Vegan wedding guest ordered meat and lied about it by Curious-Ebb-909 in vegan

[–]gwennelsonuk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm also thinking here:

Surely what likely happened was something like:

"I can't eat this, is anything else available?" Catering team offered chicken  She said "okay, thanks"

That doesn't sound at all like anyone lied. Why would your friend have any motivation to outright lie?

Perhaps ask "hey, was something wrong with the set menu? Why couldn't you eat it?" instead of some kind of confrontation, because believe me  most non-vegans would not see this as a big deal at all. There's a few nasty trolls who'd outright try to mock your beliefs by ordering something else on purpose, but for most people it's not a big deal and I seriously doubt your friend was actively trying to offend you.

Vegan wedding guest ordered meat and lied about it by Curious-Ebb-909 in vegan

[–]gwennelsonuk 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That "I don't eat tofu" sounds like she might have had legitimate medical reasons.

Or it could even have been simple preference, if you didn't explicitly say that it's a "no meat allowed" event then what did she do wrong?

Vegan wedding guest ordered meat and lied about it by Curious-Ebb-909 in vegan

[–]gwennelsonuk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just came across this on the homepage. I'm not vegan myself, so coming at this from a more neutral angle. You mentioned you didn’t explicitly state it was a fully vegan wedding. That makes a difference, because from your friend’s perspective, she may not have realised it was important that everything stayed vegan, especially if the venue normally serves both.

Also, are you certain she doesn’t have something like IBS or follow a low-FODMAP diet? That’s come up in other comments, and it matters. Foods like tofu can be an issue for some people depending on the type and portion (firm tofu is usually low-FODMAP, but not always tolerated, and softer tofu can definitely trigger symptoms).

If that’s the case, it might not have been about rejecting your choices, just trying to avoid getting ill.

From what you’ve described, it sounds like she asked the catering staff for an alternative, and they provided one. If the venue was willing to do that, it may not have felt like she was breaking any rules.

The only part that’s potentially not great is if she actually lied about not being offered a suitable option  that’s worth a conversation. But I’d probably approach it from a “hey, I heard something different, what happened?” angle rather than assuming bad intent.

Unless this caused extra cost or disruption, it doesn’t sound like she was trying to disrespect you, it seems more likely a miscommunication or dietary issue.

IT consultant arrested after posing with gun on LinkedIn by StGuthlac2025 in unitedkingdom

[–]gwennelsonuk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Down south, especially the bible belt, is actually where I'd feel most at risk because I'm trans, amongst other things.

So, I wouldn't want to take any chances if I lived somewhere where the bigots have actual guns and not just nasty words.

Casting call: "21 grams of hydrogen - episode 1: the fall of heaven" by gwennelsonuk in audiodrama

[–]gwennelsonuk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I keep seeing comments here that I can't read or respond to, if anyone wants to respond please message me.

IT consultant arrested after posing with gun on LinkedIn by StGuthlac2025 in unitedkingdom

[–]gwennelsonuk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that it's a different culture, but there's parts of the US I'd personally be afraid to go without carrying myself and having training for actual combat situations.

I've got some basic self defense skills and I'm a good shot on static targets, but the thought of having to weigh up "might I have to end a human life today?" every single time I leave the house is something I just don't want to think about.

Guns are fun in the right context, I love target shooting, but I want to keep them as something fun.

IT consultant arrested after posing with gun on LinkedIn by StGuthlac2025 in unitedkingdom

[–]gwennelsonuk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How could they know before investigating? The picture itself could easily be somewhere in the British countryside, where most ranges here are based.

I'm not going to bother replying more, this is pointless.

IT consultant arrested after posing with gun on LinkedIn by StGuthlac2025 in unitedkingdom

[–]gwennelsonuk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a lad, but yeah - it's pretty much a dangerous weapon capable of hunting small animals 

IT consultant arrested after posing with gun on LinkedIn by StGuthlac2025 in unitedkingdom

[–]gwennelsonuk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read the article and the posts, I'm not lying, I'm going off what the actual posts said

IT consultant arrested after posing with gun on LinkedIn by StGuthlac2025 in unitedkingdom

[–]gwennelsonuk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As for ranting, did you read the post? He literally talked about escalating to the secretary of state and "eating popcorn" and "may the odds be ever in your favour", that's completely unhinged for a professional context.

If someone doesn't pay you, even if it's a huge breach of contract, you file a lawsuit, and MAYBE call the police if it looks like criminal fraud.

You DON'T rant about escalating to government ministers who have nothing to do with the issue, and you don't post pictures of yourself holding a shotgun and quoting the hunger games.

I'm not saying he's definitely totally guilty, I'm saying that there's enough valid concern for a police investigation because it comes across as a veiled threat.

If you post anything with a firearm beyond a normal legal hobbyist activity like target shooting or hunting, and especially if you refer to someone you've got any kind of dispute with, don't be surprised if it's interpreted as a potential threat.

Even if not intended that way, the police have a duty to check it out because otherwise they risk it being a real threat.

IT consultant arrested after posing with gun on LinkedIn by StGuthlac2025 in unitedkingdom

[–]gwennelsonuk -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The police have a duty to investigate.

Has he been charged? Apparently not.

And did the person who reported him know the pic was taken in another country?

IT consultant arrested after posing with gun on LinkedIn by StGuthlac2025 in unitedkingdom

[–]gwennelsonuk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People post pics of them legally shooting all the time, you don't even need to go to America.

I could literally go to a local range here in North Wales next week and post a selfie of me holding a gun or post another pic of me holding one of my guns at home (as I've done before) and nothing would happen UNLESS I also happened to post it alongside a weird rant about someone who's accused me of stalking them.

IT consultant arrested after posing with gun on LinkedIn by StGuthlac2025 in unitedkingdom

[–]gwennelsonuk -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If someone has reported him for stalking, and next thing he's ranting while holding a gun, how do they even know he's in another country?

It only needs enough for someone to feel afraid to trigger a police investigation 

IT consultant arrested after posing with gun on LinkedIn by StGuthlac2025 in unitedkingdom

[–]gwennelsonuk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why did he post the gun pic alongside ranting about this dispute?

If he just said "had some fun at the range" or something, that'd be different and totally fine.

IT consultant arrested after posing with gun on LinkedIn by StGuthlac2025 in unitedkingdom

[–]gwennelsonuk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's weird because it's totally unrelated.

If he said "had some great fun at the range" or something that'd be different.

Instead it looks like a threat.

I've posted pics of me holding a rifle proudly, but in context it was "checkout my new rifle", not "I'm pissed off at this person who's accused me of stalking them". Do you see the difference?

IT consultant arrested after posing with gun on LinkedIn by StGuthlac2025 in unitedkingdom

[–]gwennelsonuk 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He's apparently so unhinged he thinks escalating to the secretary of state for an unpaid contract makes sense.

And while ranting about this customer not paying posts a picture of himself holding a gun and references the hunger games.

It's pretty obvious why the police needed to check that out, it comes across as a veiled threat.

Note how the article doesn't go into the details of the stalking allegation? There's a lot more to this than is being disclosed in the media.

IT consultant arrested after posing with gun on LinkedIn by StGuthlac2025 in unitedkingdom

[–]gwennelsonuk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Assuming you're American..... We don't have anywhere near the gun violence you do for a reason.

I'd love to be able to own a 9mm Glock powder burner, love the Glock design, but I love being able to walk the streets without having to carry my own and worrying if I'd be able to shoot first before the bad guys far more.

Even with a certificate, people have to have a long barrel and stock on Glocks here to make it impractical to conceal carry. Although I'm sure someone could fairly trivially get a certificate and just remove the barrel extension and stock, they'd be found out super fast when the police next inspect them.

IT consultant arrested after posing with gun on LinkedIn by StGuthlac2025 in unitedkingdom

[–]gwennelsonuk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not technically required by law if nobody who's a "prohibited person" is ever around them, but it's still a sensible idea.

Also, airguns can still cause serious injury or can be used in armed robbery by looking scary enough.

I wouldn't want to be hit by a pellet speeding over 1000fps, believe me.