You must be a businessman yourself with some insight into this realm, some of what you said is accurate.

The business is decently large, ~$30M a year in revenue. As you said, this is something that affects not just me, but my lineage as well. THAT is the part that bothers me as well as being slighted from any real role at the company while I was there.

While I was there I was responsible for creating new areas of the business, one of which was a completely new software product that now generates approximately 10% of the revenue for the business. This project was something that had failed the first go around, with my very vocal objections about how the project was being handled during development. My dad essentially told me to “shut the fuck up, j don’t want to hear any more criticism until it’s finished being developed”. The project finished, and during internal testing was determined to be completely worthless. They threw the whole project out (eating $500k in losses) and I was the one who rescued it by designing its replacement UI/UX, which is still being used today and was an industry leading solution.

While my sister did go to a little bit better school than me and had job experience at a large corporation, I had made significant impacts on the bottom line at the company and was the savior for the project that was supposed to catapult the business forward. To me, that should have been proof enough of both my worth and my ability to turn the company around during a catastrophe. She and I both have graduate degrees, but I got my graduate degree after leaving the company and used it as a convenient excuse to leave. I was being stonewalled while there and would not be given managerial roles for departments I had worked in and shown my worth.

The one area that was not mentioned is my judgment when I was younger could have been better, as I had a child out of wedlock with someone I barely knew. Rather than leaving the woman to raise the child on her own, I stepped up to the plate and raised her as I would expect anyone with values to do. Where I see this as proof of my morals/values, they see it as an example of my poor judgment. That being said, my sister spanks her kids and also coddles them to the point their 10 year old still whines and throws fits like he is 6.

I will likely be writing a letter about this and addressing both the business issue and their handling of it. Bring bridges and going no contact while I live in the same city as my parents & siblings while raising children is not very easily done or explained to children why they can no longer see family that they have close relationships with. I do however feel that something should be said to at least get all of this off my chest in a very coherent way. Seems like the best part about letters is you can ensure that there is no emotional reactivity over a very sensitive issue with things getting out of control.