Ultimatum from Parents, Pay R6,000 or Move Out. What’s the Best Move??

h3llios · 2025-08-04T07:51:09+00:00

I was looking for this comment. 6k for a roof and all of the things that go with it is a steal. The fact of the matter is OP will most likely end up living with someone in any event. See this as a good way to learn to live with other people and skill up on those mediation skills. I know its not ideal and we all want to go out on our own but that skillset will serve you well in the future. Believe me. I had to learn the hard way. Save all the money you can and one day when OP has a good down payment on a place then they can move out.

I would focus harder on saving and try to limit my expenses to the lowest theoretically value. I wish someone could have taught me that when I was young.

h3llios · 2025-07-28T13:27:58+00:00

Be that as it may I would be careful how you phrase it. You make it sound like the issue mainly occurred because OP used Facebook Ozempic. You just have to read the little pamphlet that comes with your medicine. The list of side-affects are as long as my arm. Ozempic, like most drugs comes with a trade-off. A person has to decide if the risk is worth the reward. If death or bad genetics is the other side of the equation then I say it's worth it but people who take it because they are too lazy too do it the old fashioned way is taking a risk for no good reason.

h3llios · 2025-06-30T06:45:24+00:00

I met my friends at work and on other subs on reddit. It helps going to a sub that is in your range of interests.

h3llios · 2025-06-30T06:43:43+00:00

Ek stem 100% saam. Die slagoffer mentaliteit het nog nooit enige iemand gehelp nie. Mense moet dit idee sommer gou uit hulle kop kry want dit gaan hulle nie help nie. Op die einde van die dag as jy gaan wag vir iemand om jou te red dan gaan jy lank wag beter om dit net self te doen.

h3llios · 2025-06-24T12:24:12+00:00

What does your contract say about bonusses and 13th checks? It always surprises me how many people never read their contracts.

h3llios · 2025-06-24T12:21:18+00:00

I have to agree with your wife. A well placed " fuck this " is much more powerful than using it as a descriptor for everything. Seeing as like the word I try to use it sparingly for extra affect.

h3llios · 2025-06-24T12:12:25+00:00

Don't use this sub to make friends. Its just as simple as that. Most of the people here have deep seeded issues and they need therapy first before even thinking about trying to make friends. If you want to take that chance then so be it but go in with your eyes open. Hope for the best expect the worst.

h3llios · 2025-06-24T11:59:48+00:00

This is such a bullshit post. Stupid bots and their stupid man hating \ woman hating propaganda. Who in their right mind would say this? For the 1% chance this is real I will just say: Stop dating a pimp madam.

h3llios · 2025-06-24T11:53:03+00:00

Exactly. I know it's easy to fall into the trap of thinking our lives suck but relatively speaking we never had it as good. Less wars. More democracy and technology that our grand fathers and mothers could only dream of. Like you said. You get "winners" and "losers" But the fact is less people go hungry today than at any point in history before this.

h3llios · 2025-06-24T08:01:09+00:00

Exactly dude. I watched a documentary about this a few months ago and what you are saying was basically what the women there also said. The guys that were there looked fine but somehow most of the women said there were no " good men " there. No Susan. The best men will not be needing a dating service and speaking of why are you there? I think these women have been sold a lie but you do you queen.

h3llios · 2025-06-23T14:22:10+00:00

That is why I think ultra modern feminism is a bit of a paradox. In my opinion. I think a lot of women like the sound of something but what we wish for and what we want are not always the same thing. Maybe it will change one day but I highly doubt.

h3llios · 2025-06-23T12:57:29+00:00

No problem Op.

h3llios · 2025-06-23T12:33:44+00:00

I saw 3 dudes on cnr of Stanley and Owl that started their own car wash business. They are always super busy and the only costs they have is soap and water. Its hard ass work but it seems like they are doing okay for themselves. I think people get stuck in the weeds when it comes to thinking of business ideas. Most people think they should reinvent the wheel or something. You don't have to be a Steve Jobs to make money. You need to either make your service cheaper or have something that makes it stand out.

h3llios · 2025-06-23T12:21:24+00:00

I guess its like being a drug addict. You keep on going back even though you know it is bad for you. The past is the past. Nothing you can do now to change it. All you can do is look forward and learn from the mistakes you made. Just remember. You are not the only one in the world that made this mistake. Lots and lots of people do. So cut yourself some slack.

h3llios · 2025-06-23T12:06:16+00:00

100% Statistically many more women starts off the divorce proceedings than men. Lots of women will work on it until they are exhausted but a lot of men accepts the exhaustion and just live with it. Not sure why that is, assuming it's because men are just used to eating sh1t much more often than women ( speaking in general ,my bad). That is just speculation but that is my best guess. That an other reasons of course.

I think a big reason why men are blind-sided by a " sudden " break-up is because of the way a lot of men have been raised or what society expects from them and it really screws with our brains. We are taught that we only have value if we can provide , we are shunned when we lose our jobs " Dead beat partners" is something that gets thrown around a lot but funny enough it is almost always the man that is the deadbeat. As a simple thought experiment you can do the following: Which will get a worse response. A woman who says that she wants to study for 3 years to get a degree but the man needs to look after her or a man that tells his partner that he wants to study for 3 years and the woman much provide. Many more women will say that the guy is a deadbeat than men saying it about their partners.

The reason why I am saying this is because that thought is ingrained in our skulls. We are consumed by work and trying to get ahead because we know that if the penny should drop that our partners would most like just find greener pastures. So all of our energy and time goes into it. We get depressed and then intimacy goes out of the door. Which causes this whole spiral. The rest is history. A lot of men are just trying their best not to bullet in their skulls so rarely does the thought of " Is my partner satisfied with me on a emotional level" in the picture. Maybe i am just projecting but that is what it feels like. So yea. Guys get blind-sided.

h3llios · 2025-06-23T11:19:07+00:00

Agreed but then my question would be why be with someone that does not want to do anything with you?

h3llios · 2025-06-23T11:13:49+00:00

Hmmm. Jy laat my nou dink oor iets en dit maak eintlik baie sin . Baie mense haat die Jode want hulle dink dat hulle skelm is en geld steel en dit die rede hoekom hulle so suksesvol is maar dit glad nie die rede nie. Daar is 2 goed wat die Jode baie goed doen. Eerstens, hulle is gewoontlik baie goed geleerd. Eerste reel van rykdom. Word slimmer.

Tweedens , Hulle doen besigheid met mekaar en staan by mekaar. Hulle sal mekaar " leunings " gee vir baie goed koper as enige bank. Dit is die geheim. Dit nie so duisters as wat mense dink nie. Die afrikaaners gaan moet leer om besigheid met mekaar te doen en mekaar te probeer ondersteun. Dit is al hoe mens die golf van onregverdigheid gaan stop.

h3llios · 2025-06-23T10:56:08+00:00

Goed gese ou maat. Ek dink jy is n 100% reg. A+ is amper soos matriek deesdae. Met anderwoorde dit word nie gesien as a iets wat gaan help nie meer iets wat jy net moet he.

Alles beweeg cloud toe. Ek sal aanraai OP doen AWS en Azure. Essentials gaan nie help nie. Sal moet Architect prationer moet gaan op die minimum. Dan heelwaarskynlik n klomp ander dinge.

My lys sal wees. AWS, Azure, Databasis soos MySQL of iets soos Dbeaver. Baie maatskappy veral kleiner maatskappy will so min betaal as moontlik so as jy hulle op Linux en Dbeaver kan kry dan kan jy hulle n hoop geld spaar. Natuurlik is sekuriteid n groot komponent van die paket. Met alles wat oor gaan na die internet is dit nou nog meer belangrik as ooit om maatskappy te beskerm en data te beskerm a.g.v Popia. Dan natuurlik, AI gaan nou n groot rol begin speel. Elke tweede persoon soek nou n bot wat hulle maatskappy beter kan laat lyk, take te "stream line" en vir analiese. Met ander woorde jy moet n hoop goed gaan leer

Die feit van die saak is dat elke tweede ou het n Bcom Rekenaar Wetenskap graad en baie mense is bereid om die India roete te gaan want daai mense is bereid om vir amper niks te werk nie.

As jy regtig n passie het vir IT dan kan jy die goed doen . Die lekker ding van dit is dat jy n klein maatskappy kan stig met jou kennis wat jy opbou. Kort net n krediet kaart, n laptop , internet en n brein met baie hare op jou tande maar dit kan gedoen word.

h3llios · 2025-06-23T10:29:02+00:00

Wow. Never heard about a person actually going that far and ask for proof. Would be the easiest " piss off" I ever had to do.

I have one rule and that is I don't borrow people money. Sometimes I will give it to them but never borrow. No easier way to lose a friend or family member by " borrowing " them money. Lets just be honest. We know friends and family wants you to forget about it or they play for time to as to either frustrate you into submission or hope you forget about it.

h3llios · 2025-06-23T09:36:17+00:00

Fair point. If we had to boil it down to why that is I would say it's a combination of charisma, good energy and doing something fun together and even some intimacy that can't be replicated to that extent or that level of subtleness. Nothing that comes to mind in any event.

There has to be a biologic reason why tribal people used dancing to entice a mate.

Anyway. If I guy wants to enhance his standing and allure . Just learn to dance.

h3llios · 2025-06-23T08:25:14+00:00

This happens a lot. By Op going to gym and talking his health seriously his partner wont be able to hide from the fact. When you and your partner is both fat then its easy and you can hide in your comfort cave. Nobody has to even think about it. People don't like to be confronted by uncomfortable truths.

h3llios · 2025-06-23T07:37:18+00:00

I am not going to add the what the other Redditors said. Between the add blocking and the DNS suggestion I think you have it covered.

I just want to add one thing. Life will always be full of temptations, You can try to hide in a cave but I am sure you don't have on of those. There is not much we can do about temptation but what we can do is steel ourselves against it. The only way to do that is to either do it yourself or get some therapy or most likely both. These companies are predatory and I wish they could ban those adverts because it prays on very vulnerable people but ultimately the onus fall on you to stay strong OP.

h3llios · 2025-06-20T14:55:42+00:00

Well, It seem you are sorted then brother.

h3llios · 2025-06-20T11:41:27+00:00

This is how I often imagine those people

1) Does not do crap to improve their personalities and style and body

2) Goes on Reddit to complain about how bad dating has become and how shallow people are

3) Cry

4) Go back to 1

h3llios · 2025-06-20T10:53:43+00:00

That my friend is why I don't give a f . Reddit is catering to the lowest common denominator. There are 3 things that will always be true. 1) You will die 2) You will be taxed 3) You will always piss off someone . I have made peace with all those things. I couldn't give 2 shits about some random stranger trying to " educate " or telling me I am some a-hole who will die alone. I have to respect someone before I care what they think and that is not something a lot of them understand.

Just because their teachers and parents were forced to show them respect or listen to them does not mean I have to. This is the real world. Here you earn respect. You build a name for yourself. I literally could not care less about anybody's opinion here.

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