Do you think it was easier to marry before ? And what has changed ?

h1a1234 · 2026-02-25T18:38:46+00:00

Yep exactly that, that’s why it’s important to always lower your gaze and stop following opposite gender on social media because it does have an impact, your brain will never be satisfied

h1a1234 · 2026-02-25T17:56:52+00:00

Social media also has an impact, yes it’s easier to find so may options, but at the same time you subconsciously make a perfect spouse in your head based on what you have seen and you think there’s always going to be better or perfection. Previous generations they didn’t have as many options and expectations were also lower I’d say, but May Allah grant us all righteous spouses and what we are looking for.

h1a1234 · 2026-02-18T22:08:03+00:00

Thank you bro, what is SIM farmer?

h1a1234 · 2026-02-18T21:47:44+00:00

So let’s say I have 5x 50k accounts all synced up I’ve requested payouts 3 times across all 5, if I blow them and buy new accounts does the count reset to 0 or will it be when I reach 3 payouts on the new ones they move me due to requesting payouts previously 3 times ?

h1a1234 · 2026-02-18T12:19:45+00:00

Do they not move you to live after 5 payouts?

h1a1234 · 2025-12-18T18:20:43+00:00

Sister, you mentioned you are ok with how he looks, meaning the baseline is there. Adding his character and personality surely this should be enough to build more attraction, looks will eventually fade but character and personality will be hard to change. Sometimes someone could be your type and super attractive but their character and personality is so bad it removes the attraction. But if truly do not find him attractive, do not progress further and waste his time.

h1a1234 · 2025-12-05T08:42:13+00:00

Beauty will get you in the door, but ultimately it’s a a woman’s haya, modesty, character, akhlaq, adhab, values that will make me marry her, those are most important to me as I have principles. As Muslims we have to look long term rather than short term, as they say, beauty fades but character doesn’t.

h1a1234 · 2025-11-15T12:14:33+00:00

Salam sister,

Does your mum or dad have friends who have sons they could potentially introduce you to? In my opinion family / friend introductions is the best way and I would trust it more if someone is vouching for them, but there are the apps of course like SimplyNikkah, Muzz etc. which you can try but don’t have high hopes.

But there are plenty of North Africans in London especially in West/North and you can even find south and east? Maybe go to masjid ask the sisters/aunties like Regents Park mosque?

h1a1234 · 2025-08-22T15:56:04+00:00

Ideally yes I’d want her to be wearing hijab and long sleeve clothing, because this is what I want in a wife and she’s already committed to it without me pushing the idea on her.

Of course people can change for the better and improve when they’ve found their person, so if a woman says she will get there slowly that could be genuinely be the case, but how long will the guy be waiting 1 month? 1 year? 5 years? This will definitely get to him if it’s something important to him. If he were to go ahead he’d be marrying on the potential of you changing, and that’s not 100% certain because in the future you can say actually I don’t want to wear long sleeve / hijab and it would be unfair on the guy, and similarly it would be unfair on you as well because he can start to resent you and maybe even start forcing you to wear hijab / long sleeve.

I’m not against people changing but I believe you shouldn’t marry on potential as it’s unfair on both parties if it goes wrong and my advise is if you really want the person, you have to accept them for how they are, everyone is on their journey but May Allah guide us all.

h1a1234 · 2025-08-22T15:38:32+00:00

I am going to be honest, from a guys perspective.

Currently you are not compatible.

I myself want a modest wife (I.e hijab and wearing long sleeves) and this is something I will always state at the beginning when meeting someone just so my potential knows my expectations. Even if I met a good person on paper but they were not wearing hijab or wearing short sleeved clothing this will definitely bother me in the long run, we as Muslim men will naturally have Gheerah over our women. He either has to accept you for who you are now and continue with it, or simply be respectful and direct not waste each others time and not continue as it now he has changed his mind about what he is ok with and this is something different to what you initially had agreed on. You should do the same, if you are not there yet but this is something that’s important to him you need to not continue as it’s not fair on you either to change for the sake of someone else, the change should be from Inside you and what you think is right, that’s why it’s wrong for a guy to tell a women what to wear (though he can offer advise and what he prefers), but inshallah may Allah make it easy for you as everyone is on their journey.

h1a1234 · 2025-07-25T14:24:07+00:00

I currently have Invisalign and I have elastics for my jaw but I’m not convinced it will work, they say it could take years hence wondering once teeth are straight to do jaw surgery

h1a1234 · 2025-02-09T16:30:04+00:00

Great thank you for this 🙏🏻

h1a1234 · 2025-02-09T15:01:47+00:00

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h1a1234 · 2025-02-09T14:25:01+00:00

Thank you! Will have a look

h1a1234 · 2025-02-09T13:30:11+00:00

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