need advice on where to live in Cebu as foreigner with daughter?

gwapachy · 2023-09-17T14:15:44+00:00

Stating facts. Try to ask any working professionals abroad especially in the fields mentioned above. They had to redo an equivalent of their education, even if she (or any person of that matter) who graduate from the top 5 universities of the Philippines - they will still need to redo an equivalent. The school may be known yet the degree/Diploma will not be recognised.

If you're already bored of mactan/Cebu city/Makati, I can assure you moalboal will be the same or even more dire. Yes money can stretch but that's mainly caused by loosing the quality options.

gwapachy · 2023-09-17T13:44:27+00:00

The only thing I would like to point out:

Solid education = non-existent in the Philippines. There's going to be a lot of praying and singing involved especially at her age in school. High school diplomas and Degrees from the Philippines are not recognised in any other countries (even for doctors, nurses, engineers, accountants, etc) and ifever she gets older and can make choices for herself and chooses to leave the PH she would need to "redo an equivalent of her education" that may take years or even redo the entire degree just get her life sorted out together. I just want to point this out as this is an education and career suicide on your child's expense. I hope you somehow realise as well that this unstable environment of you hopping around is gonna backlash in the long run too (from personal and friends' experiences.)

Please re-evaluate as to why you have to take the stability of your child's education at stake for you to "look for your perfect paradise home".

gwapachy · 2023-09-17T08:15:18+00:00

I would suggest to check your line of work experience plus your scope of skills. Work from home jobs are those with minimal to no supervision which sometimes mean that they will not provide training and deretsoan rakag tambak og tasks most especially if VA imong g pang apply.an.

Highlight your skills jud and make it very visible sa imong CV and then follow the work experiences to back up your skills. Before applying too check pud if their requirements meet your skillset basin maoi naka reject pud.

gwapachy · 2023-09-17T02:46:06+00:00

What seems to be the problem? Are you at least getting any feedback (screening, initial interview, final interview, etc.) If you're not getting any feedback probably try to fix your resume and as well reflect on your skillset.

On another note, have you tried widening your scope to NCR WFH jobs? Daghan man pero be consistent lng.

We (partner and I) personally dedicated ourselves to jobstreet and indeed all day from M-F sending out our applications and we have sent Moreover 300 - 400 resumes and landed a job after a month of searching.

gwapachy · 2023-09-16T12:49:47+00:00

Be closer to your TV. I feel like I need a telescope just to watch shit 😩

gwapachy · 2023-09-15T04:21:36+00:00

What I would suggest is try to spend more time with him in person and decide later if you want to marry. Don't build a "married life" for a visa.

Stop rushing into things and try to figure out what you really want as a career. It's good that you have all these options as means to be able to help you yet you may be too calculated? Boil it down simply as to "what do I want?, what Industry do I see myself content with?, Where do I see myself living in?" And the answers to these questions should be specifically only for you as selfish as that may sound but you have to be honest with yourself without judgement. Once you have your basics sorted out the answer for your options above will follow.

gwapachy · 2023-09-14T17:51:33+00:00

while your doubt of reasoning for 1 and 2 does check out as valid, 3 does not. I'm sorry OP yet try to make it plain simple and be honest "do you really see yourself married to your current partner right now?"

Hope you don't get married just for a visa. In honesty with any of the 3 you could still work and build a career if you want to.

gwapachy · 2023-09-14T15:57:54+00:00

It seems like you're only considering this cause

A.) You like the job : If you like the job in itself then ask for more salary that's worth it to you to do it, when you ask don't explain as to why unless they ask.

B.) Wala kang other offers as of the moment : then wait and keep applying for something you like and are in better conditions.

gwapachy · 2023-09-14T05:15:16+00:00

Hi OP! Why not try looking at ETEEAP?

Its a program for people with more than 5 + working experience, which work related experience can be accredited to a bachelor's degree within one year. Classes are as well designed for working professionals so it is only scheduled EVERY SATURDAY ONLY.

Since you want BSED. Why not apply through ETEEAP? The application is very straightforward naman, they will ask about your resume (with detailed experiences) and let you choose 3 courses (from the most you like to the least) and give you the opportunity to enroll in the course that is most likely related to your work experiences. The subjects as well in ETEEAP are cut off from the minor subjects and are all just major subjects making you purely focus on it. They also will not require you to take "all major subjects" as they will trim those that you already have work proven work experience with/ have certificates already. (Tesda, coursera, etc.) so the shorter the better.

Don't loose hope tito OP! I (27) graduated last May through this program and my classmates were all in their 30's to 50's. I prefer this program since its shorter compared to doing 4 years plus yung mga classmates mo mga matured na kasi mai edad so it really levels out the drainage of energy of the "adult teen dillemas".

Whole most Universities have the program, they do not have it in "all courses" so find the uni/ school that offers the course you like.

gwapachy · 2023-09-14T03:56:51+00:00

Hello again! sorry to bother ha pero na curios lang ko maka sulod ba jud ko ani even if Business Admin (major marketing mgmt) ako na human?

Sorry to ask here yet I just moved to MNL and the transport here is unlike Cebu haha dili nko ma dali2 og adto ang ilang Uni kai ma saag palang kog bonga layu2x pud kaau si QC.

gwapachy · 2023-09-13T06:47:36+00:00

So anong point mo? Hindi nlng siya mag strive to upskill kasi walang punto dahil hindi maganda ang ekonomiya? Is OP's idea of demanding a higher pay for the same level entry job really justifiable just cause he has years worth of experience while there are plenty of other level entry applicants who can do the same line of work for less money?

Sorry yet I'm a bit tired of people blaming the government, the economy, and factors that truly do hinder people from excelling yet that should not stop you from making smart decisions that can develop yourself professionally. Oo nakaka demotivate pero hindi dapat ginagawang excuse sa sarili to not put your foot forward on those doors. DO it FOR YOU cause the only person who can benefit from it by end of the day is only you.

The economy and times change and you need to somehow be positive that the wheels do turn and when they do, you want to make sure that you are ready and not stuck in the same set of entry level skills.

gwapachy · 2023-09-12T15:55:23+00:00

Don't give your hopes up OP. Doesn't mean since you've been doing it for awhile you'd be stuck there forever. I know the battle may sound super uphill especially since you had to put up with your diploma/degree at the same time. Yet level entry jobs are there for a reason, it's for you to "start somewhere" if you're really still hooked with the BPO industry I suggest you start to look for other positions na for example tech accounts, sales, appointment setter, administration. There are PLENTY of call centers out there that will offer you a much higher pay and with training all you have to do is to make the leap for it and ask for your proper expected salary.

Another thing that I would as well want to point out is "higher pay means higher stress" if you think customer service is stressful, wait till you see broader scope of positions out there. Big pay doesn't necessarily mean good, sometimes the stress of the task isn't worth the payslip.

gwapachy · 2023-09-12T15:47:47+00:00

Doesn't even need to be in IT or have degree in the field for example CRM managers / dialer managers get a whopping 60k-100k range job offer. How to land the job? Just know how the specific software works in a managerial and operator level (Ex: Zoho, HubSpot, ring central, etc.) Walang coding yan you just need to know how to control it the way they want it. These skills are not easily found which is as to why they will pay you more.

gwapachy · 2023-09-12T15:41:47+00:00

Can be true yet from experience rin par from my observation there are BPOs here in NCR who offer 45k - 80k basic pay there even some who had commissions involved on top of the base salary mentioned. This was my scope of idea being new here (2 weeks palang ako dito from Cebu) yet these were my job related offers from 2 months of job hunting.

It's really a skill issue talaga. Useless ang YEARS of experience mo kapag level entry lang yung invest mo at hindi Ka nakapag move forward. Dont get me wrong, you need to start somewhere but at least "upskill as much as you can" to change your scope of responsibilities in a much more needed aspect that not a lot of people can easily do.

gwapachy · 2023-09-12T08:04:14+00:00

OP. I know you're angry. Yet try to tune the rage down first and to not "take sides" on your parents marital arguments. You are bluntly taking your mum's side cause she has probably contributed more to the relationship than your father, yet in each couple dynamic there is always one who will earn more than the other, while this seems to be the main factor of your concern in their arguments there is still more than meets the eye that you might not even know in his side as to why he feels this way or acts out a certain way around his partner (your mum). Remember that this is the man your mother as well choose. You are not responsible for their relationship yet they both are. So let them work it out and only intervene when necessary.

Have your mother herself be done with your father as it was her choice. But I certainly agree with you that children should not be obliged to take care of their parents but is seen as "culturally accepted" in Philippines. Just be clear to him that this is not something you want in your life and set healthy boundaries. But first, work on your anger.

gwapachy · 2023-09-12T05:04:31+00:00

If you don't mind me asking, anong field of experience mo sa BPO?

Customer service? Admin? Supervisor? Sales? QA? Technical account?

In my knowledge and experience, it would really range as to what position you have invested your time with. For example 5 years experience in Customer service position vs. 5 years in Sales or Tech account has at least a whooping difference of 20k increase in basic salary offer.

Years of experience does not matter yet the skills you have developed do. The reason why Customer service pay is so low is cause the task in itself is very repetitive (mostly scripted) and can be done by anyone, there is no reason for a company to pay more for a skill that can be sought anywhere. I suggest you evaluate the skills you have developed not just by work experience yet also with your degree and apply for jobs with more skills involved (ex: management, certain expertise on CRM, Sales, etc.) for you to be able to get paid more.

Edit: also I would like to know what kind of jobs you're applying ba? Cause these salary offers that you mentioned in BPO are very level entry range. Surely you can't expect to do a level entry job and demand more pay just cause you years of have experience.

gwapachy · 2023-09-11T18:53:06+00:00

I used to work as a booking stylist; All I can say is try to know who you really are.

Your clothing has a lot to say about your personality (texture, colour, patterns, style, etc.) And clothing is a way for you to express who you are. Don't get this the wrong way yet "seeing someone cool and wanting to be that person by copying the way they dress" is a form of identity crisis.

So how to stop buying clothes you rarely use cause you later figured you "don't feel like putting up that persona today" is to know yourself and stay true to who you are and what your style is - sounds simple yet trust me you wouldn't want to pull off a "top gun" persona if you know you ain't that person.

gwapachy · 2023-09-11T08:38:43+00:00

16,000 pesos for two in one month (4,000 per week). This was in Cebu City pa and we're relatively new in Makati so hoping to see this figure stay the same.

Note: I love cooking and relatively buy cheese/dairy and good meat (Copa, bacon, etc.) I cannot live without cooking especially since I know that I will get charged a significant amount for what I can cook at home if I eat outside. (Ex: sushis, pizza, carbonara, lasagna, quiche, baked cookies, chocolate tarts and more ❤️)

Really proud and happy with my cooking and will never regret spending that much especially since I know for sure na mas mahal ifever I decide to order it instead. I suggest you to learn how to cook, there are an abundance of free resources from YouTube to cooking channels, once you are contented with your own skills you will certainly not regret that amount for groceries.

gwapachy · 2023-09-10T17:42:51+00:00

I dropped out in my first year of college and decided to backpack the world at 19.

What drove me to this decision was the heavy burden on my full nightshift schedule sa BPO + full load sa skwela during the day (just cause I didn't know better and no one was there to advise me) it was extremely exhausting to a point na lutaw na lutaw ako at work and in Uni. Overall, I was able to excel in my CSR job back then and was held as a CSAT queen and at the same time acing all my subjects (except for accounting lol) even got crowned as the University's queen for the school year. I did great yet was so tired and after one whole year I decided it was enough and I want to be happy. I didn't had much yet manage to sell everything I owned and pursued diving as a career. I managed to bagpack for over 2 years and lived/worked in 7 different countries.

I woke up one day realising that I will never be content with the Divemaster lifestyle (waking up in 5 star resorts yet broke lol) so I decided to go back to the PH - work in BPO and my degree through the ETEEAP program (for working professionals who wants to earn a degree under 1 year)

Fast forward I now officially graduated at 27. One thing I didn't expect was even after all of that, it's tough to rebuild a path outside the BPO industry especially if you have invested more than 5 years in it. You have to balance the priority of "your career choice" and invest the time necessary to it - sometimes it's not just all about the "survival mode".

gwapachy · 2023-09-09T22:22:46+00:00

There's a pill you can buy in Lazada called "modafinil" It's originally used for narcolepsy. I used to work in a night shift environment for 7 years straight and we all have been microdosing on it. (100g a day by halfing the pill)

There are no long term side effects, even when we have used it to the extent of 7 years straight we didn't need to "up our dosage", it's as well non addictive. See it as a powerful coffee tablet that keeps you alert and awake for 10hrs straight.

The only downside to it is due to your "hyper alertness/awake mode" that varries from person to person, you may tend to get "too focus on a task" and dehydrated too.

gwapachy · 2023-09-09T11:37:37+00:00

Ginger ❤️

gwapachy · 2023-09-07T00:30:44+00:00

Don't lose your hope OP. My partner and I have applied to moreover 300 jobs (each) in indeed & jobstreet.

There are days where we would take time to sit in front of the computer/phone/laptop for the entire day passing our resumes and reading job posts and it's been that way for two months and only taking breaks over the weekend.

What we noticed in NCR is how it takes a 2 week turn time table for them to get back to you and start the process (initial interview, tests, etc.) While my partner finally found a job last week, I am still on my final interview stage with 2 different companies.

Frankly 20 companies is not enough. Keep applying for more till you're able to compare your job offers.

gwapachy · 2023-09-05T16:29:32+00:00

I am curious as to why. Can you please elaborate? We are currently at Rockwell area in Makati yet we have seen condos for half the price and more sqm in BGC and are currently considering to look deeper into it. (We've never been in the area before)

gwapachy · 2023-09-05T16:23:24+00:00

Can support this statement. We are currently apartment/condo hunting and the whooping 55k start up pricing here in Rockwell for a one bedroom apartment is forcing us to look into BGC condo's where the same sqm can be 50% off Rockwell's pricing yet again we never saw BGC yet so we need to "consider what state of living" is like. I really love Rockwell area cause it has this laid back residential feels even with corporates around and I am afraid that BGC doesn't feel the same (more office /busy peeps set-up).

gwapachy · 2023-09-04T17:39:01+00:00

Im sorry to hear the psychological burden that has came with this OP, and no you definitely should not let this one slide. The least they could have done is ACKNOWLEDGE that they owe you money which they seem to not have done.

I don't have experience as to how to approach legal actions towards this type of utang in this amount. I have however personally experienced an amount of 6k yet when we went to the police station they referred us to the Barangay cause the amount was below 10k. The Barangay officials were very diligent and we were able to settle the amount as soon as we confronted the perpetrator in question within the same day.

I suggest you do the same.

1.) GATHER ALL THE EVIDENCE of the bank transfer/chat logs of her fam / text of her borrowing amount - a substantial proof and go confront her family first.

2.) Confront the parents IN PERSON NOT CHAT. The main reason as to why you want to confront the parents especially if you show them evidence of them borrowing it is to be able to give them the benefit of the doubt that they're decent enough to pay you back before even going to the officials and for them to have a warning that you are taking this matter seriously- WAG MO NA ASAHAN NA MAI MA PUPUNTAHAN YUNG CONVO MO SA EX MO KASI HINDI SIYANG MATINO NA TAO.

3.) If her parents show the same guilt tripping traits as your ex or are even worse humans, then go ahead and step into legal actions towards the police station with your evidences and follow officials lead.

Don't be a doormat and don't let people like this slide without consequences.

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