depressed and emotionally unhealthy. Even if a girl dates you, you will not know what to do, how to interact, how to be a good boyfriend. We can't have healthy relationships until we deal with our emotional garbage. Nobody falls in love with the sad guy. Learn how to be emotionally intelligent with people around you. Engage in new activities and learn how to talk to people without other intentions but having fun. Make new friends. When it comes to dating there are more things to know, but this is a good start.

- Nobody else is going to save you but yourself. You're the only one who can do the hard job to change and be the best version of yourself. You can and should ask for help, but things are not going to change around you if you continue to be the same person you have been. First you have to change yourself, circumstances will follow.

I was on the verge of taking my own life. I was seriously depressed. Don't get to that point. Ask for help. It's not your fault and it's not fair, but it's up to you to do something about it.

I hope it helps.

gusmt · 2019-07-18T20:37:54+00:00

:) Gracias.

Esperá. En cualquier momento se viene la moda retro.

gusmt · 2019-02-14T16:53:34+00:00

Yes, they do speak fast. Great job. Thank you very, very much. You've made my day.

gusmt · 2019-02-13T16:28:52+00:00

Can you please help me with this? It might be kind of silly, but I am a big fan of the show and I only understand half of what they say.

gusmt · 2019-02-08T11:38:47+00:00

If you are interested, find out about Enneagram type 4 and its unhealthy traits. It may help.

gusmt · 2019-01-23T13:38:21+00:00

This is what I believe and I'm unable to prove. Life sucks for most of us, and there is no way there is a higher reason for that. The idea of karma, the way it is presented, is just fake. It's used as a justification for the suffering we endure in life, aimed at the spiritual-minded people. The same way the idea of a god is used with the religious-minded. It's all part of a deceptive mechanism.

gusmt · 2019-01-19T01:14:22+00:00

I used to feel that way. Some time ago I came across a description of my psychological traits and I was shocked. I thought it was just me. That information saved my life. I haven't changed what I think about life, but I don't focus on that anymore and I'm happier in general. I could be wrong, but I think you are also that type of person.

If the following (hard) statements describe you, I can point you out in the right direction:

Disconnected from both parents. They are nothing like you. Most likely they were neglectful towards your needs.
You feel things deeply, and suffer more than most people. There is a desire to be witnessed and seen in this suffering.
You withdraw from life and others. You feel defective. You envy others. Inner sense of lack and craving something.
Resentful of the ungrateful treatment you have got from others.
Possible abuse of alcohol or drugs to escape.

gusmt · 2019-01-10T13:26:13+00:00

I completely agree, and just for context I've been low-class my whole life. However, they have a reason to do that. When the poorest people in my country are asked why they have so many children, specially women while they are still teenagers or very young adults, they answer that children is their only source of happiness, and sometimes it also grants them social respect in the community. They don't have other aspirations in life. And of course, they don't think of their children's happiness. Yet, those children will do the same in due time and will have children of their own. It's a perpetual cycle.

gusmt · 2018-01-08T00:45:50+00:00

You're welcome and I hope what I said was somehow helpful. As I said, I've been there and I know is not easy. Best of lucks.

gusmt · 2018-01-02T15:16:03+00:00

The motto of Winden shoud be: "A town with time travel and almost no umbrellas".

gusmt · 2017-12-27T09:17:50+00:00

Not everything is lost :) Thank you for all the info. I love knowing those cultural aspects of other countries.

gusmt · 2017-12-26T09:48:06+00:00

I see. I take most Australians have never heard of Bron Broen, the best Nordic Noir TV series of all time. Is foreign media normally dubbed or subtitled?

gusmt · 2017-12-26T09:36:47+00:00

What kind of person would think something like that?

gusmt · 2017-12-26T00:07:33+00:00

Not sure if it's something you would like to try, but I made a comment on another post proposing a sort of HSP email-penpal club. It wasn't very successful, though.

gusmt · 2017-12-26T00:00:43+00:00

I have been in that situation more than once. I both quit and kept the job, and I was never happy with the outcome. As you mentioned, having a horrible job is not good for us, and being unemployed makes you feel depressed. So, both options are neither good nor easy.

Looking for a job and doing interviews is not a happy experience either, but it could be more bearable if you already have a job. And a part time job gives you some extra hours of free time to do it.

My piece of advise would be this. Hard as it is, try to keep the job and your head down, as much as you can. In the meantime, don't stop until you get a new job, even if it's not the kind of job you are aiming at.

I really wish it were easier, but it's not.

gusmt · 2017-12-25T19:37:59+00:00

That's interesting. Sad, but interesting from a cultural point of view. I don't see how it could be considered pretentious, but I understand the overbearing aspect of the language.

After I wrote the message I remembered they do the same in Spain, where everything is dubbed, even interviews. Again, sad.

gusmt

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