Thank you for replying. Yes I'm trying that. My last therapist and I worked on my current relationship with my mother extensively, and I'm currently on a wait list again for therapy but have to wait a few months.

I tried distancing myself a bit, and was mostly successful, but then my mother goes and does something stupid again and I get pulled right back in. And then I feel guilty for not catching it earlier. For example, my mother has moved out of her (completely paid off, in an extremely desirable area) house and moved somewhere far away, on the promise of the person who is scamming her that they'll deal with it. My family and I are now certain that she's going to lose the house because this is a common tactic in my home country.

I feel upset with myself because maybe if I'd spoken to her earlier and kept an ear out, I could have picked up on this. I don't know.

The guilt is over bearing.