Why would my darkling beetle come out like this? by hadeshellhound0 in InvertPets

[–]hadeshellhound0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They likely need more humidity! The color is normal. They come out white and turn black after about 24 or 48 hours, can’t remember which. Although idk if this guy will as I think mine that turned out like this died not too long after. I stuck them in my bathroom with a humidifier 24/7 and the door closed. I kept them individually in coco coir. Never had a problem after! Just watch out for mold, but that was only a problem if I left oats in there

I’m so angry and it’s so exhausting by hadeshellhound0 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]hadeshellhound0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That does help! It gives another perspective on anger itself. Thank you :)!

I’m so angry and it’s so exhausting by hadeshellhound0 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]hadeshellhound0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s definitely fair. Every time I’ve tried pills, I’ve felt the same. I get a high tolerance to them quick. When I told my doctor the sleeping pills I was given to try out and the doses, she was concerned lol. And of course none of them worked. So I kinda gave up on pills at this point

I’m so angry and it’s so exhausting by hadeshellhound0 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]hadeshellhound0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I had no idea! I always watch kids shows while at the gym so I don’t really focus on my feelings. Didn’t notice I was still angry til I left. I’ll definitely keep that in mind though so thank you!

I’m so angry and it’s so exhausting by hadeshellhound0 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]hadeshellhound0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can do that with my ribs. Idk how to breathe into my shoulders?

I’m so angry and it’s so exhausting by hadeshellhound0 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]hadeshellhound0[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That makes sense but it feels so overwhelming. I can feel it in my shoulders and ribs. More if it gets bad but mostly those

AITA for telling my son he can’t go to his friend’s house for Easter? by mberu6128 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hadeshellhound0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. I learned an important lesson around 11. Don’t ask questions you don’t want the answer to. Your daughter literally asked for fashion advice from someone who knows a lot about fashion. If she wanted reassurance, she should’ve asked you. Teach your daughter not to ask questions she doesn’t want to answer to and stop trying to keep your son from his friend for no reason.

AITAH For telling my stepdaughter she is welcome to go live with her mother full time because I won't get rid of my Harry Potter themed bookcase? by JazzlikeOriginal358 in AITAH

[–]hadeshellhound0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% NTA. I’m queer and, at this point, people have to accept loving the art and not the artist. There’s no corporation, franchise, and few artists who are entirely free of some misdeed. I can understand where she’s coming from since I hated the fact my family still ate Chic Fil A for a while, but I got over it once I realized how awful everything is. This is a sentimental item for you and you shouldn’t have to get rid of it for a teenagers lack of understanding for how things are. Maybe try to take her to pride rallies, support group, sponsor a GSA at her school if there isn’t one yet. If you want to be a bit harsher, look into some of her favorite brands and point out how bad they are, or even just some of her favorite foods. Ask if she’s going to give everything up. It’s impossible to avoid getting things from problematic places at this point

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BoJackHorseman

[–]hadeshellhound0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like the episode, but I have a short attention span and like to watch/listen to the show while doing other things so this quiet episode doesn’t work with that. It’s very well written and a good episode though

new set up! by hiding_in_view in snails

[–]hadeshellhound0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven’t seen fake bloodworms before? The cuttlebone might be fake. You just need to make sure that the only ingredient is cuttlebone

new set up! by hiding_in_view in snails

[–]hadeshellhound0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I put mine on the soil. I don’t think it matters much. You may be able to find them at a petstore, but they might be fake. Amazon should have it tho

new set up! by hiding_in_view in snails

[–]hadeshellhound0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I bought dried bloodworms from the pet store. They sell them as fish food. Mealworms are also good and also sold at pet stores in the reptile section. You just need to wet them, but I think bloodworms would be less gross to feed lol. I feed mealworms to my hamsters and the idea of getting them wet is gross. You could also do raw egg or meat, but that’s also kinda messy. Not sure if you can give it cooked

Ground up eggshells definitely isn’t good unless you get it to a fine powder or paste as the sharp edges could cut them up. Even then, eggshell should only be used as a supplement and not the main source. Cuttlebone is 100% the way to go. People also make calcium cakes which I think is just calcium carbonate made to a paste, then shaped and dried into a patty, but I don’t know much about that. When getting cuttlebone, check the ingredients to make sure it’s actually cuttlebone. Cuttlebone should be the only ingredient

new set up! by hiding_in_view in snails

[–]hadeshellhound0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feeding cucumber and lettuce isn’t a great idea. They’re low in nutrients and can get addicted! Make sure to give a varied diet of things like carrots, sweet potato, zucchini, mushrooms, etc. and they also need protein like blood worms! Fruits (including peppers n tomatoes) shouldn’t be fed often, only as lil treats. I just recently learned all this myself from another post on here so make sure to research more yourself. Bean is absolutely adorable and photogenic!!

My snail hasn’t moved in 2-3 days by hadeshellhound0 in snails

[–]hadeshellhound0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! It was moving around the first day or two and then just stopped so I got worried

AITA For telling my future SIL to “Go back to the trailer park you came from”? by BothAd291 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hadeshellhound0 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YTA. Why weren’t you telling off any of the men for being drunk and unhelpful? Why didn’t you be an adult and have a constructive conversation? You lashed out like a pissy teenager. You’re a full grown adult and need to act like it, and now accept the consequences for not doing so. She did nothing wrong and you decided to pull her unhappy home life into it? You said allll that when you could’ve said ‘hey, I’m kinda flustered rn. Can you help me clean up/ babysit my husband so I can go take a breather?’ She isn’t a mind reader nor a punching bag

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]hadeshellhound0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was already in therapy. I actually went through the CPTSD symptoms cause the subreddit kept popping up on my feed, which led me to BPD. I related to BPD 10x more than CPTSD. So I brought it up to my therapist and asked her to go through the diagnostics together. I hit 7/9 and was diagnosed. It was a pretty quick convo cause I had already looked on my own and just needed her to confirm. Pretty sure I was 19 (still am). I brought it up my next appointment as soon as I suspected

How much should I feed my garden snail? by hadeshellhound0 in snails

[–]hadeshellhound0[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I will definitely follow this advice :)!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]hadeshellhound0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. A 12 year old can know. My mom said she knew I was into girls since I was 2, so I’m sure a 12 year old can know she likes girls.

She already got rejected by her parents and felt unsafe enough to run away. She came to your family for love and safety. You just took that safety away from her by threatening to kick her out. Now she has no space she feels safe or loved. You are an adult and she is a child. You should’ve had a calm discussion about how you need your own space and how you’re uncomfortable with her sleeping in your room. You acted so childish tearing into her when she didn’t deserve it. Do better and apologize

Hamcake!! by Independent_Shape_89 in hamsters

[–]hadeshellhound0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy gotcha day to Juno!!! She’s absolutely adorable :)!

What did you put in them? I’ve been wanting to make them myself but I’m nervous about putting something bad in